EPISODE 22: “We Left the Kids… and Asked ChatGPT for Permission”

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Hey, mamas. Today's episode is brought to you by the Fortis Agency, a financial services firm located in the Bell Works building in Holmdel, New Jersey. We know that taking care of your family is your number one priority. And at the Fortis Agency, it's ours, too. That's why we're here, to offer simple, effective strategies to help you protect what matters most, your loved ones and their future. We won't dive into any complicated financial jargon here. Instead, think of us as your partner in building a secure, comfortable financial path forward for you and your kids. And here's something special when you let us know you found us through the Mom o' Clock podcast. We'll make a donation to the children's specialized hospital. So by taking a step to protect your family and save for the future, you're also helping other children in need. Please reach out to Michael Divisio with this email provided next mdiviziofortisagency.com that is M. Divisio@the fortisagency.com and mention mama Clock. We're excited to be a part of your journey. [00:01:12] Speaker B: Hello? You guys, stop. Is it Mama Clock yet? I'm going crazy. [00:01:19] Speaker A: Heck, yeah. It's Mama Clark somewhere. [00:01:42] Speaker B: Oh, I feel so good. You felt back in the studio. [00:01:46] Speaker A: I'm dead. [00:01:47] Speaker B: After you left me. [00:01:48] Speaker A: I left you. Oh, my God. I did leave you. Wait, I feel like. Can you hear me? [00:01:52] Speaker B: Yeah, I can hear you. [00:01:53] Speaker A: All right. [00:01:53] Speaker B: It can you hear me? [00:01:55] Speaker A: Can't show my Mama Clock mug today. Okay, let's get started. We don't have much time. Welcome back. [00:02:03] Speaker B: Welcome. [00:02:04] Speaker A: It's Mama Clock. Your two favorite girlies, Dominique and Emily, here live. [00:02:10] Speaker B: Episode 20. [00:02:13] Speaker A: Not gonna tell you three. [00:02:17] Speaker B: I don't know. [00:02:17] Speaker A: Actually, I don't know. [00:02:18] Speaker B: 22, 23, 24. 20s don't matter. [00:02:22] Speaker A: Your 20s don't matter. Hold on, let me fix this. Okay. Anyway, so happy to be back. We missed a week last week. I was enjoying my husband in the. [00:02:33] Speaker B: State of Wyoming, and she turned into a straight cowgirl. [00:02:37] Speaker A: I turned into a straight cowgirl. We're not going to get into that yet because we have, like, a couple stories to tell you. [00:02:42] Speaker B: Okay. [00:02:44] Speaker A: And also, this goes into the story. I can't show you that. I'm holding my Mama Clock mug. [00:02:51] Speaker B: It has lipstick on it. She burnt the shit out of her hand. We are full glam. [00:02:55] Speaker A: We are full glam. [00:02:57] Speaker B: We had a photo shoot from the. [00:02:58] Speaker A: One and only 7am Stef Nuzzo. She's the best. [00:03:02] Speaker B: She was great. [00:03:03] Speaker A: She came and did our makeup this morning. For the photo shoot, literally. [00:03:06] Speaker B: My kids are getting ready for school and we're doing a makeup. How awesome is she in my living room? She was amazing. [00:03:11] Speaker A: I mean, she's like the best. [00:03:12] Speaker B: Yeah, she's so cool too. [00:03:13] Speaker A: Yeah, absolutely. And she's so cool. So full glam. Because we did a photo shoot this morning, which was so fun. [00:03:18] Speaker B: So fun. [00:03:20] Speaker A: But right before the photo shoot, I'm like, of course, like Chitty Chatty Lucy over here. And I dropped my curling iron getting ready at Emily's house. And I was like mid talking. My hair was in my face. I picked up the 450 degree curling iron with my bare hands. [00:03:37] Speaker B: She picked it up from the wrong side. [00:03:39] Speaker A: I didn't even scream because I was in so much pain. If you can't tell I'm holding my hand like this because I can't even close it. [00:03:47] Speaker B: Blisters. [00:03:48] Speaker A: Blisters. You can't say, but they're there. And I can't even hold this mug. [00:03:52] Speaker B: So she had that during the entire photo shoot. We had to take breaks to put a cold compound because I was. [00:03:57] Speaker A: If you've been burned, especially on the palm of your hand, you know what I'm talking about. By like, it's the worst torture you've ever been through. Like, I'm not getting. It just subsided. Even now it still hurts. I couldn't even get dressed. I couldn't finish my hair. I couldn't even stand without pacing because I was in so much pain. [00:04:13] Speaker B: I buttoned her pants for her. [00:04:14] Speaker A: She buttoned my pants, Steph. Put on my bra myself. I can't button this. I've never been in so much pain in my life. I have white blisters all over my head. [00:04:22] Speaker B: Hand. Yeah, it's not pretty. [00:04:24] Speaker A: No. [00:04:24] Speaker B: I felt so bad. [00:04:25] Speaker A: I couldn't even like, explain my pain because I couldn't feel it because I had to keep, like, go to foe get dressed. So I was just like panicking internally, keeping on. How did I do, though? [00:04:34] Speaker B: Pretty good. [00:04:35] Speaker A: Okay, thank you. [00:04:36] Speaker B: Pretty good for leftover. [00:04:39] Speaker A: This has got to be like third degree burn. [00:04:41] Speaker B: Ouch. Seriously, ouch. [00:04:44] Speaker A: No, I know. Anyhow, excited to be here. [00:04:48] Speaker B: I can't. I feel like we were just. [00:04:50] Speaker A: You look so pretty by the way. [00:04:51] Speaker B: We look so intimate with each other in this photo shoot. First of all, Elena, she did an amazing job. [00:04:56] Speaker A: Amazing job. She was our photographer. We found her last minute. She actually does newborns. [00:05:00] Speaker B: Yeah, she does newborns and like maternity shoots usually. So she. She had a me and lesbian Emily. [00:05:07] Speaker A: In the photo shoot hugging and Kissing in our. In our couple's photo shoot. No. [00:05:12] Speaker B: It was hilarious. 