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Hello?
[00:01:14] Speaker B: You guys, stop.
Is it Mama Clock yet? I'm going crazy.
[00:01:19] Speaker A: Heck, yeah. It's Mama Clark somewhere.
I just want to start by saying this is the shirt I wanted to wear on Valentine's Day that no one in my life allowed me to wear.
[00:01:48] Speaker B: You wish.
[00:01:49] Speaker A: You wish.
[00:01:51] Speaker B: You probably wanted to wear that every day of high school. I got the rose. You wish.
[00:01:54] Speaker A: You wish.
I just love this shirt. I feel like it's so mean. Everyone was like, you look like you're like a little kid. I was like, this is the vibe.
[00:02:02] Speaker B: You're not. You look like a limited.
A limited two. Girl, you remember limited two.
[00:02:09] Speaker A: What?
[00:02:11] Speaker B: Come on.
[00:02:12] Speaker A: I'm working, Gio. Mom's working. Mommy's work. I'm working.
[00:02:21] Speaker B: It's mom o'. Clock.
[00:02:23] Speaker A: Go to bed, dude. This house is like a zoo. No one could control my kid besides me.
[00:02:28] Speaker B: This house is not a zoo.
[00:02:31] Speaker A: Did you have a rough residence day?
[00:02:34] Speaker B: I had.
[00:02:34] Speaker A: Thank God it's mom o' clock on a Monday night. We're doing Mama Clock because it's mom o' clock at any time.
[00:02:40] Speaker B: I ran out of my house to come here.
[00:02:42] Speaker A: I know you did.
[00:02:43] Speaker B: This is a spa zone right now.
[00:02:45] Speaker A: Are you Zen?
[00:02:46] Speaker B: I am so Zen. I do. Let me just tell you how my day went. I'll just sum it up in one word. I got into the shower with my socks on.
[00:02:53] Speaker A: No. You did it.
[00:02:54] Speaker B: I did. I was so frazzled, I just Needed to hop in the shower for one second of silence. And I got in with my socks.
[00:03:01] Speaker A: So. Your socks are soaking wet.
[00:03:02] Speaker B: So I contemplated just like, leaving them off.
[00:03:06] Speaker A: Fog it.
[00:03:08] Speaker B: Wait.
[00:03:08] Speaker A: That is crazy work.
[00:03:10] Speaker B: It was a day.
[00:03:11] Speaker A: I mean, I felt bad for you, but what are you going to do? You want three kids, this is what you're going to deal with.
[00:03:16] Speaker B: Right?
[00:03:16] Speaker A: And you want number four.
[00:03:18] Speaker B: I don't. If I ever say I do, I don't remember.
[00:03:20] Speaker A: So you got in the shower with your socks on. Is so crazy of you. And I mean, you want number four and we can't have number four?
[00:03:29] Speaker B: No, I don't want number four. I occasionally want a baby. Okay?
Occasionally. And after today, I occasionally do not.
[00:03:37] Speaker A: Okay, perfect. So we made the decision, and the decision is clear. Shout out to Joey, Zenunzia, whoever, your husband listening. She does not want a fourth kid.
Thank God.
[00:03:46] Speaker B: Today.
Maybe tomorrow I will.
[00:03:49] Speaker A: Oh, God, you're so annoying. It, like drives me nuts.
[00:03:52] Speaker B: How was your Valentine's Day?
[00:03:53] Speaker A: It was good. Same as yours. How was yours?
[00:03:55] Speaker B: Mine was very well rounded. I like.
[00:03:58] Speaker A: I love that for you.
[00:03:58] Speaker B: Yeah, because, like, I had a little bit of my kids, I had a little bit of my husband. I had a little bit of you. I had a little bit of your husband. You did.
[00:04:05] Speaker A: You had everybody. You had a little bit of Sal and Chris.
[00:04:08] Speaker B: Oh, love them. I can't get enough of that.
[00:04:10] Speaker A: Did you have so much fun? We didn't talk about it.
[00:04:11] Speaker B: I mean, we. We had the best time.
[00:04:13] Speaker A: So for the viewers who don't know what we did, we decided this year to do a collective Valentine's Day, because that's what we deserve. Fun, live, laugh, love.
[00:04:22] Speaker B: It was so fun.
[00:04:23] Speaker A: And we went to Falcones.
[00:04:26] Speaker B: We were the only six top table.
[00:04:28] Speaker A: We went to Falcones and Lincoln. Shout out. Best restaurant, best food. Delicious. The only six top in the restaurant, it was me, my husband Emily, her husband Chris, and my cousin who's Crisp's boyfriend.
I'm keeping it in. Fuck it, Sal. I'm keeping your name in. You can look him up on Instagram now. It's too much.
So anyway, we had so much fun with the only six top. So let me preference the manager.
[00:04:56] Speaker B: Preface.
[00:04:57] Speaker A: Let me preface. I always do that. The manager told my husband, you have to be out by 7:30. That's when the table's turning. Because they had a shit ton of reservations, so we had to book ours at 5. Turnover was at 7.35pm we didn't leave till 10pm no turnover.
So we stayed for five hours.
[00:05:15] Speaker B: Also, it was a BYOB, which we weren't really aware of.
[00:05:20] Speaker A: We forgot.
[00:05:20] Speaker B: We knew, but we forgot so last minute. We grabbed everything under the sun.
[00:05:24] Speaker A: We had everything under the sun.
[00:05:26] Speaker B: I had we in my basement and we just. I mean, we. We ran a bar in the. In the.
