EPISODE 3 - GRASS-Milk or GAS-Milk?!!

[00:00:01] Speaker A: Hello. [00:00:02] Speaker B: You guys, stop. Is it mama clock yet? I'm going crazy. [00:00:07] Speaker A: Heck yeah. It's mom o'clock somewhere. The past 30 minutes was so I. [00:00:34] Speaker B: Need like a shake it out. [00:00:35] Speaker A: No, I need like a walk on the beach. [00:00:38] Speaker B: Oh, that would be so nice. I feel like people think that we're in this like, little studio like we have going on. Everywhere there are babies sleeping, we're trying to get sitters. There are, there's, there's things happening. But now we're here. [00:00:51] Speaker A: I almost fist fought my husband, but. [00:00:53] Speaker B: And I almost wanted to crawl into a hole, but here we are. We're good. [00:00:58] Speaker A: It's just like, it's so hard when you plan your day around this and you're like, okay. [00:01:03] Speaker B: And we have two times. And we have like literally an hour and a half. It's not like we do this all day long. Like, like, my son needs to be picked up. I have two babies at home. Like, we have. [00:01:12] Speaker A: My mother's here. [00:01:13] Speaker B: My mom's here on standby in case the baby wakes up from this nap. [00:01:16] Speaker A: Which I feel like I'm screaming. I'm about to wake him up. He was, he was screaming, crying for the past hour and a half while we were getting ready, which I didn't even have time. I had to get Emily ready, get myself ready. [00:01:24] Speaker B: My mom, she does my makeup. Thank God. You're a saint. [00:01:26] Speaker A: Know, I just try. I. I just want to try my best. [00:01:29] Speaker B: Okay. But now it's fine. We're here. [00:01:31] Speaker A: I almost cried, like, really, really badly. [00:01:34] Speaker B: I mean, it's fine. [00:01:35] Speaker A: We're fine. We're here. I'm so excited. You know why? Cuz we're on episode three. Like, I feel like no one understands how much this means to both of us. [00:01:43] Speaker B: No, this is like everything and more to me. I look forward to this. [00:01:47] Speaker A: I know. You really do. [00:01:48] Speaker B: And I. [00:01:48] Speaker A: Because, not that I had this life, but I feel like I was always like recording videos. Like, yeah, but this is. [00:01:54] Speaker B: No, I like, I like, text her. I'm like, we're at 600 views. She's like, why are you drinking, freak? [00:01:59] Speaker A: Every hour she texts me. [00:02:01] Speaker B: Because it's exciting. [00:02:02] Speaker A: But you like to prepare too. It's so cute. [00:02:04] Speaker B: And I'm prepared. I do my homework. [00:02:05] Speaker A: I haven't even looked at these note cards. [00:02:07] Speaker B: No, I wrote note cards. And check out your third note card. What do you see there? [00:02:12] Speaker A: You're kidding. [00:02:13] Speaker B: For a seven year old, I love drawing penises. [00:02:16] Speaker A: And you love. [00:02:19] Speaker B: I like that too. Suck a. Suck a ride. That. All right. Shake, shake. It up. I don't even know how to shake. [00:02:27] Speaker A: Okay. Shake those titties. [00:02:29] Speaker B: It's Friday. Shake your tits. It's Friday. [00:02:31] Speaker A: Titty juice too, if you haven't already. [00:02:34] Speaker B: I have it in my espresso martini. It is delicious. Yeah, of course. [00:02:38] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:02:39] Speaker B: I'm never not drinking Juicy Tits. [00:02:41] Speaker A: If you haven't tried it already, just go right now. Just up and leave your job and just go get Juicy. [00:02:45] Speaker B: Run to the store. [00:02:46] Speaker A: I'm sure you need it. [00:02:47] Speaker B: Yeah, everybody needs some. [00:02:48] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:02:49] Speaker B: Juicy tits in their life. [00:02:51] Speaker A: Also, I'm under the weather, so, like, if I sneeze and cough and blow my nose, just like, give me a minute. Okay? [00:02:57] Speaker B: Yeah. Also, I have fat arms. [00:03:00] Speaker A: I have the worst camel to. Don't even look at my camel. We're moms. [00:03:03] Speaker B: We got fupas and fat arms. Leave us alone. Okay? [00:03:05] Speaker A: I changed my pants about five times. I don't even care. [00:03:07] Speaker B: So I was actually thinking about it. I'm so used to being the Duff in my group. [00:03:12] Speaker A: Duff? [00:03:12] Speaker B: The duff? Designated Ugly Fat Friend. [00:03:16] Speaker A: Did people call you a Duff? [00:03:17] Speaker B: No, I called myself. [00:03:18] Speaker A: You're not a Duff. [00:03:18] Speaker B: I'm the Duff. But, like, it's fair. [00:03:20] Speaker A: I don't want you to think you're the duff. [00:03:21] Speaker