12 times. She was like, get away from me. [00:05:15] Speaker A: She was literally up my ass the whole photo shoot. I'm like, em, can you move away? Meanwhile, the photograph was like, get closer. No, it was really fun. And we. [00:05:23] Speaker B: Do you want to go on the bed? [00:05:25] Speaker A: She asked that. [00:05:26] Speaker B: No, before. She's like, well, I have a bed and a couch. I was like, no. [00:05:30] Speaker A: Emily wanted the bed. I was like, I want the first thing for my bed. I actually want two separate chairs. Stools, nonetheless, further away from each other. No. It was really fun, though. I had a good time. Didn't you? [00:05:39] Speaker B: Yeah, it was fun. [00:05:40] Speaker A: I don't even know what I'm wearing right now. [00:05:41] Speaker B: Jackson Hole. [00:05:42] Speaker A: Jackson Hole, Wyoming. [00:05:43] Speaker B: Anything. Everything is Wyoming. Dom came back from Wyoming, and I kid you not, I go to the mall and I see horses. Just horses on shirts on pajamas, cowgirl jackets with the fringe. [00:05:58] Speaker A: She's telling me all the time. [00:05:59] Speaker B: I've never seen so much Wyoming attire since you've been back. [00:06:03] Speaker A: So funny. So this week's episode is brought to you by the trip I went on with my husband. Not all about that, but we're going to be talking about what it feels like to go on a vacation without your kids or kid and what it feels like before, during, and after. And then I'll tell you a little bit about my experience, because you have never gone away in your life. [00:06:24] Speaker B: Joe. Joe and I have never gone, like, on an airplane away. Our. Our biggest vacation away is Atlantic City for two nights. [00:06:29] Speaker A: So you've never. But before kids, you have. [00:06:32] Speaker B: I mean, like our honeymoon. We're not. We don't. [00:06:35] Speaker A: You're not travelers? [00:06:37] Speaker B: Not really, no. I guess so, like, you love to be a traveler, but I'm not. [00:06:41] Speaker A: I'm not. I'm not even a traveler. But we do. My husband and I do like to go somewhere. [00:06:45] Speaker B: Yes, I would like to, but not. [00:06:49] Speaker A: In the cards for you. [00:06:50] Speaker B: Well, it's a lot to. It's a lot for settings for three. I mean, I understand, but we'll talk about it. [00:06:56] Speaker A: We'll talk about it. So my husband and I just took a trip to Jacksonville, Wyoming. If you're thinking about it, this is your sign. It was to die for. If you follow me on TikTok or Instagram, I posted for every second of every hour. [00:07:12] Speaker B: We actually haven't even talked about it yet. But, like, the air, like, is it as, like, crisp and, like, clean. [00:07:17] Speaker A: You're above as a sea level. We were 10,000ft away. [00:07:22] Speaker B: So Is it hard to breathe or. Yes. [00:07:24] Speaker A: Oh, it's hard, but you get used to it. [00:07:25] Speaker B: Okay. [00:07:26] Speaker A: The hotel was like, probably like 4 to 7 above sea level, but we went up to 10. [00:07:32] Speaker B: Okay. [00:07:32] Speaker A: Michael's like, knees were weak. He was like, such a baby. I was like, pull it together. We're seeing views. [00:07:37] Speaker B: Did you do hike? You did hikes? [00:07:38] Speaker A: We did all the things. We did all the things. So hold on real quick, though, before we begin. [00:07:43] Speaker B: Yeah. Oh, here she goes. [00:07:45] Speaker A: If you're watching. [00:07:50] Speaker B: Ask her how much she spent on this. [00:07:53] Speaker A: So anyway, what I was saying was. Hi, y'. [00:07:57] Speaker B: All. You do look cute. [00:07:59] Speaker A: Thank you. So my husband said, I'm done with gifts for the next three years. If you know the famous place Kimosabi, I had to go. [00:08:08] Speaker B: You. [00:08:08] Speaker A: It's just something you have to do. It's an experience. It's a famous, like, hat making place. They don't just sell hats. But not for nothing, my husband bought a 1500, I think, elk vest. [00:08:17] Speaker B: Elk. [00:08:18] Speaker A: Yeah. And I mean, big elk guy over there. Anyway, so I got this hat. Thank you, honey, for buying this for me. Custom made. There's sterling silver along the edge here. Okay. It's like a rusty cowboy hat off their wall. And I made it myself. I put everything together. [00:08:33] Speaker B: It's like a cool experience. [00:08:34] Speaker A: And I didn't take it off the whole trip. I love it, and I won't take it off the whole trip. [00:08:38] Speaker B: But did you. You packed other hats and you only wore that one. [00:08:40] Speaker A: I packed other hats, and I only wore this one. And I said to my husband, I'll take it off. Even when I was sleeping, I said, hunt, it's staying on your head for. [00:08:48] Speaker B: The rest of your life. [00:08:49] Speaker A: I, like, had to wear another hat. I was like, o. I mean, this is enough. But the difference is insane. [00:08:54] Speaker B: Oh. [00:08:54] Speaker A: It's like, I bought this hat. It's a real cowboy hat. [00:08:57] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:08:58] Speaker A: And you could tell the difference when you put on another. My point is, you don't understand how much I love being a cowgirl. Like, you just don't. [00:09:05] Speaker B: And you do it seamlessly. [00:09:07] Speaker A: Thank you so much. I plan. [00:09:09] Speaker B: I mean, her outfits were on point. [00:09:11] Speaker A: Thank you so much. [00:09:12] Speaker B: She just imagine you. I know I would be fine because you would have planned all my. [00:09:16] Speaker A: I would 100 plan all your outfits. But, like, you prancing around Jacksonville, Wyoming, would have been hilarious. You would have loved it, though, I'm sure. [00:09:23] Speaker B: Maybe. I don't know. [00:09:24] Speaker A: I. We had some fun time. We had some, like, there's. It's. It's like drinking like, you do fun things. [00:09:29] Speaker B: Yeah. I don't know, Mike. So my girlfriends, we've been talking about going on, like, a girls trip, and half of them want to do, like, a dude ranch. And I'm like, if I'm gonna go to potties and. Oh, just like, you know, like the dude ranches. Yeah. [00:09:41] Speaker A: You want to go on, like, vacay. Yeah. [00:09:43] Speaker B: And I'm like, if I'm gonna, like, I can only be away from my kids for so long. I feel like I want to be on a beach. Like, I want to be like an all cuz on your girl. Yeah, You're. You're a girl. [00:09:52] Speaker A: I'm a girl. I'm a girl. I. So anyway, I'll get into my trip a little bit. But speaking