EPISODE 12 - Summer Survival Kit: What's Saving Our Sanity This Week

Episode 12 • July 17, 2025 • 01:13:04

Show Notes

This week, we’re unpacking the real summer survival kit — and no, it’s not sunscreen and beach towels (though, those help). We’re talking about the hacks, routines, and random little wins that are helping us keep our cool while school’s out and the chaos is in full swing. From what’s keeping our kids entertained without melting down by 10 a.m. to the things we’re doing for ourselves so we don’t completely lose it — we’ve got you. Grab your iced coffee, press play, and let’s survive this summer together.

 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Setup Challenges
03:53 Summer Survival Kit: Hacks and Tips
09:33 Mom Stories: Choking and Safety
15:04 Mom Hacks: Edibles and Relaxation
21:09 Creative Play: Engaging Kids at Home
26:52 Fun Activities: Summer Bucket Ideas
32:54 Navigating Family Life with Night Shifts
35:49 Summer Essentials: Products We Love
37:40 Sunscreen Hacks for Kids
40:15 Beach Day Must-Haves
44:05 Mom Fashion Trends for Summer
47:06 The Importance of Comfort in Mom Life
59:55 Embracing Boredom and Making Memories
01:04:16 The Reality of Parenting and Relationships
01:12:53 Intro 2.wav

 

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[00:00:00] Speaker A: What's up, everyone? Welcome to It's Mom o' Clock Somewhere, the podcast where two best friends, cousins by marriage, and moms in the trenches, spill the unfiltered tea on all things motherhood, marriage, and the messy moments in between. I'm Emily, mom of three toddlers, 4 and under. [00:00:17] Speaker B: And I'm Dom, first time mom to a wild 16 month old and our emotional support dog, trying to keep my coffee hot and my sanity intact. Whether you're hiding in your pantry for five minutes of peace or folding endless laundry, grab your coffee or your wine and hang out with us. It's Mama Clock. Hello. [00:00:39] Speaker A: You guys, stop. Is it Mom o' clock yet? I'm going crazy. Heck yeah. [00:00:44] Speaker B: It's Mama Clock Somewhere. I can't believe we did this on Michael. I feel off. [00:01:09] Speaker A: No, I have. I have things to say. Okay, ready? [00:01:15] Speaker B: We're alone today. [00:01:16] Speaker A: This is weird. Welcome back. [00:01:19] Speaker B: Welcome back. Ladies and gents, moms, dads, children, dogs. [00:01:23] Speaker A: Cats, birds, nannies, grandmas, and everybody, mistresses. Our daddy's not here today. [00:01:30] Speaker B: Our daddy is no longer present today. He is on a bachelor party. His best friend's bachelor party. Jamaican me crazy. [00:01:41] Speaker A: Wait. Cheers. Because we did this. We set this up on our own. [00:01:44] Speaker B: We set up our podcast studio on our own. Usually my husband does it all for us. We just sit here and chit chat. We opened up our own bottle of wine that I stole. Stole from the one she sliced her finger open trying to open a bottle of wine. [00:01:59] Speaker A: Okay. [00:01:59] Speaker B: We did it from the wine cellar with the double pinks. If you know, you know, double pink. And I'm really proud of ourselves. Like, we did this all on our own. We don't need no man. [00:02:07] Speaker A: We don't need no man. [00:02:08] Speaker B: We just don't. [00:02:09] Speaker A: Here we are. [00:02:10] Speaker B: But cheers to episode 12. [00:02:12] Speaker A: Love ya. [00:02:13] Speaker B: Did you drink yours already? You have lipstick on it. You drink it. [00:02:16] Speaker A: Sorry, I was stressed. [00:02:18] Speaker B: This is delicious. Do you even like red wine? I feel like you don't. [00:02:22] Speaker A: No. But my espresso martini guy's not here and I honestly don't know how to make one. [00:02:25] Speaker B: I. I made her an espresso, period. And that was that. Nothing else to it. But I'm. [00:02:30] Speaker A: This is good, though. [00:02:31] Speaker B: So happy we're here. We took a week off from 4th of July vacation, which was so fun. We were both down with our families naturally. Didn't speak one word to each other because that's what happens. But it's fine. [00:02:42] Speaker A: We went out. We. I think I saw you twice, but. [00:02:45] Speaker B: You saw me twice. [00:02:46] Speaker A: Well, we went out to music Man. [00:02:48] Speaker B: Oh, my God. We didn't speak a. I think there was a second. [00:02:52] Speaker A: There was one point where, like, we looked at each other across, like, the tables and we were like, you having fun? [00:02:58] Speaker B: No, not really. Did you like it? [00:03:01] Speaker A: I thought it was gonna be better, but it was. [00:03:03] Speaker B: I said. I kept saying to my sister, it was 15. What did you expect? But my sister in law, Nicolette, said it was amazing. We definitely got a different show. They also had Wicked. We had like Disney. [00:03:15] Speaker A: I mean, my kids liked it, so it was fine. [00:03:16] Speaker B: Yeah, I mean, Gio was, like, singing along and clapping his hands, so it was fine. Anyway. Yeah, we didn't speak to each other there then. We had a family party. Barely spoke, but kind of. No, we kind of sat next to each other, like, for a hot minute. [00:03:28] Speaker A: It is really hard to have one conversation when there are 35 kids, 23. [00:03:33] Speaker B: Literally 25 kids running around and you're nervous about. At one point, my son is standing in front of me. My sister in law, my husband and my brother in law were surrounding my son. I was down by my bag, finding something in the bag. I looked up, I'm looking at my son and I'm going, where's Gio? And all three of them go, he's right here. But I looked through them. I wasn't even paying attention. I was just so, like, vava Lou. [00:03:57] Speaker A: I did the same thing, except I was holding Rocco. [00:03:59] Speaker B: No, that's what I was holding. Okay, I feel better. [00:04:01] Speaker A: And I was like, where's Rocco? Literally in my arms. [00:04:04] Speaker B: Okay. I was embarrassed when mine happened, but yours is worse. [00:04:07] Speaker A: Hand to God, that happened. I was like, where's Rocco? Where's. [00:04:10] Speaker B: No, I was like, so embarrassed after I, like, had to leave. [00:04:12] Speaker A: No. [00:04:13] Speaker B: My sister in law was like, dom, are you all right? [00:04:15] Speaker A: I was like, no, it's very overstimulating. [00:04:17] Speaker B: You know, with the kids by the water. It freaks me out. [00:04:19] Speaker A: Yeah. There's the bay, there's the pool, there's the. [00:04:22] Speaker B: And God forbid my son has on a swimming. Literally the cooler. [00:04:25] Speaker A: Head swimming. [00:04:27] Speaker B: But she goes head first in the cooler. [00:04:31] Speaker A: But that's good. Well, we are talking today about the summer survival kit. [00:04:39] Speaker B: Yes. The hacks. [00:04:41] Speaker A: Because we are, what, halfway through the summer? And are we. I don't know. Feels like it's been a while. [00:04:47] Speaker B: We're not halfway through the summer, em. It's like July 10th. [00:04:49] Speaker A: I'm literally surviving day by day. [00:04:52] Speaker B: I mean. Yeah, I feel like I have to check in on you. [00:04:54] Speaker A: Is it possible to, like, you know, when people say like, you're gonna miss these days. Like, I get it. [00:05:00] Speaker B: I just saw so many videos on that. [00:05:01] Speaker A: I fully understand that. And I am. Because there is nothing I love more than my babies. As babies. [00:05:06] Speaker B: Yeah, there isn't. [00:05:06] Speaker A: But can you do, can you have, can you feel two ways at once with where, like, you're enjoying the moment, but, like, you are counting down the seconds until bedtime? [00:05:14] Speaker B: Yes. I mean, I, I feel so bad thinking that. [00:05:18] Speaker A: Yeah, I feel bad, but, like, I mean, it, it's, it's 9:00am and I'm like, am I gonna make it till lunch? I've been up for five hours already. [00:05:24] Speaker B: You know what's so funny? I look at you and I'm like, she. And I. Cause when I feel like this, I always resort to your thoughts. Yeah, I don't know if you do that with me, but. And I do. I feel like you love playing with your kids so much. You never feel that way, but you do. [00:05:39] Speaker A: I mean, I'm a fucking human. And no, I feel that way in the moment. I want to enjoy it because I, I always, I always want to, like, because my son is going to be five and it's going by so quickly. [00:05:52] Speaker B: This August is going to be five. Five. [00:05:54] Speaker A: He's my oldest, and he's just, he's still my baby. And I see how fast, like, I mean, you see, every mom knows how fast it goes, but, like, I'm really seeing it now, like, the day by day. And even though they do say, like, the days are hard and the years are short, like, it just. [00:06:08] Speaker B: Which kid do you want to go to bed first? Like, you need to get out of your head. [00:06:13] Speaker A: I mean, but Rocco's been, Rocco's been tough lately. [00:06:16] Speaker B: He. [00:06:16] Speaker A: He screamed his head off for one full hour for no reason. Yesterday we woke up from a nap. He was fine. He had a bottle on the couch. And then for zero reason, he just screamed and wouldn't stop. Wouldn't stop. I tried everything. I, I took him outside, I gave him a snack. I, I, we did a million things. He would not stop. [00:06:37] Speaker B: And what are Vienna and Joey doing? [00:06:38] Speaker A: It was just like, noise to them. [00:06:41] Speaker B: Like, who's talking in the background? [00:06:43] Speaker A: Yeah, but it was bad. If I wasn't the mom, like, I would call services. Yeah. [00:06:50] Speaker B: Oh, my God. And so this is the reason why we're talking about this on episode 12. [00:06:53] Speaker A: That happened so much so that I took him outside just to, like, get a new environment. He still was screaming. My neighbor came over and brought me a shot. She was like, you look like, you need a shot. [00:07:05] Speaker B: I was like, this is why you love your neighborhood kids, because they bring you alcohol. [00:07:09] Speaker A: She brought me that. She ended up breaking a shot glass in the process. But it was fine because I got a shot out of it. [00:07:14] Speaker B: Wait, which neighbor? [00:07:15] Speaker A: Right across the street. The girl's mom? [00:07:17] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:07:17] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:07:18] Speaker B: That's so. [00:07:18] Speaker A: Like. She was like, you look like. I think it was. It was like four o'. Clock. And she was like, so what time did Rocco go to bed, like, for the night? Probably, like, 7:30. [00:07:28] Speaker B: Did he calm down? [00:07:29] Speaker A: Yeah, he calmed down, but I don't know what. I still don't know what his problem was. [00:07:32] Speaker B: What do you do in that moment? You're like, this is what it is. [00:07:35] Speaker A: I was. I was like. I. At one point, I had mom rage. [00:07:38] Speaker B: Which you have mom rage. [00:07:40] Speaker A: No, I don't. [00:07:40] Speaker B: You. [00:07:41] Speaker A: I don't. But this. Yesterday, something was happening where I'm talking, like, screaming, crying for one whole hour. And I was like, stop. [00:07:49] Speaker B: No. Who was there with you? Your mom? [00:07:51] Speaker A: No, no one was there. It was me. [00:07:53] Speaker B: Was Vienna and Joey. Like, who's yelling? I yell. [00:07:56] Speaker A: I don't know why you don't think I yell. [00:07:58] Speaker B: I don't think you did anything wrong. [00:07:59] Speaker A: Absolutely. Yeah. I am surviving minute by minute. [00:08:02] Speaker B: Well, this is why episode 12 is consisting of Mom Hacks. What to do? What are we doing? What are the products that work? What are the products that are saving our days? [00:08:12] Speaker A: Saving our days on our daily basis. We're just trying to keep ourselves. [00:08:15] Speaker B: We're trying to keep up. And. And Em here is gonna be able to talk more on it because she has three kids. [00:08:20] Speaker A: I mean, I have three toddlers at home. I forgot that, like, we were just gonna be home all day to camp. We got. We have nothing. [00:08:28] Speaker B: Bad mistake. [00:08:29] Speaker A: Bad mistake number one. [00:08:32] Speaker B: Throw your kids in summer camp. [00:08:33] Speaker A: I mean, yeah, I didn't. [00:08:35] Speaker B: So would you do now you'll do that next year. [00:08:38] Speaker A: I mean, I'm a glutton for punishment, so probably not, but maybe your kids. [00:08:42] Speaker B: Will never go to