[00:05:32] Speaker A: When's the last time you saw a handle of Tito's? That was at Falcon's on the table? Saturday night, we were asking for martini glasses. My husband asked for a bucket of ice. And he was bartending.
[00:05:42] Speaker B: Yeah, it was. It was epic.
[00:05:44] Speaker A: I mean, truth be told. Like, Woody, is that what I supposed to say right now?
[00:05:48] Speaker B: No, truth be told.
Wrong.
[00:05:51] Speaker A: Wrong.
Like, what are you supposed to do in a biob besides bring wine? What if someone wants vodka?
[00:05:56] Speaker B: Right? Like, I was not ready to drink wine. It was 5pm I was ready to rage.
[00:06:00] Speaker A: Like, what do people do on a B? People just bring wine, Right? I do.
[00:06:04] Speaker B: Yeah.
Yeah. Because, like, they're not gonna make you mixed drink.
[00:06:08] Speaker A: You and Chris went. We went drink for drink. You guys had. Michael said he made you seven straight vodkas each.
No, straight. He said there was, like, nothing in it besides vodka.
[00:06:18] Speaker B: And I was still standing, and so.
[00:06:20] Speaker A: Was Chris, which is crazy because I had one vodka drink and three glasses of wine.
[00:06:25] Speaker B: Oh, wait, you didn't have tequila.
[00:06:26] Speaker A: Yeah, I had tequila. I'm sorry. I had one tequila drink and three glasses of wine, and I was so hungover.
[00:06:32] Speaker B: I was hurting. Sunday, definitely. For sure. Hurting.
[00:06:34] Speaker A: But, like, we had so much fun. Like, did you have so much fun? We. Again, we didn't talk about it.
[00:06:39] Speaker B: No, it was so fun. So we were sitting at, like, a circle table like this, which is my favorite because everyone can talk to everyone. We were not sitting next to our significant others, which was even more fun because I just love that.
[00:06:49] Speaker A: But we didn't do it on purpose.
[00:06:50] Speaker B: No, it was just.
[00:06:51] Speaker A: We sat down, Chris sat down, then Emily and Michael sat down, and then I just sat next to Chris and Sal. And you sat next to Sal and Michael. Your husband sat next to Michael and Chris.
They shared a porterhouse and a pork chop. I got a halibut. I didn't know you shared a filet with Sal.
[00:07:08] Speaker B: I shared a filet with my lover Sal.
[00:07:10] Speaker A: Yeah. And we got 78% of the menu, I would say.
[00:07:15] Speaker B: I mean, yeah, we said one of everything we did.
[00:07:18] Speaker A: They loved us. We didn't leave there till 10pm My cousin and his fiance were also there. Their table got turned over four times.
[00:07:25] Speaker B: We told them we'd meet them at the bar.
[00:07:27] Speaker A: I know sin. We didn't make it. There they were sitting, waiting for us for two hours. My poor cousin.
[00:07:31] Speaker B: Oh, that was sad.
[00:07:31] Speaker A: I know. But I called him and apologized because, I mean, what were we going to do?
[00:07:34] Speaker B: They weren't. They were.
[00:07:35] Speaker A: They. It's not like we were sitting there, you know, mingling.
[00:07:37] Speaker B: No, they weren't bringing out our food. Yeah. Also, it was a very, like, romantic, like, dark vibe.
[00:07:44] Speaker A: Rose petals.
[00:07:45] Speaker B: Rose petals. Everybody was on Valentine date and it was. We were literally having a party in the corner.
[00:07:50] Speaker A: We had the table next to us and our waiter. Guess who was with who. Meaning, like, who was married, who was dating who?
[00:07:56] Speaker B: Oh, that was.
[00:07:57] Speaker A: Every single person said, I was with your husband.
[00:07:59] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:08:00] Speaker A: Then Chris was with my husband at one point.
And then you were with Sal.
[00:08:05] Speaker B: I was with Sal.
[00:08:07] Speaker A: And then we played card roulette, which if the first person's card who gets picked is safe and doesn't have to pay for dinner. So obviously we're in Joey's car. Got picked, and you were safe. And then it was me and Chris and Sal and Michael.
[00:08:19] Speaker B: We were really lucky we got picked.
[00:08:21] Speaker A: Yeah. But then your husband picked up Mabel, which was nice.
[00:08:23] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:08:24] Speaker A: Anyway, that was so fun. I think we should make that a tradition because we had the best time.
[00:08:28] Speaker B: I mean, it really was. Right.
[00:08:29] Speaker A: I feel like we didn't talk, too Chris and Sal about it. Besides, like, how good the food was.
[00:08:34] Speaker B: No. Yeah, we should.
[00:08:35] Speaker A: Do you think they had fun?
[00:08:36] Speaker B: I do.
[00:08:36] Speaker A: Let's text them.
[00:08:37] Speaker B: I do. But I also. I was thinking about it, like, I think Valentine's Day. I mean, obviously you feel like it's.
[00:08:43] Speaker A: Like the morning after. Like, you feel, like, hungover, and it's like the holiday's over. Like, the sadness.
[00:08:48] Speaker B: Nobody loves anyone anymore.
[00:08:50] Speaker A: Nobody loves anybody anymore. Love is off the table. I no longer having sex with my husband.
[00:08:54] Speaker B: The lingerie is shoved back in the drawers.
[00:08:57] Speaker A: Lingerie is shoved and sealed, sealed, sealed.
[00:09:00] Speaker B: Shot.
[00:09:00] Speaker A: And that's it.
[00:09:01] Speaker B: That's it.
Oh, man. Well, you guys had no kids. I had to come home to three kids.