B: No, but I like to be the duff. [00:03:28] Speaker A: Wait, is DUFF a made up word? If I Google a duff, that will come up. [00:03:31] Speaker B: Yeah, duff. You don't know the duff? You didn't have a DUFF in your group? [00:03:35] Speaker A: No. [00:03:36] Speaker B: You're not the duff. Okay, so whatever. It's a. I'm the duff. Just leave me alone. [00:03:42] Speaker A: Are you upset? [00:03:43] Speaker B: No, I'm happy. I like it. [00:03:45] Speaker A: Are you like, telling people you're the duff? Okay, fine. Whatever. [00:03:47] Speaker B: Whatever. [00:03:48] Speaker A: Freak. I don't want to talk about that ever again. Okay, fine. [00:03:53] Speaker B: We're talking about some stuff today. [00:03:58] Speaker A: We're moving on from postpartum and relationships. Cuz, honestly, I don't want to talk about it anymore. [00:04:02] Speaker B: No, we're done with it. [00:04:03] Speaker A: Done. [00:04:04] Speaker B: I'm over it in my life. You're having more kids, so we'll be postpartum again. [00:04:07] Speaker A: We'll be right back where you started. [00:04:09] Speaker B: Can you, like, imagine going, well, you will. Like, what if you're going to do it again? [00:04:13] Speaker A: Yeah, ten times worse. Maybe I won't. Maybe I'll change. [00:04:16] Speaker B: No, I. I feel that some people have different experiences. No, it's just like, it could be different for each one. [00:04:23] Speaker A: Not everyone's like you, so that's fine. [00:04:26] Speaker B: I'm literally sweating. [00:04:27] Speaker A: The lights beaming on your face. [00:04:28] Speaker B: It is. [00:04:29] Speaker A: All right, so anyhow, Episode three. We're so excited we're back. We're better than ever. She's the only one with a drink here. It's fine. [00:04:37] Speaker B: I need it. [00:04:38] Speaker A: Take a sip. Relax. That looks really good, though. Not gonna lie. They won't let me have an espresso, by the way, because the last time I had an espresso before the show. [00:04:45] Speaker B: She was on crack cocaine, and I. [00:04:47] Speaker A: You, like, morphed into the cash. [00:04:49] Speaker B: I was as cool as a cucumber, I think I had, like, 10 Xanaxes. [00:04:53] Speaker A: I was cracked out of my mind. I had an espresso, and then I sat down, did a podcast. It was not ideal. [00:04:57] Speaker B: I think it was great. [00:04:58] Speaker A: It's fine. [00:04:58] Speaker B: Okay. [00:04:59] Speaker A: All right. So anyway, like always, we're gonna start off with our weekly story. [00:05:03] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. [00:05:04] Speaker A: Mine is just so insane, I don't even want to tell it. But I'm going to. Anyway, as you know, we just got back from Vegas. I left last podcast episode. [00:05:14] Speaker B: I feel like it was literally yesterday. [00:05:16] Speaker A: Literally yesterday, but kind of was. But anyway, we had the time of our lives. It was so much fun. We love Vegas. The wedding was awesome. So, so fun. If you want to see the vibes, go to my TikTok. You can check it out. [00:05:26] Speaker B: There's some funny tiktoks there. [00:05:28] Speaker A: You should check it out at its Dom's diary. That is my. [00:05:32] Speaker B: Oh, you changed your handle. [00:05:33] Speaker A: I did. No one can find me. [00:05:33] Speaker B: Anyway, is it called handle? [00:05:35] Speaker A: Yeah. I don't know what it's called. Anyway, so I want to start off with my weekly story, and it's a good one, so everything's going well. Happy go lucky. In Vegas, we're having time. Our last. No kids. And then we're sitting at the pool the day before. We're about to leave. We're on the flight with my parents. The next day, we're coming home early. I'm set, ready to go. My kid misses me, my dog misses me. I'm like, you know, we just have a plan. And you're. [00:06:00] Speaker B: You're, like, ready. You're. Your mindset is like, you're leaving there. [00:06:02] Speaker A: I'm, like, ready to rock. Sitting by the pool, having a drinky drink. My husband goes, oh, my God, I'm such an idiot. I knew the second he said that, I knew you would think I would flip out. [00:06:17] Speaker B: You were chill. [00:06:18] Speaker A: Oh, my God. Those kind of situations don't bug me out. I was like, what happened? He actually. My husband was like, I would freak out. Yeah, I know. My husband was like, thank you for, like, not freaking out. I'm like, why would I freak out? I mean, what are we gonna. What am I gonna do? [00:06:30] Speaker B: Like, you're. It's like beyond your control in that beyond am I. [00:06:33] Speaker A: And I just to call you a idiot. And that's what I did. So my husband booked