Episode Transcript
[00:00:13] Speaker A: All right, we're gonna play a game.
[00:00:14] Speaker B: Okay, let's play a game. Let's do it.
[00:00:16] Speaker A: It's called Gentle Parenting, the musical. Okay, first of all, how do you feel about gentle parenting?
[00:00:22] Speaker B: I do.
[00:00:23] Speaker C: You do gentle parenting?
[00:00:24] Speaker B: I don't know. I feel like I am.
Maybe if there's an in between, I'm an in between. In between.
[00:00:31] Speaker A: Like you're not slapping the shit out of your kid?
[00:00:33] Speaker B: No, I'm definitely a pushover. I get in trouble all the time. From my. I see. I'm so blinded by love for my kid. He does no wrong. He's so cute. I can't take it. I hate disability.
[00:00:42] Speaker A: Wait, and you have a nine year old, right?
[00:00:43] Speaker B: Yeah, he's turning nine. Don't say that yet.
[00:00:45] Speaker A: He's eight.
[00:00:46] Speaker B: I still have one more week of eight.
[00:00:47] Speaker A: He's a baby. I told my kids they're still going to be babies even when they're 18.
[00:00:51] Speaker B: Well, some. Some be like, do you have a. I'm like, yeah, I have a little boy. How old am I?
You're expecting me to be like, he's my little boy.
[00:00:58] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:00:59] Speaker A: Ok, so the game is you have to gentle parent chaotic situations, but you have to do it singing and smiling. So be Ms. Richard, Ms. Jolie.
[00:01:07] Speaker C: Don't miss Rachel. Never been talking too much about this girl.
[00:01:11] Speaker A: Okay, this scenario is there is an iPad thrown at a birthday party right across your show.
[00:01:17] Speaker C: So this is. This is her when she's at our show. Yes.
[00:01:20] Speaker A: So, okay, so you're at a show. This kid does breakfast. I'm sorry, we're at a birthday party and a kid is fucking. So screaming, crying, takes his iPad and chucks it right across your show. What do you do?
[00:01:32] Speaker B: Ooh, please don't do that. Let's not throw the iPad. We're gonna get that iPad. Gonna put it in Ms. Jolie's bag. We're not gonna throw the iPad. But here is a shaker. You could keep it in your hands and shake it all day long. Leg slay, shake, shake so good. We're gonna shake. Shaker. We're gonna shake the shake. And then I was just like, the iPad is gone. It's removed because the shaker in his standing.
[00:01:55] Speaker A: Applause.
[00:01:56] Speaker C: Wow. I'm impressed.
[00:01:57] Speaker A: I thought I was go help you out.
[00:01:59] Speaker C: Wait, that was really good.
[00:02:01] Speaker B: Really? Yeah.
Well, sometimes I'm in scenarios where the kids are in my. I'm like, yeah, back it up, back it up, back it up. I think you did it to her.
When you put that.
[00:02:10] Speaker A: When you put that tape down. I knew my son was gonna just
[00:02:13] Speaker B: go over the tape. I mean, we gotta try sometimes, and I think it's important that it is.
[00:02:17] Speaker C: You did so good.
[00:02:18] Speaker B: And sometimes you have to roll it. Sometimes I'm like, you win. I'm pivoting. I'm not gonna win this. Yeah. Or just like you. You surrender, and it's it. You make it work.
[00:02:28] Speaker A: Next one. Ready? All right, so you're at the birthday party, and a. A bratty kid comes and just keeps popping the. The big bubble. Big bubble.
[00:02:37] Speaker B: The big bubble.
[00:02:38] Speaker A: He just keeps running up and popping it.
[00:02:39] Speaker C: I can't stand kids.
[00:02:41] Speaker B: I gotta do it in a song. You're saying, I'm like, where's your mom or your dad?
Can your mom and dad come over and help Ms. Jolie? I need a mom or I need a dad coming over and help me fast. I need your mommy or your daddy right now. I, like, sometimes I'm like, I need to call in the truth.
[00:03:01] Speaker C: Epic.
[00:03:02] Speaker B: That is so. I know I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna keep disliming the child. Okay. I'm trying. So I'll sometimes. And sometimes if the mom and dad, like, I'll. Another grownup will take the hint and then something.
[00:03:12] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:03:12] Speaker A: They.
[00:03:13] Speaker C: They understand the assignment. That was.
[00:03:14] Speaker A: So this is your real life. You do do this. This is my real life.
[00:03:17] Speaker C: She's probably done it before.
[00:03:18] Speaker A: She's done it.
[00:03:19] Speaker B: And the smile will always be there, no matter how irritated I am. This time.
[00:03:23] Speaker C: Like, go fucking this. Kids are driving. Nice.
[00:03:25] Speaker B: No. That has never, ever, ever happened, ever.
[00:03:31] Speaker A: Next one.
Who? The kid who's not the birthday kid comes up and blows out the candles.
[00:03:36] Speaker C: And then as you're singing it over there.
[00:03:37] Speaker A: Yeah. And the birthday kid just starts crying because.
[00:03:40] Speaker B: Oh, I'll say. It's all right. It's okay. We'll make more candles. Flame.
Light them up. We'll do it all over again.
It's so good.
[00:03:51] Speaker C: I need this in my life.
[00:03:53] Speaker A: All right, last one.
[00:03:53] Speaker C: Okay, go.
[00:03:54] Speaker A: Kid runs up and dumps your bubble mix.
[00:03:57] Speaker C: Everyone has this happened?
[00:03:58] Speaker B: I've had it done. Well, my ocd, it will make sure that there's not only an extra bucket with me, but another extra bucket in my car. And having two extra buckets, I would say it's okay. Like, we'll. We'll clean it up. Everybody clean it up. Got to clean it up. Got to clean it up. I'd clean up all the bubbles. I'd be singing in a song as I'm doing it, I'd have everyone and then I would take my towels and then grab my spare bucket.