[00:09:07] Speaker A: Yeah, we had no kids for, like, two days.
[00:09:09] Speaker B: You were on your honeymoon.
[00:09:10] Speaker A: I didn't do that.
[00:09:10] Speaker B: That's amazing. I. And when we got home from the restaurant, Joe and I went upstairs and my son had a bloody nose at 2am and comes.
Thank God we locked the door because if he walked in, he would see things he would never be able to unsee. He would need therapy for years.
[00:09:28] Speaker A: Were you doing it while he knocked?
[00:09:31] Speaker B: Yes. Well, we heard him. He had a bloody nose. And my mom was sleeping with Him. So my mom was like trying to make noise because she knew what was going on in that room so she didn't want him to barge in. And she was like, Joe, don't go in there. And then we heard him like fumbling with the door. And then everything was fine when he, when he actually went in.
[00:09:49] Speaker A: Did he have a blood. Actually have a body nose?
[00:09:50] Speaker B: Oh, yeah, he was gushing sin. Yeah, he got some. Yeah. But yeah, at least you had no kids at home.
[00:09:57] Speaker A: It was great.
[00:09:58] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:09:59] Speaker A: Then we woke up, we got breakfast.
[00:10:01] Speaker B: You had no kids? I woke up, I was literally so hungover and I had to wake up at five because my mother.
[00:10:07] Speaker A: I don't wake up till nine.
[00:10:08] Speaker B: Yeah, you have the life.
[00:10:10] Speaker A: I really do.
What are you going to do?
So anyway, Valentine's Day is over and so is sex.
So talk to me. What else happened? Because so we morning of. So I babysat my niece the night prior to Valentine's Day. So I woke up on Valentine's Day with my brother, my sister in law, my niece, my son and my husband. So I had the whole. You did a spread kitchen island spread of gifts and breakfast and you know, we just have fun in the morning. And then they left, they took my son up north. So we had the afternoon. Oh, we went to dinner at five. So we really had like two hours. We went to go play like fun games at like this cool place in Edison and then we came back, got ready and we went to dinner. We woke up, we got breakfast and then that was it.
[00:10:52] Speaker B: So living your best life and we.
[00:10:54] Speaker A: Had so much fun.
[00:10:55] Speaker B: Oh, what did you do? Oh. Friday night was our separate dates. I took little Joey out and Joe took Vienna out and it was so cute. It was so nice to just have like quality one on one.
[00:11:06] Speaker A: You were like living in like 2045, but those robots serving you.
[00:11:10] Speaker B: Oh my God. So we went to, we went to this restaurant. It had, it was called.
I don't know the name of it, but it had.
[00:11:15] Speaker A: You don't know the name of the restaurant you went to?
[00:11:17] Speaker B: Shukuku or something? I don't know. But it had rotate. It was like a rotating sushi place. So there was a conveyor belt of sushi. I didn't know when I booked it that it was all you can eat. So I'm taking a five year old to an all you can eat sushi restaurant.
[00:11:30] Speaker A: One sushi roll.
[00:11:31] Speaker B: Who eats one roll? I don't eat that much. Yeah. And so we get there and he. So the rule was you can grab whatever Sushi comes on the conveyor belt. Conveyor belt. And then you can also. They give you an iPad and you can order whatever you want on the menu every five minutes. So my son was having a heyday. He was like, let's get this. Let's look at this. He's ordering all this food. And so we have, like, 20 rolls in front of us. I'm like, we have to eat these. And he's like, why, Mommy? Everything's free. And everything on the menu is 0, 0, 00. Because everything's like, this is free. I'm like, okay, it's free. Yeah. And I was like, they charge for. They charge for, like, the food that you don't eat. Like, to preventing weights. Oh, yeah. So it was so funny. I was like, play. Play around with your food. Make it seem like we're eating this. I think at one point he put one of the sushi rolls in his drink. It was like a science experiment.
[00:12:20] Speaker A: I can't. It makes me sick.
[00:12:21] Speaker B: Wait. And then he also ordered this green Japanese soda they had on the menu. He was like, I really want this. I'm like, okay. So he gets this Japanese soda, and everything comes. It's either on a conveyor belt or a robot. So a robot actually comes. There's no fucking servers around.
[00:12:36] Speaker A: So there's no people.
[00:12:36] Speaker B: No. So but we get this glass bottle of Japanese soda, and we cannot figure out how to open it. Like, me and him are just, like two dumb idiots.
[00:12:45] Speaker A: So who do you ask?
[00:12:46] Speaker B: I was like, robot, can you please get me a person that will open this for us?
Yeah. So.
So the waiter came, and I was like, I don't think the robot will handle this. Can you do this? And they open it for us. But that's, like, so crazy. I'm not. I don't think I'm ready for a.
[00:13:02] Speaker A: World that's gonna be our life.
[00:13:04] Speaker B: I hate even the QR menus.
At least this was like an iPad. But even still, like, I like an actual menu.
[00:13:10] Speaker A: Me, too. Me too. That's so cute.
[00:13:12] Speaker B: The Falcons have an actual menu. Yeah.
[00:13:13] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:13:14] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. I couldn't see. There was a lot of words.
[00:13:18] Speaker A: And then your husband took out your dress.
[00:13:20] Speaker B: And then. Oh, my God. And she was so excited. She had the best time.
[00:13:22] Speaker A: And you left her third at home in pajamas.
[00:13:24] Speaker B: Rocco. Poor Rocco. He had Nana, though. He was fine.
[00:13:28] Speaker A: I'm so happy for you. That sounds like such a fun, like.