summer. Wait, I thought V's in ballerina camp. [00:08:46] Speaker A: That was one week long. It was five days. [00:08:49] Speaker B: She didn't go for five days. [00:08:50] Speaker A: For five days, ballerina camp. That was it. Because I won the camp. She, like, just tested the one, testing it out. It was. It was good. It broke up the summer. And now it's July 12th, and here we have. [00:09:01] Speaker B: Here we are. And she goes, we're halfway done with summer. Like, we're not. Anyway, let's tell our story of the week real quick. [00:09:07] Speaker A: Okay? [00:09:08] Speaker B: And then we can get into it. [00:09:09] Speaker A: You want to go with yours first? [00:09:10] Speaker B: I had a really scary story happen to me. [00:09:12] Speaker A: Is it about a bird or anything? [00:09:15] Speaker B: No, but it's about the other fear I have. Not a bird. [00:09:18] Speaker A: Okay. Trigger word. Trigger word. [00:09:20] Speaker B: Vomit. Anyway, it was actually really scary. And at that moment in that time, I wasn't triggered or scared of the throw up. I was scared for my child's safety. Anyway, we're at my father in law's restaurant in Avenel. Shout out to Italia. Best Italian restaurant out there. It's so good. You should check it out. Anyway, we were there. I met my husband there and my brother in law, and they were actually with a client nonetheless, and we sat down and my son's been eating solid since he was like 10 months old. He's almost 17 months. So like, he. And obviously as a mom, you know, when they're choking, like, they're resilient, they know what to do. They literally gag the food up. Like, he's done it a million times. Like, I'm not really afraid of feeding my son anymore because he knows what he's doing. So we get the norm. I got penne pasta and a side of steamed veggies. And he didn't even touch the veggies. He was just eating the pasta. And not that I always cut the pasta up. My. My husband usually does, but this time I just didn't because he just, like, grabs it. [00:10:14] Speaker A: You didn't cut it at all? [00:10:15] Speaker B: No. [00:10:15] Speaker A: Okay. [00:10:16] Speaker B: Is that weird? I mean, would you have cut yours? [00:10:20] Speaker A: It depends. Okay, well, it was Penny. Penny? [00:10:22] Speaker B: Yeah. Penny, like, scares the out of me. [00:10:24] Speaker A: Yeah. Well, no. [00:10:25] Speaker B: Well, now I'll never. [00:10:26] Speaker A: No. You know what's worse than Penny? Spaghetti. [00:10:28] Speaker B: Oh, forget it. [00:10:29] Speaker A: I've had ones now. Strong the spaghetti out of. [00:10:33] Speaker B: And also, like, I need someone, a listener out there to tell me if this is like, a thing, because I chat gbt the out of this. Anyway, eating the penne, he does his normal, like. And then just the penny comes up. Okay. Like he normally does. [00:10:46] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:10:47] Speaker B: And then maybe like three seconds later, he starts to cough more and turn red, which he's done once before. And then like another piece comes up, but this was different. Turns red, vomits. Still red. [00:11:01] Speaker A: Like projectiles. [00:11:03] Speaker B: Projectiles to the point where I'm freaking out. And not like as much as you would think. My husband, like, lifts him up out of the highchair, so now he's standing in the highchair. [00:11:11] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:11:13] Speaker B: Red. Vomits again. Vomits a third time and a fourth time and a Fifth time. This is, like, his whole inside. [00:11:19] Speaker A: It's coming up now. [00:11:20] Speaker B: He's, like, startled. He's like, what is happening to me, bro? So we know. Like, I was like. And, like, not that I'm an expert in, like, the Heimlich. I honestly need to take a class because I don't even know what I would do in that time. But I was just letting him throw up. I think that's the right thing to do. I was just letting him go. So there was so much. And I'm not trying to sound gross. If this is a trigger for you, stop watching, because it's a trigger for me. And I might get up out of my seat and walk out the front door. Stops my husband grabs and brings to the bathroom. And I'm, like, in shock. I don't know what to do. I'm, like, standing there, like, what just happened? He comes back from the bathroom. He's totally fine. He's drinking water. He's eating a piece of bread. And I'm like. [00:11:58] Speaker A: It was like nothing happened. [00:11:59] Speaker B: Like, nothing. He's laughing. He's trying to. [00:12:01] Speaker A: Kids are Brazilian. Michael. [00:12:03] Speaker B: Michael said he had penne pasta in his hand as he was throwing up. So as he was walking away to the bathroom, he was trying to eat it again. I'm like, what is happening? Meanwhile, I couldn't even get in my car and drive. I was so shooken up for the next hour to two hours. I didn't know what to do with myself. [00:12:15] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:12:15] Speaker B: But, like, thank God he wasn't Bama. Bama lay down. Anyway, that's my story. You never know what could happen. It was penne pasta, which I feel like is the go to meal for so many kids. Was that choking? Like, was that. [00:12:32] Speaker A: I think. [00:12:32] Speaker B: Was that a thing? [00:12:33] Speaker A: He was choking, and then I think, you know when you have, like, your own gag. [00:12:36] Speaker B: Yeah. I think his gag reflex triggered him to just project out. Or they say, like, he got so worked up from the choking. [00:12:42] Speaker A: Yeah. That it was just kind of coming up. [00:12:43] Speaker B: It was just terrify. No, he's. [00:12:45] Speaker A: But there is nothing scarier than choking. [00:12:48] Speaker B: Nothing. I don't care about him. [00:12:49] Speaker A: Drowning, maybe. [00:12:50] Speaker B: Oh, yeah, drowning. We're never going outside again. So that's my story of the week. He's fine, but it was very, very scary. [00:12:56] Speaker A: That is scary. All right, hold on. Let me take a sip from that, because my kids are probably eating penne right now. [00:13:02] Speaker B: No, literally, penne vodka. I just chipped my tooth. Look at this. This dog just ruined our rug. I can't with him his master's gone. He's acting. [00:13:10] Speaker A: My story, mine is that it's a story and a hack. [00:13:17] Speaker B: When one. [00:13:17] Speaker A: I love that. Well, the hack is if you are a mom and you have three babies, young children take an edible. Just take an edible. I have never felt. [00:13:29] Speaker B: So you say this every time you can. Edible just like, it helps you survive the edge. [00:13:33] Speaker A: Like, have you ever taken an edible? Yes. [00:13:35] Speaker B: And the last time I took one, I like spiraled and it was. I told you that story before. [00:13:40] Speaker A: Okay, but like whatever edible I took, not as a mom, was the right one because I. Okay. We were going on a boat ride for 4th of July, seeing fireworks on the water. I took an edible. [00:13:50] Speaker B: Did everyone take an edible? [00:13:52] Speaker A: Uh, I'm just talking about myself. I took an edible and I was flying high. I was so happy. I was so calm. I was staring into the ocean with my daughter, looking for mermaids, talking about Moana's village out in the water. She was like loving every second of it. [00:14:10] Speaker B: Not no clue that your mother's highs. [00:14:12] Speaker A: Are real mermaids out there. [00:14:13] Speaker B: Go look. [00:14:14] Speaker A: There's a real mermaid right there. Don't you see that weave? That was just the flipper. And she was like, oh my God, I saw it too. We're just like. [00:14:21] Speaker B: You were probably actually seeing mermaids and. [00:14:23] Speaker A: I was actually seeing mermaids. And she was loving the conversation. That's hilarious. I was just like living my best life. And then the fireworks. Oh my God, the cars. I was like this, like in my glory, just like staring up into the sky. [00:14:37] Speaker B: Earth to Emily. [00:14:38] Speaker A: I don't even know. I didn't even talk to anyone else. I was just enjoying my time. [00:14:42] Speaker B: I love that for you. It really sounds appetizing. [00:14:45] Speaker A: I was that we were eating gummy bears and Swedish fish and we were just like looking at the water and the fireworks. But then. [00:14:54] Speaker B: Oh, God. [00:14:55] Speaker A: So we left. We left Rocco home. It was late. We're on Armand's boat. So we. We put Rocco to bed. And then we just took Joey and Vienna. But so both of the kids, it was really late. It was like 10 o' clock when we got off the boat and they were passed out and they in the car and. And I was like, oh, how nice would it be if we just. Just like drove straight home like, so we could put them in their cribs, like, not back to my mother in laws. And I was like, let's just do that. And Joe like turned to me, he was like, I mean, you know, we don't have Rocco. [00:15:22] Speaker B: I was like, wait, I Almost just said, that's the greatest idea. [00:15:27] Speaker A: And I forgot. I like completely forgot. Rocco wasn't there. [00:15:31] Speaker B: Like, wait, so your husband like, like. [00:15:34] Speaker A: I was completely set on us just like driving straight home. Like, we'll worry about the suitcases later. Like it would just be so nice, just be in our own. [00:15:40] Speaker B: What was your plan about the suitcases? [00:15:41] Speaker A: I don't know. [00:15:42] Speaker B: We get them a different town or. [00:15:43] Speaker A: Like my mother in law would drop them off on the side of the road. Like. [00:15:47] Speaker B: And your husband was like your son. [00:15:49] Speaker A: You know, we don't have Rocco. And I was like, oh, our third kid was you. [00:15:54] Speaker B: Were you cracking up? [00:15:55] Speaker A: I'm just picturing up then. Then. So they were passed out. We were like, okay, plan of attack. Joe was going to carry Joey, I was going to carry Vienna up. Just back into the beds. Quick transfer, right? So can you imagine trying to pick up a 35 year old pound toddler? [00:16:13] Speaker B: It's 35 pounds. Which one? [00:16:15] Speaker A: Vienna? When you can't even feel your own body. So I'm like, I'm like my limbs aren't really working well. I'm like trying to get her out of the car seat. Then finally I get her out, trying to not wake her up. And I'm holding her over my shoulder and we're like walking like around back and there's like a shadow, like we're walking. So the sh. Our shadow is on the house and her arm is just like a dead arm, like swinging. So it looked like a monster was chasing. [00:16:41] Speaker B: Wait, so you visualized all this? [00:16:44] Speaker A: Literally scared of my own shadow. I was like chasing. I was running because I was scared of the shadow. But I was so high. [00:16:52] Speaker B: Was your husband like, what is wrong with my wife? [00:16:54] Speaker A: I know, it gets worse. So we finally got them, got them down and we're laying in bed. I'm just like, I'm so high right now. I'm just like giggling. And he's like, you have a problem. And everything he's saying. I'm laughing and he's not even funny. [00:17:09] Speaker B: Where were the kids? [00:17:10] Speaker A: They were sleeping in the bunk bed. [00:17:12] Speaker B: And you're just laughing. [00:17:12] Speaker A: Yeah, and I was just like cracking up. He was like, did you have the. [00:17:15] Speaker B: Best night's sleep of your life? [00:17:16] Speaker A: Yeah, it was the best. Take an edible, take the edge off. Just relax, enjoy. [00:17:22] Speaker B: Watch mermaids. [00:17:22] Speaker A: Watch mermaids. [00:17:24] Speaker B: That sounds appetizing. No. Thank you though. [00:17:27] Speaker A: Okay. It's good for me. [00:17:29] Speaker B: Happy for you. [00:17:30] Speaker A: I might do it again. [00:17:31] Speaker B: Are you high right now? [00:17:32] Speaker A: No, I would. [00:17:34] Speaker B: I can't. Okay. Anyway, moving on. [00:17:35] Speaker A: Moving on. That would be good. I'm not Mom. Hacks. [00:17:43] Speaker B: All right, let's get into it, because we have a lot to talk about. Not really, though, do we? I mean, anyway, the mom. Don't you ever feel like you look out into the abyss of the other. [00:17:54] Speaker A: Mom, of the mermaid, the mermaid mom, and you're like, how are they doing? [00:17:59] Speaker B: Like, where are they getting their clothes? Where are they getting their hacks from? What are they doing? But I feel like. And then you sit back, and I feel like everyone's like, you even said