[00:04:23] Speaker A: So good.
[00:04:24] Speaker C: You are.
[00:04:25] Speaker B: I always have a spare.
[00:04:26] Speaker C: So you're.
[00:04:27] Speaker A: You're really improv. Yeah, you do it.
[00:04:29] Speaker C: You.
[00:04:30] Speaker A: You're a. You're probably a rapper.
[00:04:32] Speaker C: She has the creative mind. She doesn't think she.
[00:04:34] Speaker B: I have my. My peak performance.
It's. I'll have to send it to you. It was my brother and I on Mother's Day, like, two years ago, and he had his guitar, and he started and we made.
[00:04:45] Speaker A: It was freestyle.
[00:04:45] Speaker B: It was freestyle.
[00:04:46] Speaker C: No way.
[00:04:47] Speaker B: It was. It's called Mother's Day rage.
[00:04:49] Speaker A: Oh, my God, send it now.
[00:04:51] Speaker B: And I. I had my whole family, like, my sister next to me crying tears, and it was just about having rage on Mother's Day. And it was so, like, even now I'm like, how did that even come out? And it was my peak before. I was like, I'll never be able to talk.
[00:05:04] Speaker A: Can you do it right now?
[00:05:05] Speaker B: I would need. No, I'll have to send you the video. Cause I won't. I won't do any justice. And the fact that it was just. Does that happen to you? Where you write a rhyme and you're like, wow, that came from me. Like, that was really good. Yes.
[00:05:16] Speaker C: I wish I could do that.
[00:05:17] Speaker B: You might have it in you.
[00:05:18] Speaker C: I might have it in my.
[00:05:19] Speaker B: But if I'm too. I have to be relaxed, and I have to. I can't think about it too much. I have to just let it out. There's even times in a show where I'm like, man, that was good. I'll never be able to replicate it. It had to come out naturally and
[00:05:30] Speaker C: just in the moment.
[00:05:31] Speaker B: Yeah, sometimes it's meant.
[00:05:32] Speaker C: Yeah, I love.
Okay, now that we're talking about birthday parties, we need some birthday party confessions. Okay, so what's the craziest thing you've seen at a party?
[00:05:42] Speaker B: I haven't actually. This. I have not really seen anything too crazy, but I have one experience. I was performing at a birthday party outside, and there was the fence, you know, separating the house from their neighbors. And there was a dog on the other side of the fence just barking, going crazy. And as I was performing, a little boy stuck his hand through the fence, and I noticed he was, like, stuck. I was like. So I went and I grabbed his hand and pulled it out, and his.
[00:06:06] Speaker C: He.
[00:06:06] Speaker B: The dog bit his.
[00:06:07] Speaker C: No.
[00:06:08] Speaker B: And I was like, oh, my God. And I was like, wait, the navel. He said, I. I'm not good in that situation.
[00:06:15] Speaker A: No, that's Scary. No. I bet I beat you. I.
[00:06:17] Speaker C: No, I absolutely would beat you.
[00:06:19] Speaker B: Really.
[00:06:20] Speaker A: I will run around like call 91 1.
[00:06:22] Speaker B: So that was me. My son lost his hand. Yeah. I was like I would. If I go back in time I would have like you know, put my arms. I'm like slowly stay calm walking. It was like game on Jolie meltdown of like during your like bubble. Yeah. Yeah.
[00:06:36] Speaker C: I.
[00:06:36] Speaker B: We had to call the ambulance. It was like oh. And then I know you know, time went by but I still. I, I.
[00:06:42] Speaker C: You performed.
[00:06:43] Speaker B: I finished. All because I didn't. I felt so bad for the mom and the guests and the other kids there. We needed to change that vibe. So after he was taken care of and I knew that like he. I went back out and I was like I was a wreck. But I also knew that like there's all these guests here and kids and I needed to switch the vibe. So I went and did Bubbles and we did. You know.
[00:07:00] Speaker C: Oh my God.
[00:07:00] Speaker B: I will never. That was definitely the worst thing that ever happened.
And I even tell my. My son now I'm like don't ever put your hand dog or put your hand to a fence obviously. But you know, you just don't know if it's not your dog. You don't know what there's.
[00:07:13] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:07:13] Speaker B: I have a lot of fear. I got bit when I was little. So I'm not scary.
[00:07:17] Speaker C: You always ask, can I pet your dog? You know you always.
[00:07:19] Speaker B: Yeah. That was the only story that was worthy of like what about like the
[00:07:24] Speaker C: like the worst behavior in a kid you've ever seen?
[00:07:28] Speaker A: I are kids pretty good at birthday.
[00:07:30] Speaker B: I've never had. I mean there's like the nor. There's the. Definitely. It's to be expected.
[00:07:35] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:07:35] Speaker B: It's always to be expected that there's some kids that once I got a shaker like thrown at my face and it hit and it hurt.
[00:07:43] Speaker C: You just keep your smile.
[00:07:44] Speaker B: Yeah. And I was like ow. I'm not crying. He like really got me.
He really got me. So I was like. But I had to keep going. I was like. I was everything in me not to throw it back at all.
[00:07:55] Speaker C: Literally.
[00:07:56] Speaker B: I would have done the same thing. No, I would never. But I was in my head I was like ow. And I want to God sin.
[00:08:00] Speaker C: What about her parents behavior?
[00:08:02] Speaker B: So I actually I'm only saying it because she's that but like I remember the moms at that they saw and they laughed like instead of being like they laugh like they thought it was funny. And I was like, honestly, I honestly wanted to just like leave at that point because I was so like, oh, wow. Like your parents are actually.