[00:13:30] Speaker B: Yeah, it was really nice. And then Joe and I went. Joey and I went bowling after. And did you actually have Fun. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, yeah. He's like a good. He's like, fun and he's. He's at like, a funny age. But it was like 6:30. We were bowling and it was Friday nights. But it was a special needs team was there. So there was like 25 special needs.
Like, probably 18 to 25 year olds. And they were all, like, running around.
[00:13:59] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:14:00] Speaker B: And Joe Joey was just, like, staring at them. I was like, no, don't. Don't stare.
[00:14:04] Speaker A: You have to explain.
[00:14:05] Speaker B: Yeah. I was like, you know, everyone's brains work different. Like, that's a good way to put it. Yeah. I was like, what? Some people's brains work in different ways to make them comfortable. Like, you know how sometimes you and Rocco run around, like, flapping your arms around the house to be silly? Like, other people do that too. And he was like, oh, okay. And like, that was it. He had no other questions and it was fine.
And.
But it was just interesting to like.
I think kids are, like, resilient in like, a sense where they don't. Like, you can tell them something and if you don't make a big deal about it, it's like, over and done.
[00:14:35] Speaker A: Yeah. They don't have emotion. And if you don't have emotion.
[00:14:37] Speaker B: Right. So it was like.
I liked the way that we both handled it.
[00:14:41] Speaker A: I love that for you.
[00:14:42] Speaker B: No, because it could have been like, he wasn't like, pointing. Like, it was just. I mean, it was just us and then them. Yeah. And I mean, these men were running around like special needs. Yeah. Doing crazy things. Remember that time in the bathroom?
[00:14:56] Speaker A: Wait, no.
[00:14:57] Speaker B: At the mall.
[00:14:59] Speaker A: Oh, my God, that. Yeah. No, I was so. I felt bad and then I was overstimulated and then I was nervous. No, you don't know. I mean, that's why that.
[00:15:08] Speaker B: You know. Yeah. Yeah. A lot of weird noises.
[00:15:10] Speaker A: A lot of weird noises. It's okay.
[00:15:12] Speaker B: Yeah. Everybody's different and it was different and that's okay. And you have to learn that everyone's different. Yeah.
[00:15:16] Speaker A: And I like the way you handle that. That's great.
[00:15:18] Speaker B: Yeah. But so it was good. We had a really nice time and my husband and my daughter had a really nice time. And maybe next year Rocco will have a nice time of those two sin.
Cute.
[00:15:27] Speaker A: Okay, so what did you get for Valentine's Day? I never asked you.
[00:15:31] Speaker B: I got a really mushy card and some flowers. Cute.
[00:15:34] Speaker A: Your husband brought. Not only me flowers, Chris flowers.
[00:15:38] Speaker B: Oh, and actually he made me a. A mug at the place.
[00:15:42] Speaker A: Oh, cute. Oh, he showed me that.
[00:15:44] Speaker B: Yeah. I didn't get it yet, but he said he made it cute.
[00:15:46] Speaker A: Yeah, that was sweet.
[00:15:48] Speaker B: Yeah. What'd you get proposed to over here? I wish people could see what I'm staring at.
[00:15:52] Speaker A: So my husband got these large L O, V, E letters.
[00:15:55] Speaker B: Not large, not large, extra large.
Bigger than our bodies combined.
[00:16:01] Speaker A: And it was so cute. It looks like a proposal.
[00:16:03] Speaker B: No, it's what you set up on a beach proposal. Oh. Yeah.
[00:16:07] Speaker A: He re proposed, and he got me the cutest card. It actually looked like a bingo card. And it, like, had different things to do, like, on date nights. And it was like. There were really cute things. Of course, I can't think of one thing, but it was, like, random things, like order dessert instead of food at a restaurant. Like, only dessert.
[00:16:24] Speaker B: Oh, like that. I like that.
[00:16:27] Speaker A: He got me a cup for my smoothies in the morning because, you know, AIP diet. He got me a skims set, sweatshirt set.
[00:16:34] Speaker B: Ooh.
[00:16:37] Speaker A: He got me flowers.
[00:16:41] Speaker B: What's your favorite kind of flower to get?
[00:16:43] Speaker A: Roses mixed with sunflowers.
[00:16:45] Speaker B: Oh.
Did you know that? Yeah. Did he do that?
[00:16:48] Speaker A: He did roses with sunflowers, but not red roses with sunflowers. Just, like, different kind of roses.
Up.
[00:16:54] Speaker B: I'm still pissed.
[00:16:56] Speaker A: No, but it was really sweet. I mean, we really, really had a really conn.
Valentine's Day that we needed.
[00:17:01] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:17:02] Speaker A: Sexually.
And, I mean, he was in his goddamn glory.
[00:17:06] Speaker B: Well, I mean, you had the house to yourself for two days.
[00:17:08] Speaker A: Yeah, we. I'm not gonna talk about it on the pod, but we had a really, really good time. Really good time.
[00:17:15] Speaker B: I'm happy for you. You needed.
[00:17:16] Speaker A: Yeah, it was nice. Yeah. I just like it. Really. When you really are relaxed.
[00:17:22] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:17:22] Speaker A: I mean, you're yourself. Like, it just. So many things make you feel like you're not sexy. And I'm not talking, like, my hair's not washed. Like, I'm always put together. I'm not even talking. I'm just, like, the way I feel.
[00:17:32] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:17:32] Speaker A: Like, I think I got mad at him the other night because I was like, I have a really bad pain in my back. Can you, like, rub my back? And then he, like, started to touch me, and I'm like, why are you, like. I got mad. I was like, can't you just rub my back?