to me, you're like, that way. You are. [00:18:13] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, I feel like even your tiktoks, when you're like, I just got up and got dressed, and this is my outfit of the day. I'm like. [00:18:18] Speaker B: And that's my life. [00:18:19] Speaker A: Pajamas three. Yeah. [00:18:21] Speaker B: But I also look out and I'm like, where are you getting that Gap set? I mean, where are you getting that set from the Gap. [00:18:27] Speaker A: Yeah, but you do it. You have it. You are it. [00:18:29] Speaker B: Do I? [00:18:30] Speaker A: Yeah. If somebody looks at you from the outside that doesn't really know you, you're that mom that is dressed, has your fucking bag packed perfectly, and you're put together and your kid is happy and healthy. [00:18:42] Speaker B: It's so crazy because I feel like I was sitting here prepping for the episode. [00:18:47] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:18:47] Speaker B: And I was like, I don't. I feel like I don't have clothes. Mom clothes. I don't have hacks. I don't have. Like, you got. [00:18:53] Speaker A: You do. [00:18:54] Speaker B: Isn't it weird, though, that you think like that? [00:18:56] Speaker A: Yeah, but I think that. I think that's just, like, a human thing, just even. [00:19:00] Speaker B: And I just got done saying, like, comparing myself. I don't. I don't feel like I compare myself. I feel like I compared to my own self. [00:19:05] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:19:06] Speaker B: Is that. [00:19:08] Speaker A: We're home alone. [00:19:10] Speaker B: No, I'm dead. [00:19:10] Speaker A: No, it's like something fell, but there's no kids here. You want to pause? [00:19:15] Speaker B: No. Is there someone in the house? [00:19:17] Speaker A: No, it wasn't a. It wasn't a. You cannot do that shit to me. I hate you. I hate you. Okay. [00:19:31] Speaker B: I had to. But that was a real sound. [00:19:33] Speaker A: That was a sound, and then that was a fake. [00:19:36] Speaker B: Okay, so let's get into the survivor kit. Like, what's saving our standing on a daily basis? [00:19:42] Speaker A: Mine. [00:19:42] Speaker B: Look at this dog. [00:19:43] Speaker A: I think my number one thing that I have is I always have my bog bag packed and ready to go. [00:19:48] Speaker B: Oh, you bring that bog bag Where? [00:19:50] Speaker A: Like a park? No, like, to the pool, to the beach. Like, I just have it. And maybe to the park. [00:19:55] Speaker B: I can hate on that bog bag, by the way. Yeah, I love my bog bag. I'm a bog mom. [00:20:00] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:20:01] Speaker B: I have two. [00:20:01] Speaker A: Oh, you get hate on it. [00:20:02] Speaker B: I get hate. Like people hate on me. [00:20:03] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. But it's so convenient. [00:20:05] Speaker B: I love it. [00:20:06] Speaker A: And now they have all those. [00:20:08] Speaker B: Do you ever unpack things? [00:20:09] Speaker A: I unpack it. [00:20:10] Speaker B: Yeah. I don't keep mine packed. [00:20:11] Speaker A: No, Like, I unpack it like, because I put. I put like snacks and like, I do. I like, change out clothes. I diapers. [00:20:18] Speaker B: Like, I feel like the bug bag is the hat. [00:20:19] Speaker A: When I have my bag. Bag. Like it's my diaper bag and my bag. [00:20:22] Speaker B: Yeah, same. [00:20:23] Speaker A: And my bathing suit. Like, I have everything. [00:20:26] Speaker B: It's your bag too. [00:20:27] Speaker A: And mine. My bras. [00:20:28] Speaker B: Your bras and your undies. But I feel like the bog bag, like, is the new diaper bag. I don't have. I don't carry around a diaper bag anymore. [00:20:35] Speaker A: I really don't look for the summer. [00:20:37] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:20:37] Speaker A: Sometimes like when I went down the shore, I also packed the diaper bag just because I needed more room. [00:20:42] Speaker B: Yeah. Extra bag. Yeah. Yeah. [00:20:44] Speaker A: I mean, but I have that packed and ready to go. And there's always swimmy diapers in there. Bathing suits, change of clothes, snacks. [00:20:53] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:20:53] Speaker A: Toys. Yeah, toys. [00:20:55] Speaker B: You ever bring toys anymore? Like, what are the new, like, toys? [00:20:57] Speaker A: No, but I always have like, little touching. My kids still like, like the car. Hot. Hot. [00:21:03] Speaker B: Hot wheels. [00:21:03] Speaker A: Hot wheels. They love the hot. [00:21:05] Speaker B: Okay. [00:21:05] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:21:05] Speaker B: Yeah. I feel like if we're gonna get into like the mom hack. [00:21:10] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:21:11] Speaker B: Sitch. [00:21:12] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:21:13] Speaker B: This is like, not a hack, but like, kinda. I freeze everything. Oh, ice pops, yogurts. Like, I just feel. I don't. [00:21:23] Speaker A: I should. [00:21:23] Speaker B: I freeze yogurt pops. [00:21:25] Speaker A: Like, that's a good hack. [00:21:26] Speaker B: Kitty pops. Anything that I can freeze, I do it like bars. They're frozen because I feel like they don't really eat longer to eat. They're better on like, the teeth. It's colder for when it's outside. It's hot. And they don't melt as quickly. Yeah, I just feel like freeze anything that's my hack. I just freeze. I put everything in the freezer. I really do. [00:21:45] Speaker A: That's actually good. I. I don't do that. I should do that. But I. My kids, like, this morning, I'm pretty sure my kids had ice pops for breakfast. It's like, okay, ice pops. That's your Ahmad and coloring. Okay. Then ice pops. Then what? Then ice pops. [00:21:59] Speaker B: I feel like you're Always doing an activity, too. [00:22:00] Speaker A: We're always doing activity. I have a lot of hacks for things that I've. That I have for the kids that I think moms will like to hear. But also a mom hack that I absolutely love about ice pops is if you're just done with the mess and. And you're like, need a 10 minutes, give them an ice pop and put them in the bath. They'll eat the ice pop in the bath. [00:22:19] Speaker B: I love that it doesn't get messy. [00:22:20] Speaker A: Get messy and they play. And the water will turn pink or whatever color the ice pop is, and it'll be fun for them. And sometimes they just like, dip it in and then that's just like a color blue bath. [00:22:29] Speaker B: Wait. Love that hack. [00:22:30] Speaker A: My kids love doing that. [00:22:32] Speaker B: Let me ask you something about the bath, though. [00:22:33] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:22:34] Speaker B: Because I feel like I'm struggling a little. So do you fill it up before they. They get to the bath? What is your bath routine? Real quick bath hack, bath hack. [00:22:43] Speaker A: Well, it depends because now I really use the bath as, like, playtime for me. Like, I. I give them time to play, but I like to wash them without the dirty water. [00:22:52] Speaker B: So what do you do? What's your hat? [00:22:53] Speaker A: Like? I wash them at the end while you're draining. Yeah. And then like, I wash them quick. [00:22:58] Speaker B: So you fill bath up, bath is filled, then put kids in. They play as it's draining. You clean. [00:23:05] Speaker A: Yep. [00:23:06] Speaker B: Okay. So I do. I like that. [00:23:08] Speaker A: Yeah. I do the opposite. [00:23:10] Speaker B: No, I did do the opposite, though. I let it run. Water run. It's getting hot. Put you in. There's no water in there. He's just playing. I wash them down, rinse them out. Then I clog it, let it fill. After the dirty water wash down. Clog it, let it fill up. [00:23:25] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:23:25] Speaker B: Then let them play. Then as it's draining again, I'll just, like, rinse them with water. [00:23:28] Speaker A: Well, so I do. I do that sometimes, but also, like, when I actually want to, like, step away for a minute. I can't have a lot of water in because Rocco still little. [00:23:37] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:23:37] Speaker A: So I let it drain and then they just like, play with their. They have like teacup sets and they. [00:23:41] Speaker B: Just like drinking the water. [00:23:42] Speaker A: Yeah. It's gross. They. My kids do that too. [00:23:45] Speaker B: Okay. I love those two hacks. The popsicle hack is genius. I love that hack. Really, really good hat. I mean, this is not a hack for me. I just feel like the kiddie pool. [00:23:53] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:23:53] Speaker B: With a tent and a, And a, A fenced in, like, area is clutch. [00:23:58] Speaker A: Clutch Not a hack. [00:23:59] Speaker B: But like, that's like a standard shade area fenced in seat for you. [00:24:05] Speaker A: Yeah. Just. [00:24:06] Speaker B: That's my mom's summer hack dinner table. [00:24:09] Speaker A: Whatever. [00:24:09] Speaker B: Yes. [00:24:10] Speaker A: Buckets. [00:24:11] Speaker B: Buckets. [00:24:12] Speaker A: I am living on a poor girl summer. We don't have a pool. [00:24:14] Speaker B: Poor girl summer. [00:24:16] Speaker A: Literally playing in buckets. But it's fine. Yeah, they're happy in buckets. I grew up in buckets. You grew up in pools? I grew up. [00:24:22] Speaker B: I grew up in pools. [00:24:23] Speaker A: Fine. [00:24:24] Speaker B: You grew up in bathtubs is fine. [00:24:26] Speaker A: My, like, my kids are. I give them an actual bottle of dawn. Sometimes I put like, their baby soap in it so they don't need it. But sometimes they're using regular dawn and they fill it up and I. They. They put out their bikes or their cars or whatever. And they do car wash. [00:24:43] Speaker B: I love that. [00:24:45] Speaker A: Busy. [00:24:46] Speaker B: But does Rocco? Because I feel like you would run around. [00:24:48] Speaker A: Rocco will do. I mean, I'm sitting there, I'm doing it. And Rocco loves that. I give them a cloth. I give them sponges, like new sponges. [00:24:55] Speaker B: I love that. [00:24:56] Speaker A: And they. They go to town. It's a car wash. And then sometimes they'll do our real cars. [00:25:02] Speaker B: I need a car wash day. Kids wash my car. [00:25:04] Speaker A: They'll do that. Sometimes I make them wash, like the water table or. I love that. [00:25:09] Speaker B: Oh, why you clean all that stuff? Yeah. [00:25:11] Speaker A: I mean, try. [00:25:12] Speaker B: Yeah, I love that. [00:25:13] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:25:13] Speaker B: What a good idea. You know what I thought about? That's actually like. You're going to think I'm nuts. Maybe not. But my extreme hack of the summer is because Geo is like, Gio gets warm really quickly. Like, I feel like every time someone looks at my son, he's outside for two seconds. He's bright red. [00:25:30] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:25:31] Speaker B: He just gets so hot. So I literally been doing, like my do do your own type of things. I've been, like, looking up hacks and stuff. And I wet a washcloth, literally. [00:25:41] Speaker A: Okay. [00:25:41] Speaker B: And it's wet and we're outside. I did it a lot down the shore. And you know me, I'm big on essential oils. [00:25:47] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:25:48] Speaker B: Lavender oil. So a lavender essential oil. Young living, if you know the brand, they have kitty options literally all over our house. So I wet a washcloth and I bring it outside and I pour some drops of essential oil on it and I wipe him down in it so it keeps him cool, but also calm. [00:26:08] Speaker A: Cool and calm. That's all we want. [00:26:09] Speaker B: And I was like, looking up, I have like, all these essential oils. I'm like, there's going to be a hack with these essential oils. And that was like the main hack. I'm like, I'm going to do this. And it actually works. It cools him down for like hours. Wow. It kept him cool. I don't know if the lavender. It was the lavender mixture with the like the cold flag, but I don't know. But also like, maybe he's excited, he's having fun. Like, maybe it just kept him more like. Yeah, Zen. [00:26:32] Speaker A: Maybe that's like my. [00:26:33] Speaker B: If you're an essential oil mom. Like I am like that. That's my like main hack. [00:26:36] Speaker A: That's a good hack. I am not. But like that sounds great. [00:26:40] Speaker B: Don't be pouring like regular essential