[00:08:15] Speaker C: There's nothing worse than being hit with something by a kid.
[00:08:18] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:08:18] Speaker B: Yeah. But I also get it because I'm like, oh, when it's your kid, everything they do is adorable. So like, had I been. I try to always put myself in the situation. The parents too. Like, my son is the kid that probably would want to pop the. Even now, like he would come with me to events and whenever I bring out bubbles, it's like he's never seen a bubble before and you go crazy. He would knock down bubbles.
[00:08:37] Speaker A: And kids.
[00:08:37] Speaker B: Yes. Yeah. They love them.
[00:08:39] Speaker C: Yes.
[00:08:40] Speaker B: So I'm. I'm caught. I'm. I know what it's like to have a child. It's just so overly excited and they're not do. It's all coming from a place of them just being so happy and excited sometimes. I know I have a lot of patience with.
[00:08:51] Speaker C: You do have a lot of patience. You do, you do.
[00:08:53] Speaker A: What's your favorite age range?
[00:08:55] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:08:55] Speaker A: Of to do a party?
[00:08:57] Speaker C: Which one do you like were? Like, it's hard for you to like not regret like you. What's the word?
[00:09:03] Speaker B: What's your favorite? What's your favorite? What's your least favorite? I, I guess I love pre K because they're still babies, but they're not. It's like three, four year olds. Kindergarten's really nice. But then once in a while I walked into a party and it was older kids. I mean I'm talking like, like first, second, third and I was like, I, I. All the line dances. It's like I, I come on the mic and it's more of like I'm feel like an mc, DJ where it's about like they love following along to dances so I would bow. I have like my own that I make up. I do a lot of parody so it's like the background is Uptown Funk, but I'm singing.
[00:09:37] Speaker C: Do you plan your shows like you know what you're doing? Like at Gio's birthday party, did you plan that out?
[00:09:41] Speaker B: I definitely have my, my.
I have my go to and then each season and for my own mental health I have to switch things up. But I have my go tos that I know always work and then sometimes sprinkling in seasonal ones that oh, this is my go to right now because we're in that season and it makes sense to.
And yeah, I definitely have like a go to list but then other ones that I'LL sprinkle out. It's more of, like, season. I feel like I go through these seasonal. Yeah.
[00:10:09] Speaker C: Yeah, that makes sense.
[00:10:11] Speaker A: Yeah. My kids were watching you this morning with five little sneakers, literally.
[00:10:14] Speaker C: I have a picture.
Is it weird to know that people watch?
[00:10:18] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. There's a picture of it in my house. We will not do Ms. Rachel or Blippi anymore. It's Ms. Jolie. Only because my kids are. I've had kids. They're on YouTube and it's Ms. Jolie.
[00:10:27] Speaker B: I appreciate that. So you say it never gets old for a parent or if a child, like, oh, we saw that. Because I'm like, there's so many options. You chose me. Like, I'm not. I am cute. I'm not. Like, I am, but it's not.
[00:10:41] Speaker C: That's what.
[00:10:42] Speaker B: Like, is it weird, too, that, like,
[00:10:43] Speaker C: I pull up my YouTube and you're on my YouTube, like, you're on my TV and my son's sitting there watching you?
[00:10:48] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, that would be goals one day to be out somewhere and, like, look over and someone asked me. I'd be like, oh, my God, I would freak out. I'd be like, that's me on there. Like, I. There's probably more people than you.
[00:10:56] Speaker C: You're probably not looking for.
[00:10:57] Speaker B: Well, I guess they're.
They definitely are. That would just make me so happy. Whenever someone shares that they watch, it just makes me feel so good. I really. There's so many options. You pick me. And I love that they could see me in person. I want that to be the number one.
[00:11:10] Speaker C: Like, yeah, watch me on the screen.
[00:11:11] Speaker B: But come to the library.
[00:11:12] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:11:12] Speaker B: Come book me for your birthday.
[00:11:15] Speaker C: What is your.
[00:11:16] Speaker A: She's much better live.
[00:11:17] Speaker B: Yes.
That's what the.
[00:11:19] Speaker C: I want you on, like, screen time, though.
[00:11:22] Speaker A: Like, do.
[00:11:22] Speaker C: What is your thoughts on that?
[00:11:24] Speaker B: I believe that we're all doing our best as moms. We do what we got to do. Sometimes I.
I look back. My son, he was never, like, he loves. He has an iPad and he sits and watches, and he has his little shows that he watches. And it doesn't bother me because he's so active. He's like, does all these sports. And whenever. He'd always choose playing over as long as sometimes I feel like sometimes. Let me get. Please sit and watch, because my husband and I want to watch a show at night. He would always rather play, and he gets sick of it. Like, after a little time, he's like, all right, I want to. You know, he wants. He'll get up and I know he's had enough. So I.
I thankfully have a child that almost naturally has like a.
Sorry. Hitting your microphone. He. He has a natural. What's it called? Like an alarm clock in his head. But that was enough. Yeah. I need to move my body.
[00:12:11] Speaker C: He can't sit still. And I say to her all the time. I'm like, it's as long as my son's not addicted to the iPad and he still wants to play and go outside and play with his toys. Like, I don't give a shit to put the TV on and have it
[00:12:22] Speaker B: on all day, honestly.
[00:12:22] Speaker C: Because he still continues to play and have conversations. You know what I mean?
[00:12:25] Speaker B: So I think that's what makes it easy to be like, I don't. It doesn't bother with my kid because he.
[00:12:29] Speaker C: We.
[00:12:30] Speaker B: Sometimes I wish he would watch it a little more, to be honest.
Are you sure?
Like my husband. I still have, like 20 minutes left. Our show. I'm like, are you sure you're done with the iPad or, like on a plane ride or something? And he's done. And I'm like, I have to sit and play tic tac toe for an hour right now.