[00:17:44] Speaker B: I know.
[00:17:45] Speaker A: And I stormed away.
[00:17:46] Speaker B: It could never just be a rub the back.
[00:17:48] Speaker A: He's like, I thought, like, this would make you feel good. Well, it didn't.
And then I felt bad.
[00:17:53] Speaker B: You thought wrong.
[00:17:54] Speaker A: Yeah. So. But anyway, it was a really good, like, connecting night that's really, really.
[00:17:59] Speaker B: I'm really glad that you had that.
[00:18:01] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:18:02] Speaker B: And so also, I. I really think it makes a difference if you don't have children in the house.
[00:18:06] Speaker A: Totally.
[00:18:07] Speaker B: But, I mean, that didn't stop us.
[00:18:09] Speaker A: No, I won't stop you. But you feel different.
[00:18:11] Speaker B: Yeah. Also, 12 drinks, I think I said.
[00:18:16] Speaker A: Yeah. You were like, I don't. I can't believe how much you could drink. It's, like, insane.
[00:18:20] Speaker B: No, it's sick.
[00:18:20] Speaker A: No, it's sick.
[00:18:21] Speaker B: Yeah, it's sick.
[00:18:22] Speaker A: And how you don't get sick afterwards.
[00:18:23] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:18:24] Speaker A: Or that night, I got.
What goes on in there.
I would love to take a peek.
[00:18:30] Speaker B: I would love. I mean, was I standing at the end of the night?
[00:18:33] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:18:33] Speaker B: And I was walking. Yeah.
[00:18:35] Speaker A: You don't remember?
[00:18:36] Speaker B: I don't remember leaving Mabel.
[00:18:39] Speaker A: You don't?
[00:18:41] Speaker B: Were we in your husband's office at one point?
[00:18:43] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:18:44] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, that's where it gets a little brown.
[00:18:46] Speaker A: Yeah, it got a little brown for me there.
[00:18:48] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:18:48] Speaker A: Because it was like a brown.
[00:18:49] Speaker B: Was there, like, a photo booth?
[00:18:51] Speaker A: Yeah, we did.
[00:18:51] Speaker B: Photo booth. Okay.
[00:18:52] Speaker A: Did you do a photo booth?
[00:18:53] Speaker B: I don't know, but I remember seeing.
[00:18:54] Speaker A: A photo booth recapture Valentine's invisible work of romance. I don't know what that means. Attraction after kids. I mean, my husband is so attracted to me. It's, like, sick.
[00:19:05] Speaker B: I mean, same.
[00:19:06] Speaker A: He thinks I'm, like, the sexy person alive. It almost annoys me. I'm like, you're annoying me that you think I'm this sexy.
[00:19:10] Speaker B: Like, it. Does it actually annoy you?
[00:19:12] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:19:13] Speaker B: Why? I don't know.
[00:19:14] Speaker A: I have a complex.
[00:19:15] Speaker B: Oh, I like it. You do?
[00:19:17] Speaker A: I like it. I like the thought of it. Like, when. Then he. When he actually, like, thinks I'm sexy, I'm like. Like, when he calls me sexy, I'm.
[00:19:24] Speaker B: Like, no, take that back, because if he calls you cute, you'll fucking freak out. He calls you sexy?
[00:19:29] Speaker A: Awesome. Freak out.
[00:19:31] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:19:31] Speaker A: So I. I'm never happy.
[00:19:34] Speaker B: Sounds like a you problem.
[00:19:37] Speaker A: No, I love when he.
Oh, my God, that's so funny.
[00:19:41] Speaker B: What?
[00:19:42] Speaker A: So my iPad.
No, my messages are just downloading. So the night of Valentine's Day, texts are coming in and things are being sent to me.
That was crazy. So, anyway, I'm sexy and I know it.
[00:19:56] Speaker B: Sexy and I know it, know it, know it. What kills attraction for you?
[00:20:03] Speaker A: Oh, when my husband does, like, things out of his, like, personality, like, it's so unattractive.
[00:20:18] Speaker B: What do you mean? You mean when he just is?
[00:20:19] Speaker A: Yeah, like, when he just is.
[00:20:21] Speaker B: That's the funniest thing ever.
[00:20:23] Speaker A: Like, I just feel like when he's so. He's so attractive. Like, sometimes I look at him like, you're so attractive. But then if he does or says something, that's like, not him.
[00:20:33] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:20:34] Speaker A: Why are you trying to be funny?
[00:20:36] Speaker B: Like, have you watched. Are you caught up on Love is Blind this new season?
[00:20:40] Speaker A: No, I watched two episodes. It's really good season.
[00:20:42] Speaker B: Oh. Because do you know the. The soccer player guy? You know what I'm talking about? He's. He's like, the hottest one.
[00:20:48] Speaker A: Yeah, I probably know who he is. He's with Emma.
The Chinese girl? Asian?
[00:20:53] Speaker B: No, no, no. The blonde. He's with the blonde.
[00:20:56] Speaker A: Oh.
[00:20:57] Speaker B: Or I don't know if he's with her yet. Right.
[00:20:59] Speaker A: I only saw.
I don't even know their name.
[00:21:02] Speaker B: Whatever. So just this guy, he's like a soccer player. He's, like, full of himself. He's like. But, like, some of the shit that he says, like, I feel like if my husband was on Love is Blind, he would say that.
[00:21:13] Speaker A: That's what I'm talking about. Unattractive.
[00:21:15] Speaker B: That.
[00:21:15] Speaker A: That is, like, so unattractive.