oils on your kid because like that's not a thing. That's a really big hack of mine. [00:26:46] Speaker A: But speaking of cool, this is not really like that, but I have done the. So all of my hacks are more geared towards like toddlers, which. [00:26:56] Speaker B: Yeah. When you have a five year old at home. [00:26:58] Speaker A: So toddlers are hard to keep entertained all day long without a camp at home. [00:27:03] Speaker B: Yeah. What the doing all day? [00:27:05] Speaker A: This is what I'm doing. I'm telling all my secrets. [00:27:08] Speaker B: You have some good ass secrets in here. Let me tell you. [00:27:10] Speaker A: In the night before they go, when they're going to bed, you take their favorite toys, right? You fill a bucket of the favorite toys with water. You put it in the freezer. So their toys. [00:27:19] Speaker B: How is a bucket with toys fitting in your freezer? [00:27:22] Speaker A: We have a freezer downstairs. We have like. [00:27:24] Speaker B: So do I. I forgot about it though. [00:27:26] Speaker A: So. Yeah, but like, so, so then the toys get frozen in the bucket. Wait, what up? [00:27:32] Speaker B: Okay, Is the bucket filled with water? Like, how's it freezing? Are they just getting cold? [00:27:36] Speaker A: No. So you put like their favorite cars in water. In water. [00:27:41] Speaker B: Okay. [00:27:41] Speaker A: Then you put, it's. I'm talking like a little Tupperware. [00:27:43] Speaker B: Okay. [00:27:44] Speaker A: So you put the Tupperware in the freezer. So then overnight it freezes the toys inside the frozen ice. [00:27:50] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:27:51] Speaker A: Then you say, guys, you have to get your toys out and they hack. [00:27:55] Speaker B: Away at the ice in your house, outside your house. [00:27:58] Speaker A: I mean, you could do it outside, but sometimes I just set up a towel. Like just water? Yeah, who cares? And they hack away at the ice to get the toys. And it takes like an hour occupies them. They're so excited, they use their little hammers, their fake hammers they use. [00:28:11] Speaker B: So like, like that. You are a hack. [00:28:15] Speaker A: I mean, I'm just trying to keep my kids entertained. [00:28:17] Speaker B: Like, I always wonder, like, what is Emily doing right now her three kids. Like, in the rain. [00:28:22] Speaker A: I'm dancing upside down on my head, literally. [00:28:24] Speaker B: That's a good idea. [00:28:26] Speaker A: Yeah, I mean, I have a lot more. We have. We do this thing called a mishmash. You're not gonna like this one. It's called a mishmash. My mom invented it, I think, but we did it when we were kids. You take everything. You go in your refrigerator, you take ketchup, you take mayo. You take whatever you have. [00:28:42] Speaker B: Absolutely not. [00:28:45] Speaker A: And you mix it in a bowl. [00:28:47] Speaker B: I'm barfing. [00:28:48] Speaker A: And you pretend it's like this. This like, secret potion. And you mix it up and it just keeps them entertained. [00:28:55] Speaker B: Wait, hold the up? [00:28:58] Speaker A: Yep. Mishmash. People do it. I mean, just gross. Crack an egg. [00:29:04] Speaker B: Flour marks the spot. [00:29:05] Speaker A: We're not doing that mish. [00:29:07] Speaker B: Mock ketchup muscle. They're gonna grub with their hands and shit. [00:29:10] Speaker A: No, they just. They mix it. [00:29:11] Speaker B: It's like it's all over. [00:29:13] Speaker A: Like. No, it's literally in a bowl. And you just mix it up and it's a secret potion. [00:29:18] Speaker B: I just picture you grabbing catchment mustard out of your fridge and like, let's do mishmash. Relish. Like fucking pickle juice relish. [00:29:24] Speaker A: Whatever they want. Anything but the kitchen sink. Science experiment. [00:29:29] Speaker B: I don't like that. Okay. [00:29:30] Speaker A: Yeah, I told you weren't gonna like that one. Any science experiment we make. I mean, we're still on hacks, right? Yeah, I mean, these are things. They're not hacks. [00:29:38] Speaker B: They're like that. [00:29:39] Speaker A: I do. [00:29:39] Speaker B: Yeah. Like summer. Summer. Summer. [00:29:41] Speaker A: Hacks. [00:29:41] Speaker B: Really. Keep going. Some are things to do that are like, not your everyday fish table. [00:29:49] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:29:49] Speaker B: Water table thing. Go ahead. [00:29:50] Speaker A: Oh, you know what's really good? They have these things. [00:29:53] Speaker B: Talk to me. [00:29:54] Speaker A: They have these color changing cars. They're hot wheels, but they're color changing, so you could dip them. You have hot water, cold water. [00:30:04] Speaker B: Wait, I actually saw that, though. [00:30:05] Speaker A: They're really cool. The kids love them. We play with them in the bath. We do, like, different. [00:30:10] Speaker B: And where do you store all this stuff? [00:30:12] Speaker A: I just have everywhere. [00:30:13] Speaker B: You do? Wait, I love that. Keep going. Talk to me, talk to me, talk to me. What else? [00:30:19] Speaker A: I mean, I, like, I am like, a huge believer of just, like, sitting with your kids and playing for, like, if you just sit and play with them for like five or 10 minutes, like, that makes them happy. [00:30:30] Speaker B: Yeah, it does. [00:30:31] Speaker A: And then. And then you could, like, do something else. But, like, if you set them up like. Like, I. I've set them up with, like a fort. Like, I Sit. And I actually make a fun fort. [00:30:40] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:30:40] Speaker A: And then we get glow sticks. We put every light up toy that we have in the basement. We put it in the fort. And then I'll fucking throw them their iPads and they'll stay in there for hours. Yeah. And play. But like, Mommy made the fort with them, so that was fun. And then I can do whatever I have to do. [00:30:55] Speaker B: It's so easy for you to talk about this stuff because you have like three kids. So it's like you have a village like you have. I feel like more ideas pop into your head the more kids you have. Because it's like, what can I do that's gonna. [00:31:06] Speaker A: I mean, to not drive myself at. [00:31:08] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, it's also fun for you. I feel like. [00:31:11] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:11] Speaker B: Like right now, like, that this is what. This is why moms are like, I need another kid. Because it not only like, it's like at this point, it's like, I feel bad I'm sitting with you, but like, how much can I sit with him and play? [00:31:24] Speaker A: Yeah. No, I was thinking about that because I only had Joey for a short amount of time and it was just me and him and it. And this is why I think people do have. Can have like four or five kids because it gets easier in a sense where they entertain each other. Right. And they. [00:31:39] Speaker B: Joey's five, so like, he's like entertaining his sister and stuff. [00:31:43] Speaker A: I mean, they definitely. They're definitely starting to play. [00:31:45] Speaker B: But like, what else do you have on here, though? [00:31:47] Speaker A: I mean, I have like. I have a. I call it like my Summer Fun Bucket. I go to Five Below or the Dollar Store. [00:31:54] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:31:54] Speaker A: And I just get like, new, like new chalk, new coloring stuff. And like, if my kids are on one and I need five seconds, like, I bring out the Summer Fun Bucket and I give them like a new play. D'oh. Like, I love that. [00:32:06] Speaker B: I used to love that as a kid. [00:32:06] Speaker A: Like. [00:32:07] Speaker B: Yeah, my parents used to have like, little thing. Okay, you want the Summer Fun Bucket? Yeah, let's, you know, like, it just like. [00:32:12] Speaker A: Like bounce back and they'll. [00:32:14] Speaker B: Yeah, I love that. [00:32:15] Speaker A: Play with that. [00:32:15] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:32:16] Speaker A: Like, they paint. They do like, a lot. They paint rocks. Like down the shore, we painted seashells. That was fun to do. [00:32:22] Speaker B: The shore is so fun. [00:32:22] Speaker A: Yeah. Down to shore. [00:32:23] Speaker B: Different environment. [00:32:24] Speaker A: Yeah, I love that. [00:32:26] Speaker B: What else you got on here? [00:32:27] Speaker A: Oh, my friend gave me this hack. It's actually works. I didn't think it would work, but around like 3 o', clock, you don't say anything and you just put Out a tray of, like, healthy foods, like carrots, celery, cut up cucumbers. Don't say a word. [00:32:41] Speaker B: That's so my vibe. [00:32:42] Speaker A: And they'll just like, nosh on them just because it's the only thing that's out. [00:32:46] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:32:47] Speaker A: And like, I like, my kids actually. [00:32:49] Speaker B: Like, sell never feeding my child again. But it's fine. [00:32:52] Speaker A: But, like, it has worked. I was like, oh, that's a genius thing. Just. [00:32:56] Speaker B: So where do you put it? Like, on a kiddie table? [00:32:58] Speaker A: Yeah, like, just out where they could reach it. And it worked. It was a good. [00:33:03] Speaker B: And they just ate. Yeah, for the first time. [00:33:04] Speaker A: For the first time ever. They just ate the shit. [00:33:06] Speaker B: They ate carrots. [00:33:08] Speaker A: Oh, this is. This is my. This was my golden hack. So we have. We bought. I bought so many rolls of this. You know the blue painter's tape like you put on the edge? [00:33:21] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:33:22] Speaker A: It doesn't grow. So I bought so many rolls of it, I let my kids. [00:33:27] Speaker B: Where? [00:33:27] Speaker A: Home Depot. Yeah. I just Amazon. But you just let them unravel it and they can wrap. They wrapped my entire kitchen. They did the cabinets, they did around the island. They just kept wrapping it around. They made like. They made like, ramps. [00:33:41] Speaker B: You're kidding. They're gonna grow up and they're gonna be like, I had the time of my life. [00:33:46] Speaker A: Wait, 17 minutes. I had alone time with Joe. We went upstairs, we said, how long could it take for that? We did this the other day. They. We. We said, okay, make us like, the coolest, like, ramp, like, thing for your hot wheel. Joey, Vienna and Rocco taped up the entire downstairs. And Joe and I had a timer on 17 minutes. We had to ourselves up. [00:34:08] Speaker B: What did you guys do? [00:34:09] Speaker A: What do you think we did? [00:34:10] Speaker B: Wait, so it was so. I kind of love that your husband's working nights, by the way. [00:34:15] Speaker A: Oh, yeah, my husband is working nights now, so he's home during the day. I have, like, a love hate relationship with it. I'm kind of starting to like, it's your. [00:34:21] Speaker B: It's your. This is. This is your. This is your. Michael worked from home yesterday because he was leaving for Jamaica this morning. So he, like, has shit to do and stuff. And I was like, get out of here, dude. Yeah, this is not your fucking time. [00:34:35] Speaker A: I feel like that it's also really hard because the kids don't really understand. Like, dad is upstairs sleeping at 6am he wants to. His goal is to, like, make it to like 1pm like, come home at 5:30, sleep till 1. But I mean, I can't Tell you how many times the kids go in the room and be like, daddy, are you awake? Like, oh, my God, the poor guy. Our problem is the doors don't lock. They lock, but Joey knows how to. You, you just take anything and you undo it. So they just check on him at all times. [00:35:04] Speaker B: During those 17 minutes. [00:35:06] Speaker A: 17 minutes we had. [00:35:07] Speaker B: You weren't scared of someone? You weren't scared of someone coming in? [00:35:12] Speaker A: No. So we have two. [00:35:13] Speaker B: What is your hack there? [00:35:15] Speaker A: To make sure baby gate. Baby gate. Lock the door so we could at least hear somebody coming. Yeah. [00:35:23] Speaker B: I feel like your life is turning a corner. [00:35:25] Speaker A: I mean, I'm having great summer. [00:35:27] Speaker B: I'm just, I'm looking at everything you're doing. I love it so much. I love that you have really good hacks. I mean, if you need to call somebody for hack, it's Emily. All right, let's move on. Let's move on to products we're loving right now. Okay, let's break it down like our mini favorites. What's like your mini