I know. Well, you should come over.
You should come over and play. But I feel like we're all the mom. We're all doing our best. But I would say, like, when they're little. When they're really little. Unless sometimes I feel like it's an automatic thing. Like, you sit down, you give them the iPad. Like, wait for. If you're out to a restaurant. Give it a little time before you get, like, let it. Let them be a little bored for a little bit. Or let them run around the restaurant for a minute or two. Yeah. Like, don't automatically give it. Give. That was a big. We never. My husband. I were. I feel like my husband's more like the strict one than I am. It was very, like, out restaurants. We like him rather drawing. And he's good. Like, he always. Rather. I think there's nothing better than like, I remember and crayons and drawing or like, a little out to dinner where it's more. They could be creative. But also. I understand. I get it. Sometimes you just need. In the phone and depending on that child, like, you don't know until you're in that mom's shoes about their child or their. How they're feeling. So I don't. I would never judge another mom putting out there.
[00:13:45] Speaker C: No, I agree. I don't trust anybody. To each throne, you know?
[00:13:47] Speaker A: Yeah. And also, I'm judging you. You have one kid.
[00:13:50] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. Bring it on. Oh, yeah. That makes life easier.
[00:13:53] Speaker C: Excuse a lot, my friend.
[00:13:55] Speaker A: I'm not making an excuse.
[00:13:57] Speaker B: No.
[00:13:57] Speaker C: I'm saying that you have three kids, so you just feel like when you have more kids, you have to give them iPad.
[00:14:03] Speaker A: Oh. I mean, you don't have to, but I definitely feel like I do.
[00:14:06] Speaker B: They each have their own.
[00:14:09] Speaker A: The two older ones do, actually. No, they do. They all have them. Yeah.
[00:14:12] Speaker B: So they have their own shows. They get to watch and. Hold on.
[00:14:15] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:14:15] Speaker A: I mean, they. They literally. I basically just watch like YouTube kids. Yeah. And they play games. They have like their. They have like their educational games too, that like my son.
[00:14:25] Speaker B: Did you do ABC mouse?
[00:14:26] Speaker A: ABC mouse. He loves ABC mouse.
They like puzzle games. Like, I don't know.
[00:14:32] Speaker B: I would feel no guilt over the game.
[00:14:36] Speaker A: They play a lot of games on there, which is good, but it's also annoying. Yeah.
[00:14:41] Speaker B: But even for us as adults, like these, like watching shows being these really quick videos, it's not good for us in general.
[00:14:51] Speaker A: Even like scrolling like doomsday.
[00:14:53] Speaker C: I don't like the YouTube kids thing where you just scroll to different videos. I feel like they're doing what I'm doing and I hate.
[00:14:58] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, I loved like being younger and watching it. Like you would sit and watch a show ahead of the beginning, middle. I did like tv.
[00:15:03] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:15:04] Speaker C: Show instead of iPad.
[00:15:05] Speaker A: That's better.
[00:15:06] Speaker C: Which is like, I don't know. But I. We don't do iPads when we're out. If I do have to give a phone, I will if it's getting out of hand.
But I do the TV all day. I really do. But I don't do the iPad. Cause I don't want him. I don't want him doing this. I really just don't.
[00:15:18] Speaker B: Yeah. I don't care for him to watch tv, but little fingers, like, go to
[00:15:22] Speaker C: someone's house and they have their iPads out and they're sitting there. My son's like playing and I'm like, you need to like. I don't want him to be doing that. When someone comes to our house, he's holding his iPad.
So that's why I try to do it. But he does sit and watch tv. And I feel like my niece and nephew, they don't watch as much TV as he does. I just at least have it on in the background.
[00:15:39] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:15:40] Speaker C: So every time I go to my mother in law's, I always put the TV on and they think they have to like sit and watch. I'm like it.
[00:15:45] Speaker B: Just go play.
[00:15:45] Speaker C: Just put the TV on if you
[00:15:46] Speaker B: want to get a glimpse of, you
[00:15:47] Speaker C: know, anything on the tv.
[00:15:48] Speaker A: I think it just goes back to if they also can be able to go outside and play. Like, be a kid.
[00:15:53] Speaker C: Yeah, exactly.
[00:15:54] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:15:54] Speaker A: It's all about balance.
[00:15:55] Speaker B: Yeah. You asked me. Oh, you're asking me about.
[00:15:58] Speaker A: No. Yeah. Like, so it's interesting. I was talking about my girlfriend. She was saying she has no kids, but she was saying if she were to have kids, she would just want one kid. And I was like, I haven't heard a lot of people say that. And she was like, this is why she doesn't want, like, the family to, like, run her. Like, she also wants to just keep her life. And, like, he's kind of just like an added. Or one. One kid's just, like an added bonus. I tell her all the time, one kid is, like an accessory, and three kids is, like, fucking baggage.
That's how I feel right now. But, like, one kid. How do you feel about having one kid?
[00:16:33] Speaker B: I feel like it's the secret to happiness.
I love having one kid. I feel.
I totally understand anyone.
[00:16:43] Speaker C: I mean, you look light and bright.
[00:16:45] Speaker B: I'm real good.
I feel like the window passed if there was to have been another child. I feel like I'm so out of that error.
I always gave myself till I was 40, which I'm turning this year. And my husband, we go back and forth, and sometimes I, like, I'll be like. It's always like, when I'm, like, really well rested, and I'll be like, wait.
Yeah. And then. And then I go back to the real reality of, like, it sounds so nice, but the real ins and outs. And I love my free time. Like, I love that I could work and then come home and have a couple hours before I go get my son, and that would be taken from me.
[00:17:16] Speaker C: I love that.
[00:17:17] Speaker B: I love. I'm here.