[00:21:17] Speaker B: It's like.
[00:21:17] Speaker A: That is hideous.
[00:21:19] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:21:19] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying. Things that you wouldn't, like, out of your character.
[00:21:23] Speaker B: Right.
[00:21:23] Speaker A: Like when Joey, like, did something at dinner.
[00:21:26] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:21:26] Speaker A: And when Michael, like, responded back, I was like, you just gave me the biggest ick.
[00:21:32] Speaker B: Actually, at dinner, no one gave me the ick. I was vibing. I.
[00:21:35] Speaker A: Men are stupid.
[00:21:36] Speaker B: I liked everybody. Men are so stupid.
[00:21:38] Speaker A: But no, we had so much fun. I did, like, everybody at dinner.
[00:21:40] Speaker B: Yeah.
But, like, my thing is sometimes I really do get touched out, like, for my kids. Like, I'm so touched out all day.
[00:21:48] Speaker A: Like, don't touch me.
[00:21:49] Speaker B: And I'm like, just don't touch me, like, right now.
[00:21:51] Speaker A: Have you ever done that?
[00:21:52] Speaker B: I. Yes.
[00:21:53] Speaker A: Me too.
[00:21:54] Speaker B: Like, just don't touch me right now. Like, I'm so touched.
[00:21:58] Speaker A: So annoying.
[00:21:59] Speaker B: Such a real.
[00:22:00] Speaker A: No, you know, it's not about the touching that gives me the ick. It's like, read the fucking room. How do you know I don't want to be touched? Because you want to be touched. You're touching me.
[00:22:08] Speaker B: No.
[00:22:09] Speaker A: Unattractive. I'm getting up and storming out and sleeping in the other room.
That's the unattractive part.
[00:22:15] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[00:22:16] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:22:16] Speaker B: Okay. And then.
So that was. That's what kills attraction.
[00:22:20] Speaker A: What.
[00:22:21] Speaker B: What sparks it. Like, for you.
Mine is like, what? Watching him parent, like, well. Or like.
[00:22:30] Speaker A: Oh, really?
[00:22:30] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, okay.
Mine is like, being very involved, like, doing something, like, just for the kids.
[00:22:37] Speaker A: Like, mine's, like, paying attention to me.
[00:22:39] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:22:39] Speaker A: That's, like, really attractive to like.
[00:22:41] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:22:41] Speaker A: Like. Like something actually paying attention to me. Like, when we were at breakfast, he was very present.
[00:22:47] Speaker B: Yeah, I like that.
[00:22:48] Speaker A: Because we had a really, like, sexy night. My husband needs sex to survive.
[00:22:52] Speaker B: And is he a man or.
[00:22:55] Speaker A: And I feel like that morning was so attractive to me because I feel like he was just all in on me.
[00:23:00] Speaker B: Yeah, I like that. Okay, this is, like, questions couples avoid, and I'm going to ask you them and you tell me what you think.
[00:23:08] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:23:09] Speaker B: Like, about you and your husband.
[00:23:10] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:23:11] Speaker B: Okay. Are we busy or happy?
[00:23:13] Speaker A: Busy.
[00:23:13] Speaker B: Yeah, you're so busy.
[00:23:14] Speaker A: So busy.
[00:23:15] Speaker B: But you could also be happy.
[00:23:16] Speaker A: I'm happily busy.
[00:23:17] Speaker B: Happily busy.
Do we flirt anymore.
[00:23:22] Speaker A: At the right time? Yeah, we flirt.
I love that people see that we flirt.
[00:23:27] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:27] Speaker A: Do we flirt?
[00:23:28] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:28] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:23:29] Speaker B: Yeah, I think you flirt. Do we talk logistics more than life?
[00:23:33] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:23:33] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:34] Speaker A: We're talking calendars instead of like, I loved you.
[00:23:38] Speaker B: Yeah. I feel like it's just different, but. Yeah.
When did we last go somewhere without discussing schedules?
[00:23:45] Speaker A: Breakfast after Valentine's Day. We just kind of got up and.
[00:23:47] Speaker B: Went, oh, that's nice.
[00:23:49] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:23:49] Speaker B: You had no fucking kid.
[00:23:50] Speaker A: One kid.
[00:23:52] Speaker B: Are we late? Are we waiting for life to calm down, to reconnect?
[00:23:55] Speaker A: No, we're trying, like, every avenue here.
[00:23:57] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:23:58] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, we're going around corners, nicks and crannies to have sex while my son's in watching Blippi in the other room.
[00:24:05] Speaker B: Yeah. That's where we're at.
[00:24:06] Speaker A: And I don't want to do that. Well, I can't connect.
[00:24:10] Speaker B: I know, but you gotta try.
[00:24:11] Speaker A: We do. We do. I mean, it happens.
[00:24:14] Speaker B: Yeah.
I also feel like just in relationships, like, there also could be boring. Like, marriage could be boring. Like, you can be in, like, a boring marriage. Boring. Not a boring marriage, but, like, a boring part. Like, it, like, ebbs and flows.
[00:24:28] Speaker A: Yeah, totally. Oh, yeah.
[00:24:29] Speaker B: Like, I feel like I'm not in it right now. Yeah. Like, there's lulls, but, like, I feel like definitely when I was three under three, we were in a lull, like.
[00:24:38] Speaker A: Yeah. And I didn't know you would. Like, I didn't. We didn't do this every day, so we didn't talk every day, so I feel like I wish I knew more about that life of yours. Yeah.
[00:24:48] Speaker B: It was so hard. It almost feels like it was like a different life. Like a different.