of, I feel like so many people are asking for my itinerary. I have to get to that. [00:10:00] Speaker B: But anyway, do you have a good itinerary? [00:10:02] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. Chelsea did our itinerary. [00:10:04] Speaker B: Yeah. That's so nice of her. [00:10:05] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:10:06] Speaker B: How's my full glam? The saddest thing is I have to watch this entire Face off right after because I have a spray tan. [00:10:12] Speaker A: So sad. [00:10:13] Speaker B: I wish I was going. [00:10:13] Speaker A: I would have slept in it. [00:10:14] Speaker B: I would have. I would have slept in it till Ted's wedding. No. [00:10:17] Speaker A: Which is literally three days away. I'm freaking out anyway, to get back into it. Like, a lot of parents gets away from that. I mean, you are five years later. You been on a trip, yet it's hard. So, like, once you don't do it and make it a thing that you don't do it, you just don't do it. [00:10:30] Speaker B: We could talk about going on a trip. Going on a trip, but also, like, date night. Just prioritizing time with your husband is so important. [00:10:36] Speaker A: So important. And honestly, I feel like that is my most important thing and Michael's is, too. And I watch all these couples not prioritize that. Not because they don't want to hang out, but it's because, I mean, life gets away from you. [00:10:49] Speaker B: Are you kidding? [00:10:50] Speaker A: Like, it's. It's really hard. But I do highly recommend to do date nights. And I also, if you can and are fortunate enough, recommend going on a little vacation, even if it's like three or four days. And I'm going to tell you why. [00:11:00] Speaker B: So did you feel like four days was maximum max? Yeah, Like, I think I have a maximum away from the kids. [00:11:06] Speaker A: Yeah, that was. It was almost like one day too long. [00:11:09] Speaker B: Okay. [00:11:09] Speaker A: That's why when we were going to Italy, we were Going to bring the baby because that, like, how was I. [00:11:13] Speaker B: Going to do that? It defeats the whole. [00:11:14] Speaker A: I mean it was like, it was like it's all the things. It's like you miss them, you feel guilty, you feel like they need you. Like it's all the things, all the things you would think you would feel, you do. [00:11:22] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:11:23] Speaker A: But it felt better that my husband was with me. [00:11:25] Speaker B: Right. [00:11:25] Speaker A: It also felt better that he was with one of my family members, my mother in law. And we were unfortunate enough that my mother in law took him for five days, like because our flight was connecting so we didn't get in until like 10:00 clock at night. So that's, that's a full day basically. [00:11:36] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:11:37] Speaker A: Um, but so the point is, I understand why parents don't do it because. [00:11:42] Speaker B: It'S a lot of planning. [00:11:43] Speaker A: The planning is insane. First of all, if you don't have a sitter and don't have somebody that's willing to watch your kids for more than five days, and even if they aren't willing, they would do like half of the time, then you gotta plan the transfer. Like that's a lot. Also pack. You don't just packing yourself up right for the trip and preparing you and your husband, you have to prepare your child. [00:12:03] Speaker B: Right. [00:12:03] Speaker A: They were going away too, so I had to pack all the things. My mother in law has diapers and wipes and the necessities, but she doesn't have his clothes and his sleep sack that he uses and binkies and you know, all the things. And she had, she bought the milk for him and you know, just certain snacks. Like he's used to certain things so you just like kind of pack everything in one. And it was basically five days and he had soccer, so I had to pack his soccer stuff. [00:12:27] Speaker B: And it's definitely easier if the somebody stays at your house with your kid. [00:12:32] Speaker A: Totally. Which wasn't the case. [00:12:33] Speaker B: But I know one kid, it's different. But like if you have three kids, like you're not packing up your three kids to school, grandma's fucking coming to you. [00:12:41] Speaker A: And honestly the thought of doing it is even tough. Like the thought of having to pack you over five days was like torturous. But I did it and got sent him on his merry way. And like it's like, okay, so we have to get on a plane. So it's like, how are we getting the baby somewhere before we have to get on a flight? Our flight was at 6am so it's like, okay, how are we doing this? So like, my mom stayed here the night before, stayed with the baby. In the morning my mother in law came so she didn't have to come here. [00:13:05] Speaker B: The crack house, there's a lot of moving parts. [00:13:07] Speaker A: A lot of moving parts. Pre. That's just pre. [00:13:09] Speaker B: Right. [00:13:09] Speaker A: So it's like the thought of that is like. Okay, let's just not even go. [00:13:12] Speaker B: Right. [00:13:12] Speaker A: You know, because we were almost not going. [00:13:14] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:13:15] Speaker A: And can you take me seriously in this hat? [00:13:17] Speaker B: Yes. I'm into it. [00:13:18] Speaker A: You're into it? Do you want to try it on? [00:13:20] Speaker B: No, I don't. I'm not worthy. [00:13:22] Speaker A: You're definitely not worthy. No, I'm kidding. So did all that. And I mean even for you. So say your mother comes, stays at your house for four days. I mean, that's a lot. Even if he's. The kids are not going anywhere. Like, your kids gotta go to school. How are you. How are you planning for someone to drop your kids off? [00:13:42] Speaker B: You know, there's a. [00:13:43] Speaker A: My mom doesn't drive with the baby. Yours doesn't, does she? [00:13:46] Speaker B: No, my mom. [00:13:47] Speaker A: Because Sandra doesn't. [00:13:48] Speaker B: Cassandra doesn't. [00:13:49] Speaker A: So it's like. [00:13:50] Speaker B: Yeah, it's a lot. [00:13:51] Speaker A: Then we go. We have the time of our life. [00:13:55] Speaker B: When do you feel like at ease? Like when you're. When you