[00:17:18] Speaker C: I'm at that point, too. I feel like, not to interrupt you, but can you give me, like, a glimpse of when you were like, I am good with one kid. Is it because you may have struggled with postpartum? Is it because you just don't. You're happy with your life right now? Like, what is. What is it?
[00:17:34] Speaker B: It's so interesting. I love being pregnant.
I even have thought, like, I wouldn't like being a surrogate. I'm like, I'm gonna miss never having a baby. I love being pregnant.
[00:17:43] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:17:43] Speaker B: I loved the newborn stage. I was, like, the happiest.
I loved.
[00:17:48] Speaker A: So you didn't have postpartum.
[00:17:49] Speaker B: I didn't have postpartum. If anything, I was like elated. Like, I love my life. Became enormously better since becoming a mom. I feel like he healed me. I didn't. I.
I feel like I struggled more with my mental health before becoming a mom. Just feeling like he, my son like made. I just told him this morning. I was like, you've made my life. Like he. I don't think a day goes by I don't tell him like how happy, how he's just like, you know, your mom. Anyone knows about any of your kids. But he's gotten the best of me. Like I'm not, you know, my sister in law, my sister, my brother, like they all have multiple kids all the time. People around me, I see how hard work it is and the stress is involved. I know all the love that comes with it too. And I know what everyone's like, oh, but he doesn't have a sibling, you know, but he has incredible cousins that he plays with all the time. And also that's not guaranteed like you to have another kid just because.
To give who's. I know a lot of siblings that don't get along as adults. And also since he's been little, I would be like, do you want a brother or sister?
He's never. He. No.
And now he's like, not. I'm like, are you sure, Georgie? Mommy's turning for. He knows. He's like, he's like, no, just he gets upset. He like does not want his sibling. Yeah, he, he loves it just being us.
I, I feel like that would be the only thing that would have made me cave to have another one. Like, is if my son like, he
[00:19:07] Speaker A: was like, mommy, I really want to be.
[00:19:09] Speaker B: And my husband, I mean, he does not. He has not. He's always been like, I'm so happy with one kid. But we talk about maybe it would have been say that I love. I mean, I'm happy too.
[00:19:19] Speaker C: I want more kids just because I like want a big family. But I just feel like, I mean, I see the struggle she goes through. Like her life is insane. And I'm like, I know everyone's family's different.
[00:19:30] Speaker B: Like, not in a bad way, but it is.
[00:19:32] Speaker C: And I just feel like I'm around her a lot and I see it and I'm like, I'm happy in my family right now.
[00:19:39] Speaker A: But yeah, but also I did it. I banged them out in three years. You're not going to do that.
[00:19:44] Speaker C: No, I'm not gonna do that. There is a difference.
[00:19:45] Speaker A: There really is a difference. I truly believe in the age gaps
[00:19:50] Speaker B: in a good way.
[00:19:51] Speaker C: Age gaps help you out.
[00:19:54] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:19:54] Speaker A: Because you can concentrate on like you had Gio already for two years. Just you. Like I never ever had that.
[00:20:00] Speaker C: Right.
[00:20:01] Speaker A: So like you focused on him and now like, I mean if you have another baby, I would say once Gio
[00:20:06] Speaker B: is either in like preschool or even kindergarten where it's like a full day and then you have a baby and
[00:20:11] Speaker C: yeah, that's what I would want to do.
[00:20:12] Speaker A: Right.
[00:20:12] Speaker B: I feel like that's a nice.
[00:20:13] Speaker C: That's just how my mom life it. That's how my.
Like I just need.
[00:20:17] Speaker B: I've.
[00:20:17] Speaker C: We have a crazy life. Like my life is very busy and I just felt like it would be a disservice to my child to bring that child in when Juba was like a six month old, seven month old. Like it just would have been a disservice to the family. Like, you know.
[00:20:29] Speaker B: Yeah, it's. It's a lot and like the sleep, like the sleeping, it's hard. It's just like it would have been just really bad. Tired and feeling like. Especially if you have a career, you're like, like it. No doubt about it. It's gonna put you back. And I'm current too, just like you.
[00:20:44] Speaker C: I just feel like I'm passionate about that and like I need to give 100 to my child and that's why I quit my job and that's why I do with Gio. But I couldn't give 100 to a second kid if I had he or she already. So that's why I feel like waiting till he maybe turns three to have another one is my best. In my best interest for my family, you know?
[00:21:01] Speaker B: Yeah. I think that is what I thought about too. I feel I've. There was definitely a feeling of like a choice, like do you want to have the mom life or do you want to pursue this career and feel. And I am so sad. Fulfilled with one kid. Oh, I'll tell you how I really knew I was dying. It happened recently.
[00:21:15] Speaker A: Tell. I thought you were pregnant.
[00:21:18] Speaker B: I was pregnant.
[00:21:18] Speaker C: No.
[00:21:19] Speaker B: Oh. And I can't believe you talked about in that episode.
[00:21:22] Speaker A: That is the telling factor.
[00:21:23] Speaker B: And I was like, am I going to be disappointed to not or relieved? And I was relieved. I was like, that's how I know
[00:21:28] Speaker C: that you don't want another kid.
[00:21:29] Speaker B: Yeah. Because I was relieved that I wasn't. It was more like. And I would have if I was. I would have. Well, I would have been like, all right. Like, this is it. And I would have made the best of it. And I'm sure it would have been wonderful and my life would have. Whatever my life turns out, I'm gonna make the best of that scenario. But not being. I was.
You felt relieved.
[00:21:45] Speaker C: That is a good tell.
[00:21:46] Speaker A: That is a good tell. That is like. I mean, I think a lot of moms can relate. I just got an IUD for the first time, and I am just feeling very, like, free.