favorite? Let's do a little haul right now. I mean, a given. Baby fans. [00:35:52] Speaker A: Oh, the baby fans. Yeah. [00:35:53] Speaker B: Which one do you use? [00:35:55] Speaker A: I don't know the brand. [00:35:56] Speaker B: I use the freedom. Yeah. [00:35:58] Speaker A: Yeah, the freedom one's good. [00:35:59] Speaker B: But you know what my problem is, though? Mine. It's annoying that you constantly have to charge it. [00:36:04] Speaker A: So does yours have a battery and a charger? [00:36:07] Speaker B: No, just the charger, I think. I don't know. I didn't even, I didn't even realize. [00:36:11] Speaker A: No, it's a charger, but it just bothers me. [00:36:14] Speaker B: It's always dead every time I need it. And I feel like those legs that wrap around the whatever. Yeah. Always break. [00:36:21] Speaker A: Octopus. [00:36:22] Speaker B: They break. [00:36:23] Speaker A: I know. [00:36:24] Speaker B: I, I. So, like, what are we using the. Let me talk to you about something. How many people have those I don't know about? Do I need to get one? [00:36:33] Speaker A: Do you put them on your kid or you, you to keep you wait. [00:36:36] Speaker B: I have a fan myself. [00:36:38] Speaker A: I don't know. [00:36:38] Speaker B: This Geo doesn't like a fan. [00:36:40] Speaker A: Oh. [00:36:41] Speaker B: Honestly, I'm using the fan for myself. But besides the point, fans are good for kids because I just feel like, whatever. But neck. [00:36:47] Speaker A: And a stroller. [00:36:47] Speaker B: Yeah. In a stroller. Yeah. Like hold the beach. [00:36:50] Speaker A: Yeah. While you're fanny. I just fan my kids. [00:36:53] Speaker B: Yeah, but like the neck fans, Honestly, I get hot like that. Like, I wouldn't mind it. [00:36:57] Speaker A: I mean, try it out. [00:36:58] Speaker B: I know, but they're freaking me out every time someone has one on. Like, what's around your Neck. [00:37:02] Speaker A: The water bottles are a huge thing for the summer. Right? Like so what water bottle are you using for gia? [00:37:08] Speaker B: Mine is always a. [00:37:10] Speaker A: The yeti. [00:37:11] Speaker B: Yeah. And it's not Yeti. Oh no, it is Yeti brand. Yeah, it's a Yeti. [00:37:14] Speaker A: Yetis are good because they actually keep it cold. [00:37:17] Speaker B: Yeah. They put milk in it. [00:37:19] Speaker A: Yeah. I use the yeti too. But like. [00:37:21] Speaker B: Or the munchkin. The munchkin. I like that one too. [00:37:24] Speaker A: What is the munchkin one? [00:37:25] Speaker B: It's that circle one I have. This is his name on it. The bright blue one. The yeti is a dark blue one that says his name. Yeah, I like the much fun too. It's the same thing. [00:37:31] Speaker A: The Owala o w a l a are like the go to of the summer. [00:37:37] Speaker B: Why do they keep cold? [00:37:39] Speaker A: They keep cold. [00:37:40] Speaker B: They have their tan like that. [00:37:42] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. And they. They have like a lock. They don't spill and they're really good. Oala. [00:37:49] Speaker B: So when the yeti ones open and it's dropped on the floor, it spills? [00:37:52] Speaker A: Yes. [00:37:52] Speaker B: A wall is don't when it's open. [00:37:55] Speaker A: Correct. [00:37:55] Speaker B: A walla Owalla. [00:37:57] Speaker A: Yep. Okay. But my kids, like Joey uses his tall Gatorade. She's the Gatorade squirt top. [00:38:03] Speaker B: Oh yeah. Squirt bottle. [00:38:04] Speaker A: He loves it. [00:38:05] Speaker B: Yeah, he. [00:38:06] Speaker A: I mean he, he does drink a lot of water. So like it could hold a lot of water. [00:38:09] Speaker B: Yeah. You know what I also noticed your kids do though, like for you to get them to drink anything is like you have those like character bottles that. [00:38:16] Speaker A: You just like wash. Oh, I do that. [00:38:17] Speaker B: That's a hack. You don't rebuy. You just keep those bottles that have like a mermaid on top or like an animal. [00:38:23] Speaker A: There was a point where they were obsessed. [00:38:25] Speaker B: Yeah. And you just rewatch. [00:38:26] Speaker A: They love them. I rewatch them. They had every character out there. [00:38:30] Speaker B: What is actually in it? [00:38:32] Speaker A: It's juice, but it's like it's. I think it's called Happy to grow. [00:38:37] Speaker B: My husband would never. [00:38:38] Speaker A: Yeah, I like, I thought that was. [00:38:40] Speaker B: Like such a good hack. That's like the first hack I ever noticed. You did. [00:38:43] Speaker A: Yeah, I did do that. I forgot about. [00:38:45] Speaker B: I take fudgeing notes on. [00:38:46] Speaker A: You don't hear me. I'm just a mom. [00:38:50] Speaker B: Just a mom trying to survive. No, but I'm really big on sunscreen. [00:38:55] Speaker A: Okay. [00:38:55] Speaker B: So honestly, like you said, my son. This is like sounds so fudgeing absurd. My son's pigmentation. You said it the second you walked in. Like, oh my God, he's so like golden tan. [00:39:06] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:39:07] Speaker B: The sunscreen I use, it's the one from. [00:39:09] Speaker A: What is it, four? [00:39:10] Speaker B: It's actually Baboo. [00:39:12] Speaker A: B A, B O. Oh, yeah, Baboo. It comes in, it's like, it looks like bamboo color. [00:39:18] Speaker B: Yes. [00:39:18] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:39:18] Speaker B: And I use the stick for his face, which he likes. He likes to sit there like this. Like he has cucumbers on his eyes. [00:39:23] Speaker A: Oh, that's nice. My kids. [00:39:24] Speaker B: And then the sunscreen on his body. I do it one time and he's fine. And I keep him outside shirtless. Yeah, I never put a shirt on my kid. I swear to God. Like, sunscreen matters. I'm not kidding. [00:39:36] Speaker A: Yeah. Vienna's like a brown berry. She. [00:39:39] Speaker B: But you know, a hack that my sister in law did and I'm very proud of her. Steph, you know those makeup brushes from back in the day? [00:39:46] Speaker A: Oh, they have the sunscreens? Yeah. [00:39:48] Speaker B: No, not the brush. I'm talking about those old school. [00:39:51] Speaker A: Let me show you the sponges or no, because they have to show you. [00:39:55] Speaker B: Because I'm like. I'm like baffled. I. This is such a good hack. [00:39:58] Speaker A: What is it? I don't know. It. I have to, when I put sunscreen on Rocco, I have to pretend that I'm wiping it off after I put it on sunscreen. [00:40:07] Speaker B: No way. [00:40:08] Speaker A: I put it on. He screams, I want it off. I go, okay, I'm taking it off. And I put. I just wiping it off. Yeah. [00:40:13] Speaker B: He's like, wait, okay, I'm googling in the middle of this. Look. These. You know exactly what I'm talking about. Let me see. It used to be a thing. I used to have them to use for makeup application. These. [00:40:26] Speaker A: Ah. [00:40:28] Speaker B: Oh my God. So my sister in law was like, have you ever seen. I'm like, steph, I used to use those in college for my makeup. Like they were like a thing. [00:40:35] Speaker A: But is that for sunscreen or she uses it? [00:40:37] Speaker B: I honestly, I don't know. Oh, they do. [00:40:40] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:40:41] Speaker B: No, but this is. There's no button. Why are you going like this? [00:40:42] Speaker A: There is a. There's one where you like. It's a filler. You fill it up and then you could. You do. [00:40:46] Speaker B: Okay, I've seen that. But that's not this. [00:40:48] Speaker A: Oh, okay. [00:40:49] Speaker B: Did you look at the picture? [00:40:50] Speaker A: Yeah, but I used to. [00:40:52] Speaker B: If my friends are watching this. I used to use these brushes in college for my. They were like a thing. Like the Kardashians used to use them. I bought the whole set. She's using them for sunscreen. It is genius. [00:41:02] Speaker A: That's A good hack. [00:41:03] Speaker B: It goes on like a. Like a glove. [00:41:06] Speaker A: That's a really good hat. [00:41:07] Speaker B: Yeah. So you can buy them on Amazon. Just get them. I mean, there's a million other. It's like a foundation brush. Look at it. Look it up. It's like for liquid cream. And you can use it for your sunscreen. I'm telling you. Like, I don't know if you could see this. This is what I'm talking about. [00:41:22] Speaker A: Have to go close to that screen. [00:41:24] Speaker B: I don't feel like getting up. Don't use your eyes. Anyway, I'm all about it. I really am. I really, really am. So anyway, sunscreen is like a huge thing in my household. I truly believe in what you use. [00:41:37] Speaker A: Makes you get damaged. I'm peeling like a mofo, so. [00:41:42] Speaker B: Yeah, so you don't. You don't use the right stuff. Let's talk about that. But okay. We talked about the refillable water bottles. Like. [00:41:49] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:41:49] Speaker B: I mean, you said Tommy Tipper Gatorade square pop top. Like, we talked about all that. [00:41:52] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:41:52] Speaker B: I think that's awesome. [00:41:54] Speaker A: On the beach, the cool cabana. We have it down the shore. [00:41:58] Speaker B: Talk to me. What is that? It is like, called Cool Cabana. [00:42:01] Speaker A: Yeah, it's called Cool Cabana. It is. Okay. The easiest setup, it's like a giant cabana, but you fill up the, like the poles with sand. So it's like a. A sand. [00:42:13] Speaker B: How big is it? Like, how many people can it fit? [00:42:14] Speaker A: I mean, eight. It's like a. Bigger than an umbrella. It's like a. A cabana. [00:42:19] Speaker B: Oh, cool. And you own it or your mother? [00:42:21] Speaker A: Yeah, we have it down the shore. [00:42:23] Speaker B: Cool. [00:42:23] Speaker A: And I've actually never set it up myself. I watch people do it and it looks pretty easy. I've also watched people open wine bottles my entire life, and it looks pretty easy. [00:42:32] Speaker B: Seven band aids on your current. So I had faith in you, though. You did it. [00:42:36] Speaker A: I did it. You did it. But it was. [00:42:39] Speaker B: It was tough for you. [00:42:40] Speaker A: Okay, this is a really good hack. [00:42:42] Speaker B: Tell me. [00:42:42] Speaker A: My mother in law does it down the shore. So we always drink like iced coffee. Right. [00:42:47] Speaker B: Oh, I love this one. [00:42:48] Speaker A: My mother in law buys a box of Joe. Yeah. A big at Dunkin Donuts and keeps it in the fridge. Okay. And she gets the Dunkin Donuts cups, the tops and the straws. And you can just make your own iced coffee. You just go to the fridge, you do the little thing and it comes out. And then you have your own cream, sugar, whatever. And you can just make just like your own iced Coffee straight from the box of Joe. [00:43:11] Speaker B: So she orders a hot box of. [00:43:13] Speaker A: Gel and she puts in the fridge and it cools. [00:43:16] Speaker B: Cools. [00:43:16] Speaker A: Goes in the fridge. [00:43:18] Speaker B: And then it could stay for, like, days. For days. [00:43:20] Speaker A: Days. We were down there for like a week. And it was. I mean, it didn't last that long, but. Yeah, that. Isn't that genius? [00:43:26] Speaker B: Genius. [00:43:27] Speaker A: And it tastes good. [00:43:28] Speaker B: It's like, so common sense. Yeah. I mean, so good. [00:43:31] Speaker A: Instead of everyone making their own keurig or whatever or. Yeah, it was so good. [00:43:37] Speaker B: I'm like, you guys cook every night down there. Like, do you have any, like, hacks with all these? You have like, five children down there. Like, what are you guys doing? [00:43:44] Speaker A: Penny with butter. Really? [00:43:46] Speaker B: Never doing that again. [00:43:49] Speaker A: No, I don't have any hacks for food. [00:43:50] Speaker B: Okay. [00:43:51] Speaker A: Zero. [00:43:52] Speaker B: I wouldn't. [00:43:52] Speaker A: Tell me my kids don't eat. [00:43:54] Speaker B: I love that. That's, like, fun too. I feel like. [00:43:58] Speaker A: Yeah. Oh, actually, I do have a hack for food. Little slider buns. I pa. Like, I. I make it like a activity in the morning if we're going to the pool or something. My kids like to make their own sandwiches. So if it's like turkey, cheese, whatever, I take the little slider buns. Yeah. And they make it themselves and they wrap it in tinfoil themselves. They think it's like a restaurant. [00:44:18] Speaker B: I love that. [00:44:18] Speaker A: So that's easy. And I mean, some. One of my kids just