land? [00:13:57] Speaker A: I never did, I gotta be honest. [00:13:59] Speaker B: Oh, you didn't? [00:14:00] Speaker A: I am really good at still enjoying my time. [00:14:03] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:14:03] Speaker A: And not letting it get. [00:14:04] Speaker B: You were still thinking about. [00:14:06] Speaker A: Absolutely. I still was. And I'm sure there was things went on that no one told me. Like Gio wake. I mean, Gio was up every single night from 2am to 5. [00:14:14] Speaker B: I was better off not knowing. Yeah. [00:14:16] Speaker A: But so she, she didn't tell me. My mom didn't tell me a lot, but she told me that. And not in any way, but of course I feel so bad. I'm like my poor mother in law. [00:14:24] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:14:24] Speaker A: Like, she's not a kid. She needs her rest. [00:14:28] Speaker B: Right. [00:14:28] Speaker A: And she was up from 2am to like 5:30 every morning with him. [00:14:32] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:14:32] Speaker A: Because he's not in his normal, you know, routine. And luckily he was with my niece and nephew, so it made it better. But so. And obviously he was crying for mama like every night. She told me after the. After the fact. But we FaceTime with him and. [00:14:45] Speaker B: Oh, see, I can't FaceTime. [00:14:47] Speaker A: I know, but she can't help it. She wants, you know. [00:14:49] Speaker B: But did that make him more sad or. He was. [00:14:51] Speaker A: No, he was fine. [00:14:51] Speaker B: Okay. [00:14:52] Speaker A: But it definitely made me more sad. Like. Yeah, see, because you feel guilty yeah. You feel you're not. You're not worthy enough to be on vacation with your husband. Like, who are you to go on vacation with your husband and leave your child with your mother in law? Like, who are you? Like, that's how I felt. Like, who am I to do that? [00:15:06] Speaker B: You have to take that aside because you have to have time. [00:15:10] Speaker A: Especially me and Michael. But. So I never felt at ease. But I obviously enjoyed myself to the fullest. I mean, we had a full itinerary. We did all the things. We saw all the things we saw bison, moose and bears, grizzly bears. Like, all fun things. And picture me like on an 11 hour tour, 12 hour tour. Like, I did all the things. [00:15:29] Speaker B: Degrees. [00:15:29] Speaker A: So it was fun. We spent time together. My husband, we really enjoyed the moment. We laughed. We like got each other. [00:15:34] Speaker B: Talk about Gio. [00:15:35] Speaker A: That's a funny question. [00:15:37] Speaker B: I feel like when. [00:15:37] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:15:38] Speaker B: All we do is talk about. [00:15:39] Speaker A: Yeah. Like we told the stories. Like, he's just like. When we would tell like stories of. [00:15:43] Speaker B: Like stuff he did. [00:15:44] Speaker A: Like, things maybe I didn't catch Michael up on. Like when he's gone at work or, you know, we just talk about, like, it's insane how much he like, loves soccer. Yeah, we did have some funny. So it's funny when your parents, like, you just enjoy the funniest things that. We were at dinner one night and a group of like NHL moms came into the restaurant, caused a scene. Not a good scene. [00:16:02] Speaker B: Okay. [00:16:02] Speaker A: And me and Michael were so invested. Like, first of all, my husband hates the drama. And me and him, all we walked. [00:16:09] Speaker B: It was just, it was just. [00:16:10] Speaker A: It was wives and all. Michael and I, were they fancy? Oh, yeah. They walked in with Chanel, Prada, Gucci, shoe, like, everything. [00:16:19] Speaker B: Okay. [00:16:19] Speaker A: And I just knew they were something. [00:16:21] Speaker B: Right. [00:16:21] Speaker A: And the manager ended up telling us because I had to ask. [00:16:24] Speaker B: Right. [00:16:24] Speaker A: But it was like a whole big to do. But anyway, Michael and I were like so invested. Like, that's the shit. Like, we were just laughing about it. And it wasn't even like we were getting like talking about the nitty gritty with us, but just more so like enjoying our company. [00:16:37] Speaker B: Yeah. That's so nice. [00:16:38] Speaker A: And you know, my husband. Physical touch. Loved that he was able to be alone time with me. What do you want? [00:16:46] Speaker B: Were you able to loosen up? [00:16:48] Speaker A: Loosen up and not like disassociate from mom? [00:16:51] Speaker B: Yeah, totally. How you couldn't do that? [00:16:52] Speaker A: Yeah, totally. Oh yeah, totally. When you're not in your own house. Totally. You have to go outside. [00:16:59] Speaker B: Not right now. You want to let him out. Okay. You do look good in that hat. [00:17:05] Speaker A: So much. [00:17:06] Speaker B: When are you gonna wear it next? Are you gonna wear it to dad's wedding? [00:17:08] Speaker A: I actually might wear it to the Friday. Would you die? [00:17:13] Speaker B: I won't be there, but yeah. [00:17:15] Speaker A: So you could still hear me through your headphones? Yeah, because. Okay, good. [00:17:19] Speaker B: Can you hear me? [00:17:20] Speaker A: No, because I don't have my headphones in. [00:17:21] Speaker B: Yeah, but you can hear me regular. [00:17:23] Speaker A: Obviously. [00:17:24] Speaker B: I don't know if you're deaf. [00:17:27] Speaker A: Anyway, I hope that wind doesn't pick up the noise, but whatever. Not the wind. So anyway, it was nice. Like we were able to be like intimate, like in all ways. [00:17:36] Speaker B: Did you make a baby? [00:17:38] Speaker A: No. [00:17:39] Speaker B: But you could have. Yeah. Are you gonna? [00:17:43] Speaker A: Maybe. [00:17:44] Speaker B: Okay. [00:17:45] Speaker A: I'm pregnant. I'm just kidding. You're not even gonna believe me when I say something. [00:17:48] Speaker B: I'll never believe you until I take a pregnancy test with you. [00:17:51] Speaker A: I know. So, I mean. Okay. So it was enjoyable, obviously, while I was with my husband. I'm like, why wouldn't it be? But then I'm really bad at the come home. Like I think about the coming home like the day or two prior. And it was only a four day trip. So it was like halfway through the trip. Yeah, I was just like, well, it's a long