our flight home. Ready for this? For January of 2026. No, no. [00:06:44] Speaker B: What a. I literally go, I guess. [00:06:47] Speaker A: From staying till next year. That's literally what I said. [00:06:50] Speaker B: Yeah, I would love that. [00:06:52] Speaker A: Love. Anyway, so now there's no flights home, obviously. It's like a couple hours leaving. And we couldn't find a flight. He was searching, searching, searching. We finally found a red eye for that night, which was. I'd never taken a red eye. [00:07:07] Speaker B: Really? Like, I don't understand time. [00:07:09] Speaker A: I don't. I don't. I asked so many questions. I don't care. [00:07:11] Speaker B: But you were tired. It was tired. I was a zombie the night before. [00:07:14] Speaker A: And the people that are on the red eye, if anybody ever has ever. It's like you feel like you're in a different world. I'm like, what is happening? No offense, but like, I was like. [00:07:23] Speaker B: People are people, like trying to go to sleep? No, they're staying away. [00:07:26] Speaker A: Weird, weird things were happening. I actually felt like I was in a different universe. And I landed. I really felt like I was in a different universe. [00:07:32] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:07:33] Speaker A: But anywho, my husband's an idiot. And we ended up getting home a whole day later. And it was just like a lot. And I just. I'm back and I'm ready to rock. That's my story. [00:07:43] Speaker B: I missed you. [00:07:43] Speaker A: I miss you so much. [00:07:45] Speaker B: Here we are now. Here we are. [00:07:47] Speaker A: What's your story? [00:07:48] Speaker B: What do you got going on, honestly? So it was spring break. I don't even know what the days were because every day we really didn't talk that much. No, I mean, Joey, my oldest, wakes up at 4:30am every day. I don't know what to do about it. [00:08:05] Speaker A: Are you all right? [00:08:05] Speaker B: I mean, it's my normal. [00:08:08] Speaker A: That's crazy. [00:08:08] Speaker B: Like when I tell you that, you're like. That's the middle of the night, right? [00:08:11] Speaker A: Middle of the night. [00:08:12] Speaker B: Yeah, it's like the night before, the night before. [00:08:15] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, but all my ninth rhyme at 4:30am, right? [00:08:18] Speaker B: Oh, I don't. Yeah, so. But he did that this morning, which was fun. And the problem is. The problem is he shares a room with my baby. My one and a half year old shares a room. So when Joey walks past Rocco's bed crib every time he runs into our room and it just wakes up the baby. So now I'm dealing with two babies up at 4:30 and I don't know what to do but just. [00:08:43] Speaker A: Do you cry? [00:08:44] Speaker B: Give him his iPad. So I am a very, very firm believer of iPads at 4:38. [00:08:52] Speaker A: That's crazy. And what are you doing? [00:08:54] Speaker B: I mean, I'm trying to go. Yeah. [00:08:58] Speaker A: Are you tired? [00:08:59] Speaker B: I mean, I am, but I'm just thriving on nothing. [00:09:04] Speaker A: Absolutely nothing on your plate. 4:30am is crazy. And then he goes to school and. [00:09:09] Speaker B: He goes to school and he's not tired. No, he is tired. He passes out when he gets home. He passes out. This is actually super bad. He had T ball yesterday, so I woke him up. But sometimes he passes out at like 5 and I don't even wake him. [00:09:21] Speaker A: Up to go to school. [00:09:22] Speaker B: No. 5pm I don't wake him up to feed him dinner. [00:09:25] Speaker A: Oh, I wouldn't either. [00:09:26] Speaker B: And he sleeps until the night 5am the next morning. [00:09:29] Speaker A: Or that's why. Because the schedule is so whacked out. [00:09:31] Speaker B: Our schedule is whacked. It's a vicious cycle. [00:09:34] Speaker A: Like 4:30am Is a lot for you. [00:09:36] Speaker B: Yeah, but I'm used to it. But he's been doing that since he's like, born. [00:09:39] Speaker A: Yeah, I remember. [00:09:40] Speaker B: Yeah. He's just never been like a sleeper. [00:09:43] Speaker A: That's a lot for me to handle. But anyhow. Well, that's our stories of the week. [00:09:46] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:09:46] Speaker A: I hope it changes for me. Yeah. [00:09:50] Speaker B: Yeah. I hope your husband stops being an idiot and booking flights for years in advance. [00:09:53] Speaker A: Yeah. Crazy. Never heard of that in my life. [00:09:57] Speaker B: But we are going to get into how we were. [00:10:00] Speaker A: Excuse me. Yeah. [00:10:02] Speaker B: Why we are the way we are. [00:10:04] Speaker A: Why we are the