[00:24:54] Speaker A: It was a different part of it.
[00:24:56] Speaker B: I just feel like I was like a bubble of. I don't know what the. I did for three years.
[00:24:59] Speaker A: I feel like I'll feel that way once I get out of.
When I'm in your stage, like five years in with, like, another kid.
[00:25:07] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:25:08] Speaker A: You know, I'm like, out of the bubble, but I'm in the beginning of being out of the bubble.
[00:25:11] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. You know, it's definitely. It's crazy.
[00:25:14] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:25:15] Speaker B: How it changes.
[00:25:16] Speaker A: But I like this little segment you have here. Did you compare your Valentine's Day to anybody or. No, I absolutely don't ever compare my Valentine's Day. I didn't even think about anybody else.
[00:25:26] Speaker B: Oh, no, I stopped comparing my Valentine's Day a long time ago when you, like, got something crazy and I couldn't compare myself to you.
[00:25:33] Speaker A: Wait, me personally? That's hilarious.
[00:25:36] Speaker B: Yeah. No, I mean, I. I think. I think years ago I would compare, but now I'm just. I'm content.
[00:25:42] Speaker A: Me too. I agree.
[00:25:43] Speaker B: I. I was happy with my little. Whatever we did. I loved that we did something. Yeah.
[00:25:48] Speaker A: Like, people are probably guessing that I got, like, some big present for Valentine's Day, and if I didn't, I'll be, like, upset. Wasn't. I got a skim set and I loved it and I wore it the next day.
[00:25:57] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:25:58] Speaker A: Like, I just wanted, like, he knows I love that shit, so that's what I need. I don't need a tennis bracelet.
[00:26:03] Speaker B: Right.
[00:26:04] Speaker A: You know, I would love a tennis bracelet, though. Anyway, I don't compare. I definitely don't, but I just feel like. Because. Do you feel like because you have a long relation. Lasting relationship, like, it's less romantic or.
[00:26:17] Speaker B: No.
[00:26:18] Speaker A: I mean, this was like, your 20th Valentine's Day.
[00:26:21] Speaker B: Isn't that insane?
[00:26:23] Speaker A: I mean, like, I don't even. I haven't been alive.
[00:26:25] Speaker B: Yes. Maybe less romantic, but I was thinking about it when we were all out. Like, I'm just so. Like, Joe and I are just so comfortable with each other. It's almost like.
Like, even with the. Like the kissing. I know. Like, can we talk about the kissing thing?
[00:26:37] Speaker A: Yeah, talk about the kissing thing.
[00:26:38] Speaker B: So we were.
[00:26:39] Speaker A: I mean. Yeah, but you.
[00:26:40] Speaker B: I. I'm not saying.
[00:26:41] Speaker A: Okay, I were comfortable with that, but you have to think about the people looking at it. They're probably like, the fuck.
[00:26:48] Speaker B: Right? That's what I'm saying. I'm saying, like, so to me, like. I mean, I would kiss my girlfriend on the lips, high. I would kiss, like. Like, it's just not that big of a deal to me. I'm Just talking about this instance and, like, me and my. Me and her husband took, like, a really sexy picture. We weren actually kissing. No, but it looked like we were. I mean, it looked like we were close.
[00:27:05] Speaker A: Yeah. My husband was, like, being sexual in.
[00:27:07] Speaker B: It, and he looked really hot.
[00:27:09] Speaker A: He did.
[00:27:09] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:27:11] Speaker A: That was attractive.
[00:27:12] Speaker B: Yeah, that was hot. And Dom's phone blew up when I posted it. That she should get divorced, literally.
[00:27:20] Speaker A: Is your husband cheating on you? Is the texts I've received from people.
[00:27:23] Speaker B: But so, like, that, it just made me think, like, I guess I'm just so comfortable. Like, I'm just.
It's just like, that wasn't even a thought in my mind.
[00:27:30] Speaker A: That wasn't a thought in anybody's mind.
[00:27:32] Speaker B: Right. But it was just. It's just like, one of those things that's, like, funny. Like, I've been with my husband for 20 Valentine's, and it just. That's crazy.
[00:27:40] Speaker A: It is, and it's awesome. And you guys are trending up, so good for you.
So what I actually need, though. Let's talk about that real quick. Not a gift. Like, what would make my life easier. Just, like, help without asking is, like, a big one for me.
[00:27:58] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:27:59] Speaker A: Which my husband does. Just, like, appreciation. Just, like, feel good moments.
Stuff like that, like, is what I actually need.
Like, today I had a good day. Like, I had the babysitter.
[00:28:13] Speaker B: She had the best day of her life. I had the worst.
[00:28:15] Speaker A: You did?
[00:28:16] Speaker B: She got a babysitter. I went to the food store. Yeah, it's great.
[00:28:19] Speaker A: And picked up my Alexa bra. It was nice. And went down to 5 milligrams.
So I don't know. Just like, I had a really good day today. And I, I. How I work is, like, I need to feel good now. Let me take that back. No, I do need to feel good. And then when I. And then I'll feel more appreciated once my husband. Then I'll. I'll see the. Like. It's like my eyes are. If I feel good, my eyes are more open. When my husband is being appreciative. Then when I don't feel good and I'm like, I miss. I kind of skip over the fact that he was, like, helping without asking because I. Not feeling good.
[00:28:55] Speaker B: You're not feeling great. Yeah.
[00:28:57] Speaker A: I don't know if that answered any of what I just said, but I kind of just was, like, rambling.
[00:29:01] Speaker B: Yeah. No, that makes sense.