travel. We're connecting flights. So we were leaving at like noon and not getting home till 10 o' clock at night. So it's like, I feel bad. My mom's probably exhausted. She was asleep on the couch when we got home. Like, it was like, not the travel aspect and like ruining the trip, but more so, like, I feel bad for everybody involved. [00:18:24] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:18:25] Speaker A: And then I was like, I know we have Ted's wedding coming up, which is another weekend I'm gone from the baby. And you were gone last and I was gone. [00:18:31] Speaker B: He's been gone three weekends in a row. [00:18:32] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:18:33] Speaker B: Terrible mother. [00:18:34] Speaker A: Terrible. I am. And I'm not sleeping tonight. [00:18:37] Speaker B: But we have a fun weekend ahead of us. [00:18:39] Speaker A: No, we do. I'm excited to hang out. You're gonna be on top of me all weekend. I just know it. So anyway, we do have the most fun together though, I have to say. Yeah. Okay. So anywho, it was really enjoyable. I do recommend it. Like, I think so. My point of this whole thing, we. [00:19:00] Speaker B: Came home, you felt like back to reconnecting. [00:19:04] Speaker A: I can't even explain to you. [00:19:05] Speaker B: I didn't think. [00:19:05] Speaker A: I'm not like that. I'm not like, I'm not gonna reconnect with myself. [00:19:08] Speaker B: Yes, you do. [00:19:09] Speaker A: My husband was like, don't forget about me. Like, when we get home, I'm like, oh, my God. Like, do I. Is that. Am I bad? [00:19:14] Speaker B: Honestly, when you're in the day to day, it's hard. [00:19:18] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. [00:19:19] Speaker B: So good people need that. [00:19:21] Speaker A: Yeah. So I came home. [00:19:21] Speaker B: But that's a trip. Yeah. [00:19:23] Speaker A: I came home and Gio's acting like he usually act. I mean, he's the best baby ever. But, you know, when he tried to change him, he's screaming, crying, kicking. Didn't bother me at all. [00:19:33] Speaker B: When I tell you you were, like, refreshed. [00:19:35] Speaker A: Oh, my God, the refresh. I felt still do. [00:19:38] Speaker B: You still do. [00:19:38] Speaker A: I can't believe that actually works. Like, getting away actually works. And I'm saying that because I recommend it. Like, even if you just take a day or two. Like, if you're a stay at home mom or even just a mom who works, like, you just need a minute. And I didn't. We didn't go away for that. It was our anniversary, so we were celebrating. But I still feel less stimulated, I swear to God. [00:19:59] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:20:00] Speaker A: And I mean, you don't get as overstimulated as I do, but sometimes you don't realize that you've been in it for so long. I don't think you realize how much of a break you need. [00:20:07] Speaker B: No, I know, but. So while you were away, Joe and I had a convention in Atlantic City for two days. [00:20:11] Speaker A: So we were also away because of course, if we go away, they have to go away. [00:20:14] Speaker B: No, we. It was already planned, but we. I just have to say, when I'm away, like, I can totally. Like, we were in the casino, obviously we love gambling. And I just could. I was like, not a mom. Like, I was in the casino. I was drinking. Like, I could. [00:20:29] Speaker A: Really good at disassociating. [00:20:31] Speaker B: I can. Like, I didn't even think about my kid. [00:20:32] Speaker A: Given your circumstance with three kids, like, needing you all day. [00:20:36] Speaker B: No, I know. So I feel like if I was on a vacation like, that I could. It would be good for me. Like, I would like to do that, but it's just, like, the logistics of, like, having. [00:20:44] Speaker A: Do you think it's easier because you know that your kids have each other or. No. Like, when you're gone. [00:20:52] Speaker B: Yeah, maybe I. They're also getting at an age where it's, like, getting easier, like, to leave them. [00:20:57] Speaker A: Yeah, I agree. [00:20:58] Speaker B: Because it's like they're. [00:20:59] Speaker A: I don't even think leaving Gio is badly. He loves hanging out with his cousins and my mom. I understand. [00:21:02] Speaker B: It's more like feeling bad for, like, who's watching? [00:21:05] Speaker A: Yeah, 100%. Like, and I'm like, I can't ask my mother to watch my baby for the next day year. Like, she did five full days. He's not in school. Like, he's. She's full blown. Watching, doing activities all day for five days. [00:21:16] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:21:18] Speaker A: So I'm like, oh, my God. Like, I really have to. I owe her a lot for that. I mean, but that, that's what they're there for, right? To like, help with family stuff. But I couldn't get rid of that feeling of. [00:21:28] Speaker B: And I don't think that'll go away. It's just like the guilt. It just. It just. It's just the feeling that you have as a mom, like, because you're not. Yeah. [00:21:35] Speaker A: It's your. It's your responsibility. Like, who are you to give someone else? It's like almost as a job. Like, you're working and you're giving someone else your tasks. Like, not supposed to be doing that. [00:21:44] Speaker B: Right. But it's needed. [00:21:46] Speaker A: It was needed. And I'm in my. [00:21:47] Speaker B: What does this say? [00:21:48] Speaker A: I thought I said Wyoming. [00:21:49] Speaker B: This is Jackson Hole, honey. [00:21:51] Speaker A: Oh, I had no idea. [00:21:54] Speaker B: I like it, though. [00:21:55] Speaker A: I know. Isn't it cute? [00:21:56] Speaker B: Yeah, really cute. [00:21:57] Speaker A: I mean, we did shopping. Like, he's so cute. My husband. We like, bought sweatshirts. Like, he's so cute. He's like, did you eat good food? Oh, my God. Food is a 10 out of 10 in Jackson Hall. [00:22:06] Speaker B: Oh, is it? [00:22:07] Speaker A: Yeah. I didn't know until Ted told me. I was like, oh, my God. I had no idea that I was going to eat, like, ribs every night. [00:22:11] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:22:11] Speaker A: We did all the fun things. [00:22:12] Speaker B: I mean, did you see the Yellowstone geysers? [00:22:16] Speaker A: Oh, my. They're