puts, like, butter on it. It's like a buttered roll. [00:44:25] Speaker B: Oh, like, easy. [00:44:26] Speaker A: It's so easy. [00:44:26] Speaker B: Now, are your kids at this age, like, using utensils or you have, like a. Yeah, I mean like real knives and forks? [00:44:33] Speaker A: Oh, no, they. [00:44:35] Speaker B: Or baby stuff. [00:44:35] Speaker A: They still. It depends. We will use, like, a knife. [00:44:40] Speaker B: Oh, he's five. He's fine. [00:44:41] Speaker A: He's not five yet, literally. And, like, I need to find his birthday. [00:44:45] Speaker B: Yeah. What the. I don't know. [00:44:47] Speaker A: I think I'm just gonna do it at a play place. I can't be bothered with a big party. I really can't wait. [00:44:52] Speaker B: I'm really sad about that news. [00:44:53] Speaker A: I know. I just. It's in less than a month and I didn't think of it. I didn't. I done nothing. What am I gonna do? [00:45:00] Speaker B: You can. In the summertime, you can do an indoor play place. Let's go to American Dream. [00:45:08] Speaker A: We could do that. That's a good place. [00:45:11] Speaker B: Like, you don't have to invite everybody. Yeah, it's like, small. [00:45:14] Speaker A: Anybody? If you're listening, you're probably not invited. [00:45:18] Speaker B: Oh, buddy's Coming to his birthday party. There's three of us going and that's that. [00:45:20] Speaker A: He has a. He has his. One of his friends birthday parties this weekend, Saturday, his friend James. And he's really excited. It's an indoor ninja party, so he might like it. So maybe copy him. [00:45:34] Speaker B: Let's brainstorm. [00:45:35] Speaker A: Okay. [00:45:36] Speaker B: Anyway. Anyway, back to regular programming. Let's talk about, like. [00:45:40] Speaker A: What are we gonna talk about? [00:45:42] Speaker B: Products. Yeah, we talk about products. [00:45:44] Speaker A: I think I really want you to talk about like, what you're wearing more. [00:45:48] Speaker B: Okay, but can I just talk about like, I don't have. I have one kid. So, like, I'm literally just doing sensory water plays. Water tables, splash pads, blow up pools and like husband in the pool with my son. That's all I'm doing. There's five things that I'm doing and. [00:46:01] Speaker A: That'S that I asked my best friend here to come to my town pool with me. [00:46:07] Speaker B: Imagine. Imagine. [00:46:10] Speaker A: Her answer was like, I asked her to go to a trailer park. [00:46:13] Speaker B: She goes. She goes, let's go to the town pool on Wednesday. I go, I rather die than get Impetego. But thanks for the invite. [00:46:24] Speaker A: So rude. My town pool is very clean and my kids love it. And you know what I mean. [00:46:29] Speaker B: Nothing, nothing is for town pool. I just. I'm not in the mood to like, try to cure a bottego. I don't feel like trying to do that. [00:46:36] Speaker A: It's funny because the. The day that I asked you to go, when we went the baby. [00:46:41] Speaker B: You actually went. [00:46:42] Speaker A: Yeah, the baby section was closed. Probably because could never be me. [00:46:47] Speaker B: Could never be me. No hats could bring me to that baby. [00:46:52] Speaker A: Dom was here right now. [00:46:53] Speaker B: Could never be me. Anyway. Yeah, that's all I got. [00:46:56] Speaker A: I went to Chuck E. Cheese yesterday. [00:46:57] Speaker B: You did? I love Chuck E. Cheese. Where's our Chuck E. Cheese? [00:47:00] Speaker A: There's a brand new Chuck E. Cheese. [00:47:01] Speaker B: Where? [00:47:02] Speaker A: In Union. It is so clean. It is immaculate. It's. It must be brand new because there's not a spot of any discuss anywhere with your three kids. Yeah. And they have a trampoline little section. They have a little play section. I'm over that. [00:47:16] Speaker B: I would do that stuff. Pools freak me out. [00:47:19] Speaker A: Okay. Come to Chuck E. Cheese with me later. My kids loved it. I never. We've never been. It was so fun. And the best part is they don't have those creepy. Do you remember going as a kid on the stage, they have those like ropes. [00:47:32] Speaker B: Yes. [00:47:32] Speaker A: They don't have that anymore. It's just like a giant screen that. Please. [00:47:36] Speaker B: Fun stuff. [00:47:37] Speaker A: Yeah. They don't have the scary match. [00:47:38] Speaker B: Who'd you go with? Just three kids in. [00:47:40] Speaker A: No, the Ridges. My go to Danielle. Ridge, love. [00:47:43] Speaker B: So it was just. So it's just you, Danielle and your kids. [00:47:47] Speaker A: We both have three kids. And I brought Cassandra. No. [00:47:49] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. I was gonna say she'll go and play. [00:47:52] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:47:53] Speaker B: Do you go and play or no? [00:47:54] Speaker A: Yeah. But I was actually. When Cassandra, my nanny, is there, like, I was able to have one conversation with Danielle, just one. [00:48:01] Speaker B: And it was probably. Probably about the podcast. [00:48:02] Speaker A: It was. She gave me things to say. [00:48:05] Speaker B: I love that. [00:48:06] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:48:07] Speaker B: All right, so enough about these products. I feel like we mentioned some good things. [00:48:10] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:48:12] Speaker B: But let's get into, like, mom wears. Because I feel like this is like a summer hack. Like, what are the moms wearing? Like what? Because, like, when I get up every morning and I get dressed, if you watch my TikTok, so does that. But, like, I want. I do think about, like, what do I want to put on today that's like, not going to give me chub rub. [00:48:30] Speaker A: Yeah. It's like. And it's. [00:48:32] Speaker B: I don't want chub rub. I don't want friction. [00:48:36] Speaker A: Believe the friction at home. [00:48:37] Speaker B: Leave the friction at home. So my go to this summer. Strapless shirts. [00:48:44] Speaker A: Really? [00:48:45] Speaker B: I don't know why. Because I don't got fake titties over here. [00:48:48] Speaker A: Strapless. [00:48:49] Speaker B: Yeah. I'm telling. Let me explain. [00:48:51] Speaker A: Wait, are you buying a bra? [00:48:53] Speaker B: Yeah, sometimes if I'm going. Going somewhere, bras on. If not, no bra. No bra. The T shirts are not in. The strapless. The strapless shirts are in. I don't. I can't explain, like, I feel better, like, moving around all day. [00:49:08] Speaker A: That, my friend, is interesting. I can't do it. [00:49:12] Speaker B: Do you hate that? [00:49:13] Speaker A: I don't hate it. For you, my tits would be like, on the floor. [00:49:17] Speaker B: Phone's beeping. There's no one here. [00:49:20] Speaker A: I don't know m. I did do that. [00:49:22] Speaker B: Someone here. [00:49:24] Speaker A: Go check. We can't hear. We could be getting robbed. [00:49:27] Speaker B: My heart. Okay, all right. Shopping shirts. You know what else is in? You're gonna love this one. Jellies. [00:49:33] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. [00:49:35] Speaker B: Go get my jellies. [00:49:38] Speaker A: I'm too lazy. They're jellies. [00:49:42] Speaker B: Jellies are in. They're comfy jellies. Like jellies of jelly, if you know what I'm talking about. You know what I'm talking about. [00:49:47] Speaker A: I love them. [00:49:47] Speaker B: You know what else is in? No back sneakers. [00:49:50] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. [00:49:50] Speaker B: I gotta get me a slip on sneakers. Amazon me. [00:49:54] Speaker A: I will send me the. [00:49:55] Speaker B: I Keep saying. I'm gonna, like, upload the link. I don't do that. [00:49:58] Speaker A: You should do that. [00:49:58] Speaker B: I'm opening up a storefront on Amazon. [00:50:00] Speaker A: Oh, yeah, we are. That's exciting. [00:50:01] Speaker B: I know. I'm excited. So no back sneakers in it. [00:50:06] Speaker A: And they're just easy. [00:50:07] Speaker B: Just slip them on, slip them off. [00:50:10] Speaker A: I like that. [00:50:10] Speaker B: Running, walking. [00:50:12] Speaker A: They're just Amazon. It's not like a brand thing. [00:50:14] Speaker B: No, you can. Honestly, you could find them anywhere. But I have a certain ones that I get. [00:50:18] Speaker A: Okay. [00:50:19] Speaker B: Am I alive? Okay. I'm alive. Linen mini shirt, dresses. [00:50:25] Speaker A: Mini shirt dresses. [00:50:26] Speaker B: Linen, like, flowy linen. Mini short dresses. In. [00:50:30] Speaker A: Okay. [00:50:31] Speaker B: Target. [00:50:32] Speaker A: And I have, like, linen, like, shorts and a. Like a little button up. [00:50:35] Speaker B: Cute. [00:50:36] Speaker A: In. Okay. [00:50:37] Speaker B: In, okay. Obviously. [00:50:40] Speaker A: And he got. [00:50:41] Speaker B: Our mom's wearing Crocs, but we own, like, Croc bags, though. [00:50:46] Speaker A: So, like, I know we're just carrying Ramsey Crocs. [00:50:48] Speaker B: We're carrying Crocs, but we're not wearing them. [00:50:50] Speaker A: I did buy the croc sandal. It's not a Croc. [00:50:55] Speaker B: I don't know what you mean by that. [00:50:56] Speaker A: It's like a slide. It looks like a. It's a slide across. [00:50:58] Speaker B: I can't picture what you're talking about. [00:51:00] Speaker A: I left them here one day, remember? They're just slides. [00:51:06] Speaker B: Those were college bath shower shoes. [00:51:10] Speaker A: Basically. Yes. But, like, they're good for the pool. Yeah. Shower shoes. [00:51:13] Speaker B: Okay. But also, jellies are good for the pool. So let's retire the shower shoes. [00:51:17] Speaker A: Okay, well, those are my Crocs that I wore. So. [00:51:20] Speaker B: Fine. [00:51:20] Speaker A: Leave me alone. [00:51:20] Speaker B: Okay. Gap. Everybody knows Gap. Are in Target. Fines are in. H m. Finds are in. Show me the money. Show me the money. Give me a credit card. Take your husband's money. Take your husband's money. [00:51:34] Speaker A: When can we start using our own credit card? [00:51:35] Speaker B: I have. I know. We're making money. [00:51:37] Speaker A: I know. What are we gonna buy? [00:51:41] Speaker B: We're buying your wardrobe. That's back. [00:51:43] Speaker A: No, when we. When we start making bank. I'm getting a boob job. Mommy. Tummy tuck. Shit's going down. [00:51:50] Speaker B: Booty butt. You gonna do the butt? [00:51:51] Speaker A: Don't care about my ass. [00:51:52] Speaker B: Why do you not want a butt? [00:51:54] Speaker A: Just don't care about it. [00:51:55] Speaker B: I do. I care about your butt. [00:51:58] Speaker A: I know I should. All right, I'll get a bbl. Fuck it. [00:52:01] Speaker B: Fuck it. We're gonna bbl. Wait. How about my husband. Side note sends me. He's so important. [00:52:09] Speaker A: Oh, my God. He did that. Tell this. [00:52:11] Speaker B: He sends me toxic things that are happening with, like, booze, implants. [00:52:17] Speaker A: Oh, please. [00:52:18] Speaker B: Shut the I go, good thing I don't have boob. A boob job. Like, stop trying to trigger me not to get a boob job. [00:52:24] Speaker A: I thought you were gonna say sexy. Just sent you that you cheated on. [00:52:27] Speaker B: Oh, he had a drink. My husband. My husband has been having nightmares. Okay? So I walked downstairs this morning and I see like a blanket and a pillow set up on the couch. I'm like, was my husband not sleeping with me last night? Like, what's happening? So then later on on the day he just sends me a text and I'm cracking up. Emma's like, what are you laughing at? I'm like, my husband's been having nightmares and he's just told me why he's been having nightmares and I've been ch. Cheating on him and he's been seeing it. So he's been walking in on cheating. [00:52:53] Speaker A: Vivid. [00:52:53] Speaker B: Yeah. And he's like, can't sleep about it. I'm like, hun, are you okay? [00:52:58] Speaker A: Is there something going on? [00:52:59] Speaker B: Is there something going on in your brain? Not okay. Anyway, that was a complete side note. [00:53:05] Speaker A: Wait, no, other side note. This is the first time ever that we are talking to each other and you don't have eyes on you. Is there now Is there anything you want to tell me without him fucking watching us do anything to get out of the table? [00:53:20] Speaker B: I do. I feel like my husband, as we know, if you watch the Love language episode, he is very physical. Touch. Oh, I'm sad for him. And like, why? Because I know he's not getting sexy time like he wants. [00:53:38] Speaker A: Oh, why aren't you giving it? [00:53:40] Speaker B: I'm not there this week. [00:53:42] Speaker A: Oh, this week? Ever? [00:53:44] Speaker B: The past three weeks. No, I just. I don't know what it is. Can someone help me? I just feel like I'm just so stressed out. [00:53:51] Speaker A: Yeah, let me give you one of my horny edibles. [00:53:55] Speaker B: And like, I'm a very sexy person and I feel like. But like, you know what it is? Like, okay, let me explain. And if my husband's listening and he's gonna edit these episodes, he's gonna watch. Let me explain to you why I'm not. I'm not into you. Because we went to Newport. How long ago? And we went to Bahamas. How long ago? [00:54:12] Speaker A: Long time. [00:54:13] Speaker B: My car is a disaster. I need a deep clean. This is why we're gonna do. We're gonna do it. We're gonna do it. I'm gonna get somebody. We're gonna do it. Hasn't. Hasn't. So this is why I hired somebody myself. Thank God for my nanny. My nanny. I'm talking like, I'm you and have a nanny. My babysitter who has somebody. And I was like, all right, let's hire him. Why did it take you? Why did I have to find somebody to clean my car? Like, just do it. There's so, like. Like. And it's not the reason why there's no sexy sign, but it's like, it's. [00:54:49] Speaker A: She's holding a grudge. [00:54:50] Speaker B: It's building up. M. It is building up, and it's upsetting. Like, I asked you to do something. Just do it. Why? Why aren't you doing it? [00:54:58] Speaker A: Acts of service. [00:54:59] Speaker B: But there's so many other things that I can't think of right now. [00:55:01] Speaker A: A lot of things building up. [00:55:02] Speaker B: What else? I asked him to put Gio's chair together before he left for Jamaica, and he didn't. [00:55:08] Speaker A: How could he? [00:55:09] Speaker B: And that is why. [00:55:11] Speaker A: Or the boxes that are sitting in the basement. Go get a bottle of two pinks right now. Fucking opening it. [00:55:17] Speaker B: And, like, I feel bad because I know, like, he's trying to hug me right now, which he wants something else other than just a hug. [00:55:25] Speaker A: When the hug turns and it's just. [00:55:27] Speaker B: It's just like, you want. Well, I want, too. This is bad. This is. This is getting bad. This is. [00:55:33] Speaker A: I'm so happy I asked. [00:55:35] Speaker B: Is that normal? [00:55:36] Speaker A: I mean, yeah, you're a woman, mom overstimulated. You just want some shit done. I. I gave in to peer pressure. [00:55:47] Speaker B: Did you ever go through that, though? [00:55:48] Speaker A: Yes. Yes. But I feel like you got your sexy back, so, like, what's my problem? [00:55:55] Speaker B: Yeah, I'm mad at my husband. [00:55:57] Speaker A: Okay. [00:55:58] Speaker B: I'm always mad at my husband. Do you feel like I'm always mad at him? [00:56:01] Speaker A: No, actually, I'm not. I think you guys have a great relationship. And you're not always mad at him. [00:56:05] Speaker B: We do, but I feel like. [00:56:07] Speaker A: I mean, you're normal. [00:56:08] Speaker B: Like, you just want sexy time. But it's not about that. Stop trying to kiss me. And he's like, don't. Don't you. Wait, wait. No. I feel like the electricity just went off. [00:56:21] Speaker A: Okay, it didn't, because that light is shining. [00:56:24] Speaker B: I feel like we're talking in circles. When you edit this episode, I just have to say something. [00:56:29] Speaker A: I love you. Say something that he'll edit out. Like, right now, I want to suck. [00:56:33] Speaker B: Your d. And I want to have sex with you, and I want to be crazy, and I want to do so many crazy things, and I want to be horny again. But I just feel like we're not on the same page and we're drifting away. Like, I know he left here upset. [00:56:48] Speaker A: Because any of that out. [00:56:50] Speaker B: He didn't have sex with me before he left and he's upset. [00:56:52] Speaker A: Oh, fuck. [00:56:53] Speaker B: I know. [00:56:53] Speaker A: Give him the sexy time. [00:56:54] Speaker B: I did. [00:56:55] Speaker A: Or the bachelor party is going to be at the strip club tonight. The Jamaican strip club. [00:56:59] Speaker B: What do you mean by that? [00:57:00] Speaker A: At the Jamaican strip club right now. [00:57:04] Speaker B: You know me. I hate that. [00:57:05] Speaker A: I know, but he's there. I'll get the deets. I have friends there. [00:57:09] Speaker B: I didn't give him sexy time before he left. [00:57:11] Speaker A: That was. [00:57:11] Speaker B: I don't care. [00:57:12] Speaker A: That was if you have. She just made a giant mistake. [00:57:17] Speaker B: Our marriage is over. Our marriage is over. [00:57:21] Speaker A: You gotta give him the gluck gluck before he goes on the trip. The guy's trip. [00:57:26] Speaker B: No, I'm so. You know what he said to me before he left? But I was like, I'm so sorry. Like, life is so stressful right now. Like, it's gonna get better. We have. We have a date night coming up because for. I think it was Mother's Day. He. I think it was for Mother's Day. I'm not sure. Maybe Valentine's Day. It was that far away. If you know Matt Rife, the comedian, he's so Michael. My husband knows I love him. He bought us tickets in the city. And my mother's watching the baby Saturday, next Saturday, and we're going to see Matt Rife. So he, like, before he left, he was like, we have a date night coming up in a week. Like, I'm really excited for it. Before he left, like it was six o' clock in the morning. My mouth. I was like, wow. Like, no idea what you're talking about. [00:58:04] Speaker A: That'll be so nice, though. [00:58:05] Speaker B: Yeah. Me and my husband, how we work is like, we need alone time. [00:58:08] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:58:09] Speaker B: We just do. [00:58:10] Speaker A: Honestly, after our AC trip, like, you're better. Yeah. Like, you just need that connection. [00:58:16] Speaker B: Yeah, you just do. [00:58:17] Speaker A: You need the. You need the adult time without the worry of everything else. [00:58:21] Speaker B: Yeah. I'm just a worrier. I have a lot going on in my life that you may or may not know of. Yeah, that's that. Anyway, I don't know what the we're talking about anymore. Oh, you know what I want to talk about mom jeans. [00:58:32] Speaker A: People like talking about sex. Just so you know, just good sex, bad sex, closet sex, weird sex. Well, no sexes, no sex. [00:58:43] Speaker B: All right, let's get back on track though. Mom jeans are a thing, are These mom jeans? Yes. I mean, why do you hate that? [00:58:51] Speaker A: No, no, I like that. But, like, what are not mom jeans? Like, low rise. [00:58:58] Speaker B: I've never wore low rise jeans in my entire existence before mom. [00:59:01] Speaker A: So I did because I had a little flat stomach, but people are like, this is what. [00:59:06] Speaker B: This is what you need to do, folks. Ready? I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you a hack. [00:59:09] Speaker A: You know how our husband does. Tells us how long we've been. We have no idea. He gives us the heads up. [00:59:15] Speaker B: Wait, what is happening? [00:59:18] Speaker A: Cute mini score. [00:59:20] Speaker B: I've been sitting with a FUPA and no one has been telling me you. [00:59:23] Speaker A: Have no FUPA in that. How we doing? [00:59:31] Speaker B: An hour and two minutes. [00:59:33] Speaker A: Okay, cool. [00:59:39] Speaker B: I'm not pregnant. Thank God. [00:59:41] Speaker A: Thank God. Because I'll be so jealous. [00:59:45] Speaker B: I'm gonna be so jealous if you're pregnant. [00:59:47] Speaker A: I did say that. [00:59:49] Speaker B: Anyway, let's speed it up, though. But, like, this is what I'm gonna tell you. [00:59:52] Speaker A: How about your wine? Because I want another glass. [00:59:55] Speaker B: I know I have to pee really bad, though. But real quick. Like, trying to look effortless but with comfort forward. Comfort forward. [01:00:01] Speaker A: I have to say something. [01:00:02] Speaker B: Raise your hand. [01:00:03] Speaker A: I like something about you is. [01:00:06] Speaker B: Tell me if. Hell, if I didn't know you go. [01:00:10] Speaker A: I would think that you try so hard to look good. [01:00:13] Speaker B: You. [01:00:13] Speaker A: Because, like, you, like, in a bad way try hard. No, not try hard. Like, I'm like, I do a lot. [01:00:17] Speaker B: I take a lot of time. [01:00:18] Speaker A: Yes, but you don't at all. You throw something. [01:00:21] Speaker B: You know that about me. I love that. I love that about me, too. [01:00:24] Speaker A: I love that about you so much. Because it, like, you do it very simple, but, like, whatever you do, it just throws together great. No, and I think moms can appreciate that because, like, for me, like, I have no style sense whatsoever. So I'm looking at you like she's trying. Like, it's so hard. Like, I can't do that. But, like, you're like, no, like, I just. I put these jeans on and this cute little T shirt, and I'm. [01:00:48] Speaker B: And you. How many compliments did you get today? [01:00:50] Speaker A: Yeah, like, it's great. Yeah. And I would never do this if I didn't know you. [01:00:53] Speaker B: Are we gonna. I love you. We're bonded forever. [01:00:56] Speaker A: Okay. You. [01:00:58] Speaker B: Anyway. Okay, but, like, seriously, looking effortless and, like, it's all about the material of the outfit. [01:01:06] Speaker A: Yes. [01:01:06] Speaker B: And just, like, comfort and effortless, like, that's what makes, like, look what you're wearing. You look so cute. But how effortless was that? [01:01:12] Speaker A: And Comfort is such a thing. Because like, when you're a mom and you're. I don't care if you're shop prob. If you're, if you're cleaning laundry, going on the floor, playing with your kids, changing diapers, doing everything, like you want to be comfortable. You don't want to be like fixing yourself, like tits falling out. Yeah. You don't want to worry about yourself. You're worrying about your kid's diaper being. [01:01:31] Speaker B: But you also want to look cute. I understand that. Like, I'm the culprit of that. I get that. So, like, that's why we're trying to help you out here. I don't know if we are, but we're trying. So anyway, sanity saving habits. Mindset shift. Let's talk about it. Talk about, like just the routines, perspectives, like where we're at. I know we talked a little bit about that last episode, but I just feel like we're embracing like the boredom of our kids sometimes. [01:01:52] Speaker A: I think that's a big thing. Like you just have to sit back and realize that like, not every day has to be fucking Disneyland. [01:02:00] Speaker B: And you don't need to go to fucking chicka Chuck E. Cheese every day. [01:02:02] Speaker A: No, absolutely not. [01:02:04] Speaker B: Okay. Because sometimes I feel like, I feel like I look at you and I'm like, she's always doing something should I be doing. [01:02:09] Speaker A: And I always, I think that my friends say that to me too, which you absolutely don't. [01:02:13] Speaker B: I embrace boredom. Yeah, I do. [01:02:15] Speaker A: And I'm trying, but I think that's my new mantra. Like, my kids can be bored. They can be sitting and doing nothing. But the, the, the, the irkness of. When Joey says, mom, I'm bored. I'm like, you have a, you have. [01:02:27] Speaker B: Like a FOMO of your kids. Like, you don't want your kids to not miss out on, like, things going on in the world. [01:02:32] Speaker A: Yeah, I guess. But I just like to have fun. Like, I'm like, I'm a kid. [01:02:37] Speaker B: Like, I just want to do. Which I understand. [01:02:38] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:02:39] Speaker B: But like, it stresses me out sometimes because I feel like I should be going to show agents. [01:02:43] Speaker A: No. [01:02:43] Speaker B: This week. Like, I don't even know what I did. [01:02:47] Speaker A: It's fine. And that's. But like, that's the thing. [01:02:50] Speaker B: I just want to make mom friends. [01:02:51] Speaker A: It should be me too. [01:02:54] Speaker B: Today I made a mom friend. I was going on a walk, I told you. And she stopped me in my tracks. [01:02:58] Speaker A: That was a celebrity. That was, that was a sighting. [01:03:01] Speaker B: Was it? [01:03:02] Speaker A: Honestly, tell the story. [01:03:02] Speaker B: She stopped me in my Tracks via car and I was walking with the baby. I thought I was getting kidnapped, by the way. And she was rolling