[00:21:55] Speaker B: And I feel like there's another one in you, though. From what? How you talk on the Bible.
[00:21:59] Speaker A: I mean, I. I don't know. But right now I'm.
[00:22:01] Speaker B: You're both very young, though, in terms of like, so many women in my life didn't have even their first until 40, which is. That's why I felt like we're living in a time where you. You could have again, 40, 41 for a year later. Yeah. It doesn't absolutely like. But I know that even now I'm like, I. I am feeling as you get old, you're like, oh, like, you're just a little more tired.
[00:22:20] Speaker A: You're.
[00:22:21] Speaker B: Things are different.
[00:22:22] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:22:23] Speaker B: And I look forward to the era of my life. My husband and I are very. Me too lovey. And I look forward to being with him and traveling more and just our life. That. Because he even paints that picture, he's like. And I know nothing's guaranteed, you know, I.
Yes, nothing's yet. But I.
I just feel like, watch. Like I get an oops like next year. I'm like, I told you, I'm jinxing everything right now. Oh, my gosh. But I. Yeah, I. And who knows? And I might give myself that space to say, I can always change my mind. You can. This moment in my life. And I think that's how I always felt. I was like, where am I today? How I feel? And that changed. And I feel like when you want another one, it's a burning desire. Like, my first kid was a burning desire for a child. And I always like, if you have that burning desire, nothing will get in your way. You'll have that baby. You'll make it happen, whether naturally or not or whatever you have to do. But I'll be a kick ass grandma one day. I'll be 100. Yes.
[00:23:18] Speaker C: And your son will have Jolie.
[00:23:20] Speaker A: Grandma. Jolie.
[00:23:20] Speaker B: Yeah. I love it. And I get my felt. Like all the kids around me all the time. Exactly.
[00:23:24] Speaker C: You get your fix. Yeah. I mean, 100.
So I do want to just ask you this question?
[00:23:29] Speaker A: Sure.
[00:23:29] Speaker C: Since we're talking about mom life right
[00:23:31] Speaker B: now, do you feel like you always
[00:23:33] Speaker C: have to be on? Like, what if you show up to a gig or a party and you're like, like, I don't feel good. I have really bad nerves. I feel like I'm in fight or flight.
[00:23:41] Speaker B: I have to leave.
[00:23:42] Speaker C: Like, do you ever, like, get in that mode as a mom or, like, as in a gig and you feel like you can't be yourself? Like, what do you do?
[00:23:49] Speaker B: Yeah, I definitely have times where I'm really overwhelmed or if I'm not feeling good. If something comes over me. When I have to perform, though, like, it's all of a sudden I'm okay. I can, like, get there. Like, it's. I. I know it's. Turn it on, turn it off. Don't. Like, like, part of my job is to be happy and spread the happiness. And I think I grew up in a family like my brother being. Doing weddings, my dad. Like, it's. When you're an entertainer, you're showing up. It's almost like an acting job sometimes. And which sometimes heals you in a way. Or is the fix. Like, if I'm worried or upset over something and then I have to do and I walk out, like, wait, why? Why was I upset? Like, I'm. But if I'm sick or not feeling well, I mean, obviously, if I was something that's contagious, I'm going to cancel it. Yeah, totally. There's definitely times I'm able to compartmentalize and like, turn off. Even if I'm really overwhelmed, stressed out, or sometimes I have gigs, like, back to back. And I know and I have to say, okay, like, it is what it is you do that. Just try to wrap it up at this time. And then I might be worried, like, oh, am I gonna have enough time to get to. Or there's a lot that could go on my mind. But when I'm performing, it's, I guess, from the years, and it's just almost a muscle memory muscle of like, all of a sudden I'm able to lock in to, like, being. Being with the kids I'm in front of and doing the job.
[00:24:57] Speaker A: And so when you're actually in front of the kids, do you feel like you are Miss Jolie the actress and not yourself at all? Or do you feel like. Do you feel like you're actually acting and performing?
[00:25:09] Speaker B: I guess it's. It could be either way. Like, my prayer every morning is to feel in flow and feel so ex.
Just enjoying myself and doing it. But I definitely have days where I could be off and I'm like, I'm acting like I'm not right. Actually that's when I know I need a break or I'm burnt out. My. I'll be like, oh. When I feel myself not enjoying myself, I know like, oh, maybe I overdid my schedule this way me. But I'm really. I've been doing it long enough that I kind of know how to balance my schedule. Not get to that point because I, that's. I, I do not. Like when I'm before me, I'm not genuinely enjoying myself. But it happens.
[00:25:43] Speaker A: Yeah, you're human, aren't you?
[00:25:44] Speaker B: Yeah, it happens once a month.
That few days I'm like, oh my goodness, I am. Gotta just keep the smile on you I'm feeling. But you. I don't think anyone would ever know. And I give myself like permission to feel how I'm feeling each day, which is good. Yeah. And I feel like from a business
[00:25:59] Speaker C: perspective, this just jumps to my next question. Like, what's the hardest part about running a business? And what's the most fun about running a business?
[00:26:07] Speaker B: Oh, I guess just juggling everything. And for me it's like a lot of the behind you everything by yourself. I do everything.
Some I would say with the hardest part. For me it's not even like the hardest part but it's a time it's the. This work that isn't seen. Like the practicing rehearsing all the emails. So much emails. Updating my website, creating the next playlist. Like all the behind the scenes. Like it's. To me, the actual performance is like the br. It's. Oh like I like I love I.
The performance is the. The release. But there's all this other back end stuff that can accumulate or feel like sometimes I wish I had an assistant. But then I'm like, yeah, but there's too many things. Like only I can look at my schedule. I know. Like if I'm in the mood to fit in another thing that week or if I like I. Maybe I'm just a control freak, but I've done other things. Like we have a cleaning lady. Like I don't cook. Like there's certain other things that in my life that I let go of. I'm like, I don't cook in my husband.