so funny. Yeah. How do you know about those? [00:22:18] Speaker B: Well, I've been to Wyoming. Oh. As a child. [00:22:21] Speaker A: I didn't know until I went. Those geysers. [00:22:22] Speaker B: Yeah, the geysers. My dad took us. [00:22:24] Speaker A: You know how hot they are? [00:22:25] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:22:26] Speaker A: Insane. Our travel guy told us, like, the craziest stories of, like, people's falling dogs running in and then running after them and then burning to death. [00:22:34] Speaker B: So scary. [00:22:35] Speaker A: Yeah. I was like, I'm like, a little freaked out by this. [00:22:38] Speaker B: That's scary. Yeah. But it was the weather. Was it like, crisp or was it gorgeous? [00:22:42] Speaker A: No, crisp like a beautiful fall day. Little jacket in the morning. And plus, it's a time change, so we're up early, which is awesome. [00:22:49] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:22:50] Speaker A: And we get more of the day and we just did all the thing. And we just like, acted like cowboy cowgirl. [00:22:56] Speaker B: Yeah, you looked the part. [00:22:58] Speaker A: Thank you so much. [00:22:59] Speaker B: Did you do a little reverse cowgirl, if you know what I'm saying? [00:23:01] Speaker A: Yeah, I know. I'm like, I'm too short for that, but. Yeah, kind of. But honestly, like, if you ever want to leave your kids with me and Michael, don't. I'm just kidding. I think they would be good for us. Honestly. [00:23:14] Speaker B: I think you'd last probably three hours. [00:23:16] Speaker A: Yeah. I honestly might start with just Joey and Vienna. [00:23:20] Speaker B: Okay. [00:23:20] Speaker A: Because Rocco's still an age where he, like, needs. [00:23:23] Speaker B: Yeah, just start. [00:23:24] Speaker A: Like, I could just entertain Joey with like a video game or something. [00:23:26] Speaker B: Yes. Throw an iPad at them. They'll be fine. And Doritos, you know. [00:23:32] Speaker A: So anyway, do you have anything to. [00:23:33] Speaker B: Say that this episode. [00:23:35] Speaker A: What does your take on me about going honest looking at me in the face like, what was your take on me going away for five days? [00:23:40] Speaker B: I think it was great for you. [00:23:42] Speaker A: Oh, you do? [00:23:42] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:23:43] Speaker A: You weren't like, oh, my God, this. [00:23:44] Speaker B: No. I mean, I was jealous. I wish I could do something like that, but. [00:23:48] Speaker A: Oh, but like, you will. You're doing all the things now. [00:23:51] Speaker B: I'm, I'm, I'm glad that you did that because, like, once you have more kids, I don't know how often you will. I mean, five years high. [00:23:57] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:23:58] Speaker B: And it's hard. It's definitely a lot harder to plan babysitters. Like, I have my mom, but it's. [00:24:03] Speaker A: God, imagine you didn't. What would you do? [00:24:05] Speaker B: No, I wouldn't. I wouldn't leave. [00:24:06] Speaker A: I wouldn't be able to go out the house. [00:24:08] Speaker B: Right. Yeah. So. But no, I was envious of you, but it looked like you had a fabulous time and I think it's very important to especially you and Michael needed to do that. [00:24:19] Speaker A: And we honestly, like, as much as people think we, like, do a million things, we. When have we gone away for just us too. [00:24:24] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:24:24] Speaker A: Without the baby. [00:24:25] Speaker B: Right. You don't. [00:24:26] Speaker A: And. But the other thing is, like, we're going away again this weekend for his best friend. I mean, for Ted's wedding. [00:24:32] Speaker B: Yes. [00:24:32] Speaker A: And it's not that I don't want to be with my husband, but I'm. [00:24:35] Speaker B: Like, we just did this. [00:24:36] Speaker A: We just did this and I don't need it and I don't want to leave the baby and the dog. You have to remember the dog. [00:24:41] Speaker B: Yeah, the dog. [00:24:43] Speaker A: So not only was my mother in law watching the baby, my cousin and his boyfriend stayed at my house watch the dog, which no he needs to be walked, and it's like another child. And then this weekend, we have one of Michael's employees stay at my house and watching my dog. [00:24:57] Speaker B: Like, then you have to get your house. [00:24:58] Speaker A: It's like, so. I feel like I'm so rude. I'm like, how am I, like. I'm like, just making people watch my family while I go gallivant. It's almost like, how. How do you have fun when you know you're leaving responsibility to somebody else? [00:25:11] Speaker B: Yeah. Well, that's why you have to disassociate when. And living in the moment. In the moment. [00:25:15] Speaker A: Yeah. Or you're going to, like, ruin it. Yeah, totally. [00:25:18] Speaker B: I'm, for one, excited to get away for this weekend. [00:25:20] Speaker A: You are so excited. [00:25:22] Speaker B: And I love Ted. Yeah. [00:25:23] Speaker A: Oh, my God, I cannot wait to celebrate him. It's gonna be so much fun. [00:25:27] Speaker B: Our best friend is getting married this week. [00:25:28] Speaker A: It's gonna be a really fun wedding. [00:25:30] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:25:30] Speaker A: And it's like a wedding weekend, so. [00:25:32] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:25:32] Speaker A: But, you know, I always anticipate going somewhere. [00:25:34] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. [00:25:35] Speaker A: I mean, it's also far. [00:25:36] Speaker B: So it's like, it's in Cape May, right? [00:25:39] Speaker A: Like, right before Kate May. [00:25:43] Speaker B: What else? [00:25:44] Speaker A: What else? I know that was, like, all about May, but. [00:25:46] Speaker B: Oh, it was a trip. [00:25:48] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:25:48] Speaker B: So. Oh, no. Oh, you said so after the trip, you felt refreshed, and then. [00:25:53] Speaker A: Yeah. Unreal. I still do. I swear to God, nothing bothers me as much as it did. Like, I can't believe how. I can't believe how frustrated I was getting when he wouldn't let me change him. I'm like, dude, we need to leave now. I'm like, I don't even care. Doesn't