way we are before we start. [00:10:07] Speaker B: Okay. [00:10:07] Speaker A: Give it a go. [00:10:08] Speaker B: I can give it a whirl. [00:10:09] Speaker A: Give it a whirl. [00:10:10] Speaker B: How we were raised. [00:10:11] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:10:12] Speaker B: By our lovely parents. I was raised by my mother, who is my best friend in the whole entire world. Truly. So she was a single mom. My parents got divorced when I was five years old, which is crazy to think about. Like. [00:10:27] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:10:28] Speaker B: Now getting divorced with my kids. [00:10:30] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. I mean, so common. [00:10:32] Speaker B: Yeah. But I have to give my mom so much credit because, like, it wasn't like a trauma divorce for me as a kid. [00:10:40] Speaker A: Looking back, you don't seem trauma. [00:10:43] Speaker B: No, because my mom did such a good job of not showing it. Like, I always remember she tells this story now that. So my dad. My dad had me on Tuesday and Thursday nights. [00:10:54] Speaker A: Oh. [00:10:55] Speaker B: Every. Every Tuesday and Thursday he took Me and my brother out to dinner and every other weekend religiously. He never missed a Tuesday or a Thursday or every other weekend. [00:11:02] Speaker A: Wow. [00:11:03] Speaker B: So that was, like, their setup. [00:11:04] Speaker A: So how far apart were your parents living? Like, who lived in what house, who lived in. [00:11:08] Speaker B: So when my parents got divorced, my. We stayed in, like, my childhood home for, like, a couple months, and then my mom moved. We moved, like, five minutes down the road, same town. And my dad stayed in the house. No, he. He ended up moving out of the house. But he was always five minutes away. He was never. He was never far, so. But they tried to keep everything so consistent. Like, my dad would still come to my house, but when I was a baby and tuck me in every night. Even, like, through the whole divorce. So he and my mom did that purposefully, which now, looking back, was, like, so nice of her. [00:11:40] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:11:41] Speaker B: And she tells me the story now where, like, Daddy would come over and she'd be like, fuck you. Behind. Behind, like, him, like, rubbing my back to bed. Like, she hated him. She. My dad was a really shitty husband. [00:11:51] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:11:52] Speaker B: But a good dad. [00:11:52] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:11:53] Speaker B: So that's. [00:11:54] Speaker A: You really lucked out. [00:11:55] Speaker B: Yeah. I mean, so. But, like, looking back as an adult now, thinking about my mom doing that, like, that takes, like, a lot of. Like, having your husband, who you can't stand, come over just to tuck your kids in every single night. [00:12:08] Speaker A: She's so selfless. Like, selfishly, I'm like, you're not stepping foot near my kids. [00:12:12] Speaker B: Right. But. So my mom's biggest thing was she didn't. She wanted to protect our hearts at all costs. She never, ever, ever said a bad word about my dad in front of us. And she told her whole family. She sat them down. She told me this last night. She goes, I sat my mom down and my brothers. And I said, if you say a bad word about Scott, I can't handle that. Like, I'm protecting my kids. He's a. He's. He's a. He's good to them. That's all that matters. [00:12:41] Speaker A: Wow. [00:12:42] Speaker B: So, like, she did a really good job in that. And, like, I'm. My dad would even. Like, he's just not a family guy. Like, that's just not him. Like, he likes to go out. He does his thing. He's selfish in that way. He's very selfish. But. And I knew. It's. It's. It's. I'm reflecting now, but, like, I knew that I didn't want that in a partner. Like, I wanted the family guy. And I have that. Like, I married the family man married the family. And I'm so happy about that. And my mom says it all the time that, like, she, like, she's blown away. Like, Joey will, like, leave work just to, like, pick up Joe from school just because, like, Joey really wants Daddy. Like, he'll do those things that, like, my dad never did. [00:13:21] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:13:21] Speaker B: For Just to be the family guy. [00:13:23] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:13:24] Speaker B: And I'm so happy about that. [00:13:25] Speaker A: Oh, my God, you're making me cry, too. [00:13:27] Speaker B: Don't cry. [00:13:29] Speaker A: I'm so happy for you that you have