I mean I have a private chef. He's really hot.
He's my sexy private chef. I love that. But it's funny because he would say he's like what do I need to do to help? I'm like, we need a cleaning. Like, these are the things. Like, I'd rather go out and do a gig than clean the toilet. I cannot do these things.
[00:27:19] Speaker C: Oh, you sound like.
[00:27:21] Speaker B: Yeah. So it's just behind the scenes and then feeling sometimes that that goes like, like unnoticed in terms of why I could be frazzled like sometimes with my family or like, oh, like, why is Jolie. So I'm like, you know, like, I can't sleep at night if I have all these emails that piled up today and I still have to do that. And it makes me. Sometimes I can't be present with like playing with my son. Sometimes I feel bad for that. Like, these kids all get the best of me. And then sometimes my son gets a version of me. It's like, mommy cannot until I finish this.
[00:27:51] Speaker C: Yeah, see, that's how I am. I feel like I get in that mode where as well because I have like, like corporate girly in me. Like I had a 9 to 5 and I feel like I knew how to do time management. But you take it with you.
[00:28:04] Speaker A: Right?
[00:28:04] Speaker C: And I feel like if I didn't answer my emails, if I still don't. Like, if I still answer my emails, if I don't get back to the people on Tick Tock, if I. Yeah. Don't, you know, follow up on the
[00:28:12] Speaker B: brand deal that I'm trying to get,
[00:28:14] Speaker C: like, I just feel like I can't sleep at night and I just have to like, do you feel that way?
[00:28:18] Speaker A: I feel like you don't see my emails. I have about 28, 000.
[00:28:21] Speaker B: It's like I could never sleep.
[00:28:23] Speaker A: Like, not important.
[00:28:24] Speaker C: But.
[00:28:24] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:28:25] Speaker C: What if it is important?
[00:28:26] Speaker A: It's not. Nobody needs me.
[00:28:28] Speaker B: That or it's like, like sometimes I get. It's like coming from. Like I'll get like a text, a dm, an email. Like, oh. And I'm like, please, I want things.
[00:28:36] Speaker C: You answer everybody.
[00:28:37] Speaker B: An email.
[00:28:37] Speaker C: Dm.
[00:28:38] Speaker B: Yeah, I'll say email. Email me because I need it in one place because the DMS get lost or I'm like. And I don't. Like, sometimes I. I can't. Sometimes I need a day where I don't even look at my.
[00:28:48] Speaker C: Could never not answer. Someone though would rather die than not answering.
[00:28:51] Speaker B: But once you see it, you have. Yeah, the emails are. And to me I feel an email's a nice. Because it's like not any like a text. It feels an emergency. Like I need to write back to this. But the email, it can Sit there. I know that I have a 24 hours to normalize.
[00:29:02] Speaker A: Not texting back right away. Like, I think you could just sit on a text for a little bit.
[00:29:07] Speaker B: I feel like it should be respond to within the day, unless it's nighttime. Like, I actually. I wake up crazy early and I waited until the sun came up to text. You could have texted me. I was like, I don't want to be crazy.
[00:29:16] Speaker C: And because you.
[00:29:17] Speaker B: I went to text.
[00:29:18] Speaker A: She's like, she's not coming. I go, I talked to her at like seven.
[00:29:21] Speaker C: So I.
[00:29:21] Speaker B: So I go, no. So I turn off at night. I don't look at my phone.
But she said.
[00:29:26] Speaker C: She was like.
[00:29:26] Speaker B: She's talking about looking at her phone. I'm like, oh, yeah, it was 9
[00:29:28] Speaker C: o' clock because we were on our meeting. But I just wanted to send you,
[00:29:31] Speaker B: like, a little text. And I'm like, oh, my God.
[00:29:32] Speaker C: What is she.
[00:29:33] Speaker B: Like, something happened and she.
[00:29:34] Speaker C: I know you would never.
[00:29:35] Speaker B: I think you would never.
[00:29:37] Speaker C: Yeah, but I worked in sales as, you know, like, canceling's like, normal for people in sales. Not showing up is normal.
[00:29:43] Speaker B: And especially when you have something that's dependent. Like, for instance, if I do a. Like, I just had a St. Patrick's Day show and I had an Irish step dancer. Hi, Ashlyn. I saw that. She's so young. We're not. She's not. She's not near being a mom yet, so she might definitely not listen. Anyway, so I've had her for, like, years, and she's all her mom brings. And they are so reliable, so professional, but without fail, like that, I was like, oh, my gosh, Ashlyn needs. I'm gonna have to whip out these Irish step dancing moves. I cannot. I can't help but feel that way. Because when you're, like, depending on someone else, that's why I think I. My job is so perfect for me, because that anxiety that goes through me, or I'm like, I just. This is just me, and I'm just showing. I don't have to wait for the other person.
Most of the time it works out, but you're. You just want. You need to know that you're going to be there. Yeah, I love it.
[00:30:26] Speaker C: I mean, this was absolutely awesome. Is there anything that you lastly want to say to your listeners about what you do, about how you got here, about anything that you want to just get off your chest?
[00:30:39] Speaker B: Well, I would say I like, I love people so much. I would love to come back. So if anyone had questions or like, a different and then we could, like. I could come back and then we could, like, do more questions or, like, pivot into something else.
What do I want to say? There were so many things. Things. But now I'm here on the spot, and I'm drawing a blank.
If you have something that you're worth, if you're a mom and you just feel, just create whatever's coming to you. Don't judge yourself over it. Just let it out and let it evolve and see where it goes. And don't stop. Because usually you need to let things unravel a bit before you find the. The magic of it. I want to say that stay in the game for you both. I love your podcast. I'm so excited to see you where I love that she goes so good. I'm gonna keep listening. And yes. And I want to say that I have the best, most supportive, amazing hubby.