bother me one bit. [00:26:07] Speaker B: Yeah. I wonder how long that will last. [00:26:08] Speaker A: I know. Literally two more hours. [00:26:09] Speaker B: But I do feel like even when the kids go to school for a little, like, a couple hours and then they come home, I'm like, okay. Like, I could breathe a little. Like, I don't have all three of them on top of me. Yeah. So it definitely. [00:26:19] Speaker A: You definitely wait till Rocco goes to school. Then you're gonna, like, really be up my ass. [00:26:24] Speaker B: Was never going to school. [00:26:27] Speaker A: He really is a cute kid when. [00:26:28] Speaker B: He'S alone this morning. [00:26:29] Speaker A: No offense, but I don't get to pay attention to him because your other two kids are. I'm occupying. [00:26:33] Speaker B: Like, no. [00:26:34] Speaker A: He's like, I heard him laugh today. I go, oh, my God. I don't think I've ever heard him laugh. Because you don't. You don't pay attention this dog's opening the screen door by himself. [00:26:42] Speaker B: He's trying to get back. Oh, he got in. He did it. [00:26:45] Speaker A: That was insane. So, anyway, yeah, folks, I have to place it on its head like that. It's also custom, so I have some engraving. [00:26:56] Speaker B: What's engraved? [00:26:57] Speaker A: I did a rose. [00:26:58] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:26:59] Speaker A: And my initials with the butterfly. [00:27:01] Speaker B: Oh, that's so sweet. [00:27:03] Speaker A: I gotta get back to my roof style. Headphones. [00:27:05] Speaker B: Headphones on. You have hat hair. [00:27:07] Speaker A: I do, Do I? [00:27:09] Speaker B: I don't know. [00:27:11] Speaker A: So anyway, I feel like that's it. That's all I have to say. [00:27:14] Speaker B: Yeah, it's good to get away. I would really like to get away. But then I had. So I'm, like, struggling because, like, I would love a vacation with my husband, but also I would love a vacation with my kids. I know. [00:27:25] Speaker A: That's another thing. I want to go away with my kid. Yeah, I agree. [00:27:29] Speaker B: So. [00:27:30] Speaker A: So we go back and forth, but good luck. [00:27:33] Speaker B: And then I also would love a girls trip, like, without my husband. [00:27:36] Speaker A: I have to come on that girls trip, right? [00:27:37] Speaker B: Yeah. Okay. [00:27:39] Speaker A: No, that would be so fun. [00:27:40] Speaker B: So I have things that I want, but they'll never happen. [00:27:42] Speaker A: No time. [00:27:42] Speaker B: None of them. [00:27:43] Speaker A: But you know who did help me? Like, so obviously Chelsea did our itinerary. But before, like, we reached out to her, I kind of created one on Chat gbt. [00:27:53] Speaker B: Wait, what doesn't CHAT GPT help you with? [00:27:58] Speaker A: I mean, nothing. Chatgpt thinks I'm absolutely insane. I'm not even going to show you my love history. [00:28:03] Speaker B: I wish we could. [00:28:04] Speaker A: I mean, you don't understand. [00:28:05] Speaker B: What's the craziest thing you ask Chat to do? [00:28:07] Speaker A: No. [00:28:08] Speaker B: Please do it. [00:28:09] Speaker A: No. [00:28:09] Speaker B: Do it. [00:28:10] Speaker A: No. [00:28:10] Speaker B: Say it. Think I don't use it like you do, but. [00:28:16] Speaker A: Well, I did. [00:28:16] Speaker B: Food. [00:28:17] Speaker A: I'll send him a picture of my. [00:28:18] Speaker B: Food and be like, is this okay? [00:28:19] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, this chicken. [00:28:21] Speaker B: An actual picture of the food, and say, is this chicken raw? Yeah, kind of. Deal. [00:28:24] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:28:25] Speaker B: Okay. That's crazy. Is it like you're asking a robot if your chicken is raw? How about you open your eyes? No. [00:28:33] Speaker A: This world is so fun. No, I know. Sometimes I go to text it and I delete it because I'm like, I'm corrupted. [00:28:40] Speaker B: Yeah, that's. See, this is a scary world. [00:28:42] Speaker A: But it's crazy how they answer. [00:28:44] Speaker B: What else did you do? What else? [00:28:45] Speaker A: It's not even about me doing. It's how they respond. [00:28:47] Speaker B: No, I know. [00:28:48] Speaker A: Sometimes I like to see what they have to say, and I'm like, you're crazier than I am. So anyway, I'll send a picture of like my, my tomatoes and be like, this is what the inside. No, I'm just kidding. Kinda. No, I still do that. No, I'm serious. So, ChatGPT, I saw one of my favorite comedians, Eric D', Alessandro, he posted a video of like five years ago AI creating like this video of Will Smith eating pasta. It was like all disordered. It looked like whacked out. Like, obviously this is fake, right? Then he said, this is AI today. The same exact thing. [00:29:18] Speaker B: It looks so real. [00:29:20] Speaker A: Real. I'm like, I will never know what's real or what's fake anymore. [00:29:23] Speaker B: I know. [00:29:24] Speaker A: I'm actually scared. I think I'm gonna stop using chatgpt because I can't live this life. [00:29:29] Speaker B: People like, you could chat GBT an entire podcast. Like they can make us sitting here talking. It could be word for word fake. [00:29:36] Speaker A: But it's good for businesses because they're probably skyrocketing because they have to do one thing, I guess. [00:29:41] Speaker B: But like. [00:29:41] Speaker A: But I sent it to Chelsea and she was like, did you get this on ChatGPT? I'm like, yeah, why aren't you using it? She's like, I do this for a living, right? I'm like, not for long, sweetheart. [00:29:49] Speaker B: I mean, it's helpful. Like, I feel like if you're like, I don't know professionally, but like, if I'm writing an email and I want to like make it sound better, I would do chat. [00:29:57] Speaker A: Totally good for creating. [00:29:58] Speaker B: Like also it's, it's scary because our children are growing up in this world. They're not going to learn how to study, they're not going to learn how to do research papers. [00:30:05] Speaker A: Who's real, who's not. What if they're older and they're like going on a date and it's like a fake? Yeah, I'm not kidding. That's how bad it is. ChatGPT is taking over. AI is taking over the world. [00:30:15] Speaker