that. [00:13:31] Speaker B: Yeah. And my mom also said, but even. [00:13:32] Speaker A: If you didn't, I feel like you would still be okay because you just. [00:13:37] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:13:37] Speaker A: I mean, what your mom did really shows through you. [00:13:39] Speaker B: And, like, her biggest thing was to make us feel safe and loved. And she also didn't want. Like, my dad didn't treat her good. Like, he didn't hit her or anything, but, like, he didn't. He wasn't in love with her anymore, so he was out doing his thing. So he didn't treat her nicely. And she could not have me see that. Like, she said, like, I. I didn't want you to have that as an example. As, like, how a relationship is. So she got out. She needed to. Yeah, she. She needed to do it for herself and for us. And her problem was she never found love again. Like, she was just hooked on my dad, which is a whole rollercoaster of a. [00:14:18] Speaker A: Are we still hooked on your dad? [00:14:20] Speaker B: I mean, everybody's hooked on my dad, but no. So she really did a great job with keeping the family just. [00:14:29] Speaker A: Yeah. You don't have that. Your dad. [00:14:31] Speaker B: I don't resent my dad. I love my dad. And he's a great guy, and he's. My friends always say my dad is, like, the most charming man. Like, if you meet him, like, you think he's charming and that. I mean, that probably got him into trouble in his life. [00:14:42] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:14:43] Speaker B: And also my grandpa is like that, too. But, like, you could be a shitty. Like, people are shitty husbands, and you can also be a great dad. And I think that people don't talk about that a lot, but, like, I still love my dad, and I. I do. Like, I feel bad for how my mom's life turned out, but it's not over yet. Mom start dating. She has put on a dating app. She's tried that. She's any. Any guy. I need a rich stepdaddy. I want. I want, like, money. Yeah. Now we want money. [00:15:11] Speaker A: Like, yeah. [00:15:12] Speaker B: I'm not into anything. [00:15:13] Speaker A: Don't care about Me at all. You can tell me to go myself. [00:15:16] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. But no, she really. She was an amazing mom. And now. And, like, she was the mom that, like, growing up, my friends would love to come over and sit on our comfy couch and just chat. Like, my mom knew all the gossip. She was the therapist. Like, she gave her advice. And she gives really good. [00:15:33] Speaker A: She does. [00:15:34] Speaker B: She gives great advice, but she doesn't take her own advice. Like, she's one of those. [00:15:37] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:15:38] Speaker B: And I feel that my friends, like, I think if you ask anyone of my, like, good friends, like, my mom was, like, a staple in their life, like, giving them, like, true, like, boy advice. Whether it was boy advice, like, home advice. Like, my mom was that mom. [00:15:51] Speaker A: Yeah. And I love that, and I want. [00:15:53] Speaker B: To be like that. [00:15:55] Speaker A: We're getting really deep. [00:15:56] Speaker B: No, I really, truly, like. [00:15:58] Speaker A: You are that. [00:15:59] Speaker B: I think that she was, like, really cool in that way. [00:16:02] Speaker A: She still is. [00:16:03] Speaker B: She's cool, but she's crazy, too. She's neurotic. She has a lot of anxiety. [00:16:10] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:16:10] Speaker B: Which I have tried to not have. [00:16:13] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:16:14] Speaker B: Like, we go to the mall. Oh, I was starting to tell you this. [00:16:18] Speaker A: I met you at the mall one time. [00:16:19] Speaker B: Yeah. She'll be like, okay, you know the plan. I'm like, what do you mean, the plan? She's like, the bomb plan, the fire plan. I'm like, what do you mean? She's like, whatever kid you have, if we separate, like, you take your own kid, whatever kid you're with, and you get out, don't worry about the other person. Like, that's what. That's the shit she thinks about every. [00:16:35] Speaker A: Time she goes to the mall. [00:16:35] Speaker B: Every time she goes to the mall, anywhere. She's like, she needs a plan. [00:16:38] Speaker A: Not the bomb plan, the bomb and the fire plan. The fire plan, something else. [00:16:43] Speaker B: The attack plan, any plan. [00:16:45] Speaker A: I mean, so can you tell me the plan? [00:16:48] Speaker B: No. The plan is just, like, because we separate a lot because we have three kids. So, like, she'll take one somewhere, I'll take two, and