I just want to say yes. Like, if you make sure you marry a man that's gonna support you like you girls obviously have too. And definitely. Yeah. And if you only want one kid, you do. You don't let anyone pressure you.
And I guess that's it. And well, tell the viewers where. Oh, go ahead, finish. I have a new album coming out next week.
It took me two years to make it. Now it's coming out. It's 12. It's nursery rhymes remix. It's called I want to write.
Yeah. Oh, I rap on there. Itsy bitsy wrap. I saw I'm gonna do my worth my time and this is on every episode. I just asked them to ask me because I would have been. Was it gonna be on it anyway for me? For you.
[00:32:13] Speaker C: She's been dying for us to ask
[00:32:14] Speaker B: her about a worth her time and I had to get any. A single naughty question which I was bracing for. But maybe that'll be Emily held back.
[00:32:22] Speaker A: This is a family show.
[00:32:24] Speaker B: So I was my worth my time. Well, I'm gonna go into that is a book called Lies of Lena. And I want you both to know I love reading and it takes you away from. So instead of like scrolling on your phone, you don't feel bad when you're reading a book. So I love like Colleen Hoover. I love all like I love Sarah sexy romance books and I think all moms need to read them for so many different.
It's called Liza Lena and one of my other mom friends told me about it because we're.
[00:32:54] Speaker A: I can't wait.
[00:32:55] Speaker B: You're welcome.
[00:32:56] Speaker A: Start the book. I did start reading.
[00:32:58] Speaker B: You will just not be Able to put down. And they're spicy, but I like my spicy.
Are you like a.
[00:33:03] Speaker C: Are you sexual? Like, what's your vibe?
[00:33:05] Speaker A: Yeah, she's holding back. She's trying to.
[00:33:07] Speaker B: I mean, I don't know.
I don't know.
[00:33:09] Speaker C: We're just.
[00:33:10] Speaker B: Ms. Jolie, let's read the book.
And I like it. I'll leave it at that. And she goes, I don't know.
[00:33:16] Speaker A: Am I worth my time?
[00:33:17] Speaker B: I can't put this book down.
[00:33:18] Speaker C: Oh, yeah, that was your worth of time. I was like, we're not talking about that with Miss Jolie.
[00:33:21] Speaker A: Spicy cubes. Check them out.
[00:33:23] Speaker B: Oh, we're leaving. Everyone just, like, everyone's, like, pivoting this whole episode.
[00:33:27] Speaker A: Spicy cube reader book.
[00:33:29] Speaker B: I can't pick a spicy cube.
[00:33:31] Speaker C: So worth your time. Is that book. I'm curious about it. I love to read.
[00:33:35] Speaker B: I have a kid. Is it on Kindle?
[00:33:36] Speaker A: Is it an erobic I got it from?
[00:33:38] Speaker B: I think it definitely. Well, I was taught. I always say how much I love the Colleen Hoover books because they're like romance and there's little spicy scenes in it. But this one is so spicy to the point that I'm like, yeah. As I'm reading, I'm, like, looking around. I'm like. I'm like.
[00:33:50] Speaker C: I don't know if I should be
[00:33:51] Speaker B: reading this in public. Like, I'm, like, flushed. I know. I love.
[00:33:55] Speaker A: I gotta get home.
[00:33:58] Speaker B: People need to know that you're human,
[00:33:59] Speaker C: you know, you're not. Like, people look at you as, like, a fictional character.
[00:34:03] Speaker B: Like, you're an I.
[00:34:04] Speaker C: So human.
[00:34:05] Speaker B: I don't think you look at me like that. I don't know who else is looking at me like that.
[00:34:09] Speaker C: My son thinks you're like, oh, yeah.
[00:34:11] Speaker B: Please do not. This is not a book for kids and not a book to share with your kids or read aloud. This is a mom. This is a mom moment.
[00:34:18] Speaker C: Moment. Your time, always for moms.
[00:34:21] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:34:21] Speaker A: Spacey cubes.
[00:34:23] Speaker C: What was mine?
[00:34:23] Speaker B: I don't remember.
[00:34:24] Speaker A: I don't know.
[00:34:25] Speaker C: Was it my auto cast camera in the backseat of my car?
[00:34:27] Speaker A: Maybe, but that sounds boring now.
[00:34:29] Speaker C: It does. I'm not even gonna mention it. Sounds dumb, but anyway, tell the listeners where to follow you, where to book you, where they can reach you.
[00:34:36] Speaker B: Ms. Jolie, music dot com. I'm Ms. Jolie on it's. All the things are on there. YouTube you should put in Ms. Jolie.
[00:34:42] Speaker C: It should pop up and DM.
[00:34:44] Speaker B: Email. Email for bookings, for birthday parties. Yes, please. And I love doing school. So if your little one's in school. And you want to arrange that?
[00:34:52] Speaker C: Yes.
[00:34:53] Speaker A: Oh, my PTA moms out there.
[00:34:55] Speaker B: And listen to my. I guess more like listen to the music with your little ones because, like, it.
I put so much love and effort into it. Yeah. And just would love to know that little ones out there are enjoying it. So good. We love you.
[00:35:08] Speaker C: Thank you.
[00:35:09] Speaker B: Thank you. I am so honored to be here. I love you girls. I'm so happy. It was so easy to talk to you both.
[00:35:14] Speaker C: I know. We dove deep today, and we're so excited to air this. And thank you for being on Mom.
[00:35:20] Speaker A: Thank you much.
[00:35:21] Speaker C: We love you.
[00:35:21] Speaker B: Okay. Yay.