B: I wonder how teachers are dealing with it in like high school. Like, remember writing your junior research paper and stuff? [00:30:20] Speaker A: Like now, what was that website you used to copy from and then people used to know, professors used to know. [00:30:24] Speaker B: Yes. [00:30:26] Speaker A: That is like non existent because ChatGPT is here. [00:30:28] Speaker B: I don't know, it's like a spark note thing. Like, remember spark notes? But yeah, it's crazy. I don't know, I'm concerned. I should like go get my doctorate or something and do it with. Chat should be. No, literally so close. [00:30:40] Speaker A: Like you don't even have to study. You Just say, like, please summarize this. It's up chapter of this book, these pages, and they don't know. [00:30:47] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. And then you could be like, actually say it in a different way where I actually understand it. [00:30:53] Speaker A: Yeah, like, you can do that. [00:30:54] Speaker B: Actually, like, thinking about, like, a prescription or like, if my kid has, like, an ailment. [00:31:01] Speaker A: I mean, Steph did it with my burn today. She's like, what do you use? How do you use it? I was putting ice on my hand. It was killing me. And she was like, can't use ice. Yeah, but I'm saying, like, do you not think to get detailed? Like, I feel like I'm always telling you, just ask chat to chat GPT like, more detail. Like, I am so detailed in my. What I'm saying to ChatGPT. I'm like, do they think I'm crazy? [00:31:21] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. Like you're selling them. Exactly. [00:31:23] Speaker A: Exactly what I need to know. [00:31:25] Speaker B: Well, actually, I did use it the other day. I had like, a random ingredients in my fridge and I just wanted to make something. I said, I have Brussels sprouts, broccoli, and they gave me a recipe that. And I had all the ingredients because I told them the ingredients and it gave me a good recipe. So that was smart. And it came out good. So you can do that. [00:31:45] Speaker A: Wait, I love that. [00:31:46] Speaker B: Yeah, I really did that the other day. [00:31:48] Speaker A: Wait, that's awesome. [00:31:48] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:31:49] Speaker A: What a smart way. I'm like, sitting there, like, using it as an anxiety cope. I'm like, like, help me not have anxiety today. [00:31:55] Speaker B: Should I. Should I go to the therapist today? [00:31:57] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, what? Sometimes I'm freaked out by myself. Like, what am I doing? Why am I texting chatgpt this? [00:32:03] Speaker B: Yeah, Well, a lot I. I feel like I've heard stories of, like, kids actually, like, writing breakup texts into chat GBT and chat GPT breaks up with their partner better than they would. [00:32:13] Speaker A: Like, I would do that. [00:32:14] Speaker B: Yeah, I feel like I would do that. [00:32:15] Speaker A: How to respond to somebody. Like, that's you said. But, like, I mean, I feel like it just has gotten really crazy and escalated a lot. [00:32:23] Speaker B: I can't believe this is the world we live in. [00:32:25] Speaker A: I know. It's freaked out. After seeing, like, the Eric d' Alessandro thing with him posting that video, it, like, really freaked me out. Oh, my God. Like, I will be fooled 100%. [00:32:33] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. [00:32:34] Speaker A: Music. This guy that I think Uncle Jimmy went to high school with created a song. Didn't you hear it? Wrote lyrics to a song? [00:32:44] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:32:44] Speaker A: So it was his lyrics. He put it into AI. It made a song with a voice and like. [00:32:49] Speaker B: Well, you know all those country songs, those dirty country songs on TikTok? That's AI. Do you know that? [00:32:55] Speaker A: No. Yeah, I'm deleting. I'm following. [00:32:57] Speaker B: Those are all AI songs that, like. You know the. The one I'm talking about? I did the joke to you. Those are AI. Yeah. [00:33:07] Speaker A: So anyway, we're no longer gonna have. [00:33:09] Speaker B: Job in your head. [00:33:10] Speaker A: No. I'm freaked out. No one's gonna have a job anymore. And that's that. [00:33:14] Speaker B: I asked Chat GBT if who my husband is, like, send me a picture of my husband. Because I wanted to see what they would do. They sent me a picture. Obviously, it was not Joey, but it was his man. And I was like, my God, I'm not with my soulmate. I got. [00:33:28] Speaker A: Wait, what did he look like? [00:33:29] Speaker B: He was hot. He kind of looked like Joey, but he. But he wasn't Joey. He was, like, hotter. [00:33:35] Speaker A: Imagine. They send a picture of Joey. I would. [00:33:38] Speaker B: After this, let's ask Chat who you're with. Yeah. Or like, who you're meant to be with. [00:33:43] Speaker A: Yeah. Who am I meant to be? [00:33:44] Speaker B: Am I going to get divorced? [00:33:45] Speaker A: No, people are going to. You like, Chat. People are going to start saying, well, Chat. GBT told me. [00:33:49] Speaker B: Chat told me I'm going to have four kids. [00:33:51] Speaker A: Yeah. So let's make a baby. Anyway, I'm so happy that I don't know why I'm happy. Actually, I think we're done now. What time is it? [00:34:02] Speaker B: Yeah, we're done. [00:34:02] Speaker A: Yeah. All right. [00:34:04] Speaker B: Well, quick sweet. [00:34:05] Speaker A: Quick, sweet. I. If you want my itinerary to Wyoming, you have to pay me for it. And my outfits, you also have to pay me for it. [00:34:13] Speaker B: She wanted me to buy one of the Wyoming outfits that I saw at the mall and tell my husband, can we please go to Wyoming? I already got this outfit. [00:34:21] Speaker A: You would have said, n o. Well, anyway, my point of all of this is go on a trip with your significant other. It's worthwhile, especially if you have kids. Thank me later. Love you. [00:34:31] Speaker B: It doesn't have to be a trip. Do date night. If you're. If you're like me. [00:34:35] Speaker A: Yeah, but if you're like me, go to Wyoming. I'll give you my outfit. Okay. [00:34:41] Speaker B: Love you. Bye. That's funny. So funny. All right. Cute. Good shorts. [00:34:50] Speaker A: Sorry, Mama.