[00:29:02] Speaker A: Like, what do you need to make, like, your, like, life?
[00:29:05] Speaker B: I think I need, like, appreciation.
[00:29:07] Speaker A: Does she appreciate you?
[00:29:09] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:29:09] Speaker A: Okay, good.
[00:29:10] Speaker B: Yeah, he does. But I like showing me he does is like, what I need. And I like, it's so funny.
[00:29:15] Speaker A: Like, you were just talking. I'm like, I need him to say it, but I also need him to show it. But I'm like, I feel like I have all the affirmations. I'm like, I love languages. I just want like all of them.
[00:29:23] Speaker B: Yeah. You know, so like, I would say that I want affection, but like, then sometimes I'm like, don't touch me.
[00:29:28] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:29:30] Speaker B: I don't know. It's both.
[00:29:31] Speaker A: I can't stand him. And then I'm like, I'm obsessed with you. Like, one day I'm like, don't fucking touch me. You're so annoying. I'm going to bed and I can't believe you just tried to touch me. Then I'll look at him and I'm like, I can't believe hot you are. Yeah, like I'm cuckoo.
[00:29:43] Speaker B: Or how about if they don't try to touch you?
[00:29:45] Speaker A: Yeah, like, that is like, what's your problem? There's something wrong not getting in the shower. What's. What's up?
Like, what the.
I just feel like I don't have constant butterflies. Do you? No.
[00:29:57] Speaker B: Oh, my God.
[00:29:58] Speaker A: Do you have like a passion?
[00:30:00] Speaker B: Oh, I miss butterflies.
[00:30:01] Speaker A: Me too.
I do have constant excitement. Do you have anything? Do you feel anything?
[00:30:07] Speaker B: You feel feel?
Yeah, I mean, we're, we have passion.
[00:30:11] Speaker A: When you're being passionate, though.
[00:30:13] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:30:13] Speaker A: I'll talk about like walks through the door and you're like jumping with joy.
[00:30:16] Speaker B: No, but I think that's what happens after, like a long term relationship. I don't think. I mean, if there, if. If that stays that heightened for that long, like you're on drugs. I don't. Yeah, you're on ecstasy your entire marriage. Can I have some?
[00:30:31] Speaker A: Yeah. I just feel like marriage is like you just choosing the same person every day.
[00:30:37] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:30:38] Speaker A: Like laughing when times are tough.
Like, that's what marriage is. And people don't tell you that because. So that's why I feel like people get so upset because you think marriage is like, happy, go lucky.
[00:30:48] Speaker B: No, it's survival and butterflies. It's literally just like sticking together and it's surviving phases. Yes, sticking together, surviving phases and compromise. Yeah, it's. It's so true. Like, marriage is so much compromise. It's like you have to really communicate and listen what the other person needs and wants.
[00:31:07] Speaker A: Yeah. We want to do the podcast tonight.
[00:31:09] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:31:09] Speaker A: So my husband's on bedtime and I.
[00:31:12] Speaker B: Put all my kids to sleep. And came here.
[00:31:15] Speaker A: Compromise.
I love that. Well, honestly, the goal for me and you can say your own thing is, like, not love every day. It's just, like, the love is there. Love is just automatic. So I, like, I don't have to, like, choose to love every day. It's just, like, there. And I feel like, just a constant, like, team. Like, I just. I just want to feel like it's us and we're on the same page. Like, being on the same page against the world. Literally, though, like, us on the same page is, like, my biggest thing. Like, talking, like, talking about your. It's like the. Talking about your wife when she's not around. Like, talking highly about your wife when she's not around. And, like. Or the man who, like, talks shit about the wife, like, when they're not around.
Dud.
[00:32:07] Speaker B: That's, like, one thing I can say. I wholehearted, Wholeheartedly know my husband doesn't do is talk shit about me to other people.
[00:32:16] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:32:16] Speaker B: Like, I know that he likes never like, he, like, he. He would be, like, the one to bragging about, like, his wife in a room.
[00:32:23] Speaker A: Not, like, yes or sticking up for you. Yeah.
[00:32:26] Speaker B: Yeah. So that, like, what about, like, when.
[00:32:28] Speaker A: You'Re in the room with him, though?
[00:32:32] Speaker B: Yeah, but that's fine.
[00:32:33] Speaker A: That's fine.
[00:32:34] Speaker B: I'd rather that.
[00:32:35] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:32:36] Speaker B: Like, be on my team if behind. I mean, both, but, like. Yeah, but, like, more so. Yeah.
[00:32:42] Speaker A: Like, joking around, busting balls when you're together is, like, how a marriage should be.
[00:32:47] Speaker B: Yeah. Also, marriage is, like, it's hard. Marriage is so hard and so hard. It needs nurturing.
[00:32:53] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:32:53] Speaker B: You need to nurture it. It's like a plant. Like, you need to water it. You need to work on things. You need to change for each other. You need to sacrifice. You need to do all of these things. So your marriage.
[00:33:03] Speaker A: Yeah, I agree.
[00:33:04] Speaker B: Like, if you don't, your marriage will die. It will.
[00:33:07] Speaker A: 100%.
[00:33:07] Speaker B: So I can.
[00:33:08] Speaker A: I can. I can put all my money on that. I don't have any, but I don't. I'll go put my husband's money on it.
Yeah. So I just feel like you wish you had me as wifey and you don't, and that's that. So morning after Valentine's Day, love is dead.
Goodbye. We love you. We hope you had a great Valentine's Day. Xoxo, Mama Clark.
[00:33:37] Speaker B: Gossip Girls.
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