out a window. She's like, are you on TikTok? And I was like, yeah. She's like, I watch your videos. I go, she's like, yeah, I love your videos. And I'm like, scream. Because this is a big moment. If you know, you know, this is a big moment. I'm like, oh my God, thank you so much. I was like, I appreciate. Appreciate that more than you even understand. [01:03:25] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:03:26] Speaker B: I'm like, I. [01:03:27] Speaker A: That was like that time at the Pilates. The girl was like, I watch your tick. [01:03:30] Speaker B: Oh my God. That was another moment for me. [01:03:32] Speaker A: Wait, speaking of Pilates, I'm getting charged 130amonth. Is that. That's what I signed up for, Joe. [01:03:40] Speaker B: God, you have a membership. [01:03:42] Speaker A: And Joe goes, I just got a. [01:03:45] Speaker B: I just got a new money police. Go ahead. [01:03:48] Speaker A: He goes, because it was a card that was non existent anymore. He goes, the car got declined and I got a charge from Pilates. And I was like, wait, I'm getting charged? He was like, yeah, it's 129amonth. [01:03:58] Speaker B: Yeah. Oh my God, we have to cancel that stack. [01:04:03] Speaker A: There's so many cancellation subscriptions. [01:04:05] Speaker B: All right, well, we're not focusing on anyway, like sometimes we have to let go of the idea of being magical every day. [01:04:11] Speaker A: What is one thing that you are gonna let go this summer that's gonna just make your life easier? Just like let go of it. You might have just said it. [01:04:20] Speaker B: Yeah, I did. Being. Being busy every day. Yeah, don't need to. [01:04:24] Speaker A: Don't need to just enjoy nothing. [01:04:26] Speaker B: It's like, why am I gonna put my kid through that if like I'm not. [01:04:29] Speaker A: If you're not in the mood to do that today. [01:04:31] Speaker B: Yeah, I do other things. I honestly like. And honestly, it shows in my kid. [01:04:36] Speaker A: You don't have to explain the other things. Like, it's just. [01:04:38] Speaker B: Yeah, I'm. Fuck you. My explaining. [01:04:41] Speaker A: No, it's just be. Just being a mom is tiring in itself. [01:04:45] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. And that's that. [01:04:47] Speaker A: But it is. I do have one hack. I just thought of making a mom friend with older kids because the older kids will play with your kids down the shore. We have neighbors, they have like 14 year old, 10 year old, 9 year old, 7 year old. They played with our kids. [01:05:03] Speaker B: I feel like that's Vienna. It's a Geo. Yeah, well, yeah, like now I want to be around Vienna. [01:05:08] Speaker A: Now I want to be around Vienna is like the babysitter yeah, like, she. [01:05:11] Speaker B: Takes care of you. Like, I'm like, rv, I'm gonna go over here. Can you just watch you real quick? And she's understood the assignment. [01:05:15] Speaker A: Yes. But yeah, like, that is a total mom hack where they could play. I mean, they're not like babysitting your kids. You're still there. But like, you can maybe do something else. [01:05:24] Speaker B: Like anything can entertain your game. My son was playing with a balloon before. [01:05:28] Speaker A: Balloon. [01:05:28] Speaker B: Balloon. [01:05:31] Speaker A: Marco likes our. The Amazon boxes more than he likes cups. [01:05:35] Speaker B: Cups, plates. Forget it. Like, that's that. [01:05:38] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:05:38] Speaker B: Okay, let's just wrap it up. Like, let's recap a few of our favorite takeaways from the conversation. Your bathtub ice pop hack. [01:05:46] Speaker A: You like that one? [01:05:46] Speaker B: Love that one. But me? Tell me, tell me. [01:05:49] Speaker A: Oh, I hated everything you said. I can't think of one thing. [01:05:53] Speaker B: I'm kidding. I've been never coming back. [01:05:58] Speaker A: I know. I just like, I. I'm really. I. I bow down to you. Of the way that you carry yourself and you get dressed in the morning. Would like to try to. [01:06:07] Speaker B: Do you think about me during the day? [01:06:09] Speaker A: All the time. [01:06:10] Speaker B: I think about you all the time during the day. I really do. [01:06:12] Speaker A: No, I truly think about you too much. I think I have a problem. [01:06:16] Speaker B: You love me. [01:06:17] Speaker A: Okay. [01:06:18] Speaker B: Anyway, honestly, can I just say something real quick though? Summer to me is just about making memories. It really is. Like, I'm not just saying that. Like, I really. It really is just about making memories. And that's why it kind of makes me feel like I want to have another kid. Because I want to make more memories. I'm not pregnant. Why is everyone thinking that I'm pregnant? [01:06:37] Speaker A: You're fat. [01:06:38] Speaker B: So? So my husband or my mother in law posted a picture on Facebook and it was all the grandchildren. There's Grandma Viola. You know her. You love her. [01:06:49] Speaker A: No, no. [01:06:50] Speaker B: She has 31. Great, great, grand. No, what am I saying? Great, great grandchildren. Or is it 30? Because people don't know. [01:06:59] Speaker A: Etsy, 30 or 31? I don't know. [01:07:00] Speaker B: Like, to give you perspective. Like, my grandma only has five right now. [01:07:07] Speaker A: Most. Most. No, Great grandmas. [01:07:09] Speaker B: Great grandmas. [01:07:10] Speaker A: A great grandma. She's 93. [01:07:11] Speaker B: 4 5. Why do we always do that? But she. So anyway, my point of the story is my mom posted the grand great grandchild picture with. With Nona and Vienna and Rocco are. [01:07:23] Speaker A: Not in it because they're screaming. [01:07:25] Speaker B: Oh, they're not in it. [01:07:26] Speaker A: I didn't notice screaming. And Rocco was in the stroller. So I just was like, forget it. Yeah. [01:07:31] Speaker B: All right. Anyway, so Michael commented like 31, question mark. Explanation. My mother in law said the amount and all he was saying was like, isn't there 31? Not 30? Because I think my mother put 30. [01:07:42] Speaker A: So she thought that was. There was one coming. [01:07:43] Speaker B: About five or six of her friends were like, oh my God, is Michael pregnant? Like, is Michael and his wife pregnant? Like, no. Why are people crazy? [01:07:51] Speaker A: I love how people like need to be in people's business. [01:07:53] Speaker B: Me, I do too. [01:07:55] Speaker A: But like, it's just. [01:07:56] Speaker B: Wait, I mean, you're my best friend, like obviously. [01:07:58] Speaker A: I mean, I better know the second he. It is. [01:08:00] Speaker B: I'm gonna tell you in a really good way. [01:08:03] Speaker A: Yeah, no, I'm gonna know. [01:08:04] Speaker B: Like I'm gonna tell you on this podcast. No, I'm kidding. [01:08:06] Speaker A: She probably will. [01:08:08] Speaker B: Anyway, let's wrap this up though. We have a few things to say. You know what's so crazy? We have a new coffee spot. If you're. If you're a shore girly, coffee spots are a thing. We have a new coffee spot down the shores called the Coffee Zone. It's in Tom's River. And the best coffee, the best food. Love the owners, they have food too. Oh my God. I get an egg and cheese on a bagel. They get their bagels from this place in Brick. I mean, they're not only like the greatest humans. Funny enough, the woman who owns it, they're like fiance's. She went to my high school. She's older than me, but isn't that crazy? But anyway, before I even knew that their coffee is to die for, their food is to die for. And if you know me, once I find a good sp in, I'm in. And I go there every day. They swim about 12 times already. They've been so great. Yeah, love them. Shout out to the Coffee Zone. Actually, she said she wants us on in there recording. So we're gonna record an episode in their coffee shop one day. [01:09:06] Speaker A: We should. We're coming. Great. [01:09:07] Speaker B: We. I told her we to bring. [01:09:09] Speaker A: We gotta bring some. [01:09:10] Speaker B: We do, which is fine. I don't care. But obviously, I mean like shout out to them. I really do appreciate, like what they're doing. And we're gonna be in there recording an episode sometime near in the future. And to follow up on that, we're gonna have a guest soon. [01:09:23] Speaker A: Can't wait. [01:09:24] Speaker B: Can't wait for our guest. Our special appearance guest. And lastly, really fun news is our website. [01:09:30] Speaker A: Our website's gonna be really cool. People are gonna like it. [01:09:32] Speaker B: You can order straight from the Website. We're getting hats, sweatshirts, T shirts, bucket hats, men's hats, all the things you want. [01:09:40] Speaker A: I really need a hat to cover my face. [01:09:42] Speaker B: I mean, your sunburn is crazy. So we're gonna be launching our website very soon. Literally soon. As soon as my husband comes back. [01:09:50] Speaker A: From Jamaica, he's at a strip club. [01:09:52] Speaker B: Right now, it's only four. [01:09:54] Speaker A: Is that a daytime strip club? Those are even worse. [01:09:57] Speaker B: I don't feel like spiraling tonight. I'm just on the mood. The thought of my husband looking at another woman drives me into a ditch. Meanwhile, you over here are like, I want my. [01:10:07] Speaker A: The back room at Bubble. [01:10:09] Speaker B: It's. [01:10:09] Speaker A: Mike is with Bubble. [01:10:11] Speaker B: No, stop. Can you call him? I have anxiety. Stop up. So anyway, those are a few of our favorite things. But as you know, can't wait for that Christmas. [01:10:26] Speaker A: I could just. Let's enjoy summer. [01:10:28] Speaker B: Okay, fine. Let's just talk about the fact that our subscribers. We're almost at 3, 000 subscribers. [01:10:36] Speaker A: That's so cool. [01:10:38] Speaker B: Sick. [01:10:39] Speaker A: Really is. [01:10:40] Speaker B: But continue. Like, follow, subscribe. Follow us on Instagram. Mama Clock. Underscore. Follow us on Tick Tock. Mom dot o'. Clock. Follow us on YouTube. It's Mama Clock somewhere. We're on Spotify. We're on Apple podcasts. We're on all the things you could find us everywhere. [01:10:57] Speaker A: All the thing. All the local things you watch a podcast on. Like, when people say that, is that what they say? I don't know. [01:11:03] Speaker B: I saw someone say that doing her fucking research. Okay. Anyway, I think that's all I have to say. Do you have anything else to say to me? [01:11:11] Speaker A: Oh, my God. I have my husband's work iPad, which has his text messages, and things are coming up through the cloud. Should we check? [01:11:23] Speaker B: I wish I had my husband's iPad. [01:11:25] Speaker A: What? Did you find any dirt back in the day? [01:11:29] Speaker B: My husband's just a sweetheart. [01:11:31] Speaker A: Like, I mean so much. [01:11:32] Speaker B: You can get mad. Like, your husband's not like my husband, who'll talk to a girl and call her babe. [01:11:39] Speaker A: Oh, my husband will, like, not talk to a girl and hide in the closet. [01:11:42] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, my husband will call a girl babe. Like that's where. That's what it is. [01:11:46] Speaker A: I'm scrolling. [01:11:47] Speaker B: Like, you know, I scrolling. [01:11:51] Speaker A: No, that's fun. Do people go through their husband's phones? Is that a thing we have? [01:11:55] Speaker B: We. We can't talk about that right now. [01:11:57] Speaker A: Why not? [01:11:57] Speaker B: Because we're not there. We're not there. We're on baby products. We are not talking about husbands. We can make a real we have content to shoot. [01:12:06] Speaker A: Fine. [01:12:06] Speaker B: Let's wrap it up. [01:12:07] Speaker A: And I have children at home. It's 5:52, honey. What does that mean? Todd. [01:12:13] Speaker B: Okay, so thank you for listening. [01:12:15] Speaker A: Thank you. [01:12:16] Speaker B: We have nothing else to say to you besides for. I hope we're resonating. Resonating or resonating? Ignating or isnating? [01:12:25] Speaker A: Oh, God. We both have our master's degree. [01:12:31] Speaker B: Okay, well, maybe that's all I have to say to you. I hope you enjoyed. Wait. [01:12:37] Speaker A: I really wanted to play a trick on the editor. Let's just text him and say something went wrong. [01:12:43] Speaker B: The model do grabbed your computer off from the table and it cracked. Subtle, but good. Love you. [01:12:52] Speaker A: Bye. [01:12:52] Speaker B: Love you. Bye. It.
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