she. Her worry is, like, the other person will think about the other. [00:16:57] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, where's my mom? [00:16:58] Speaker B: Where's my mom? I got to get to my mom. But she. [00:17:00] Speaker A: I would do that. [00:17:01] Speaker B: She just wants to. Whoever you're with, get out and trust that the other person will also get out. [00:17:06] Speaker A: So. [00:17:07] Speaker B: But she, like, that's her thing. Like, she needs plans like that. Like, she is under attack. [00:17:11] Speaker A: That's crazy. You know that, right? [00:17:13] Speaker B: I know. But she's also crazy. Like, the other day, prepared. She's very she is prepared for the worst. The lady would like, I don't know, but she like texted me the other day and was like, I just want to let you know you. You did not cut his Joey steak. [00:17:27] Speaker A: This is funny. [00:17:28] Speaker B: Small enough. Like I, I couldn't sleep at night. You. He's gonna choke. You cut it way too big. [00:17:33] Speaker A: Like that was three days ago. That like, but that it's in his digestive system. [00:17:38] Speaker B: She's nuts like that. And like that's the, that's why I feel. I hope I'm doing a more chill job. But like my husband thinks that. I'm sorry, Mike. [00:17:49] Speaker A: We're scared to move. Yelled at by our producer. [00:17:53] Speaker B: I'm sweating. [00:17:54] Speaker A: I just want to know like, so I feel like Joey is so, so. [00:17:59] Speaker B: He is so the app. Like, like sometimes Joey can't stand my mom because he grew up so different. So my husband grew up with a working mom and my mom didn't work. My mom was a stay at home mom. [00:18:09] Speaker A: I feel like Joey and I are very similar. [00:18:11] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:18:11] Speaker A: Growing up styles. [00:18:12] Speaker B: Growing up like, so my husband grew up with a working mom who was like a badass. Had her own car wash. So she, she was there every single day. And they had a nanny who is. We love her. Like she's still around. Yeah. Genie. And she's, she's like a Jamaican strict like person. She, she is scary. I remember cuz I grew up with him too. Like I was so scared of Je. I mean I'd be hiding in Joe's room like as a 15 year old girl and Genie would be screaming, you son of a. You get out of your bed. And I'd be like hiding under the covers like terrified of her. Yes. Yes. [00:18:51] Speaker A: The covers at 15. [00:18:52] Speaker B: No, sorry, Mom. Actually that was my mom. My mom said her biggest regret as a mom was letting me sleep out. Like if she could do it over again, she wouldn't let me sleep out. [00:19:03] Speaker A: She thinks about it at night. [00:19:04] Speaker B: She does. She still thinks about it 20 years ago. [00:19:06] Speaker A: Why would I let, why would I. [00:19:07] Speaker B: Let my daughter sleep out? Nothing good happens after midnight. [00:19:10] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:19:11] Speaker B: But no. So we were raised very different where like she was. [00:19:15] Speaker A: Yeah. Joey gets a little very aggravate. Aggravated because he grew up very different. [00:19:20] Speaker B: Very different. And like my mom is like loose and like it's like weird because your. [00:19:25] Speaker A: Mom cares so much about like so many things, but she's also very like passive. [00:19:31] Speaker B: Yeah. And, and Joe's the total opposite. And that's where I think that our parenting styles are different. Which we're going to actually get into our parenting styles in this episode. But. But it's funny how we could also come together and be like, okay, like, I know that I was raised like this and you were raised like this, but our family, let's do it this way. Yeah, let's do it a little bit different. [00:19:51] Speaker A: Yeah, I like that. [00:19:52] Speaker B: So, I mean, I feel like you're not really there yet with like discipline or anything, but like, it grows with you. [00:19:57] Speaker A: My discipline, my husband. [00:20:00] Speaker B: But like, yeah. So I feel like that's. That's just like another tricky thing that you have to go through with your husband. If you were raised in different ways. [00:20:07] Speaker A: Is there anything that, like, specifically, I know you said, like, you're trying to be more chill, but is there anything specific that your mom. You remember your mom doing growing up or now that like, you look at, you're like, I will not be like that or not do that. [00:20:20] Speaker B: I mean, well, so my mom, like, they call it the Feldman gasp. That's her maiden name. I think she goes like this, like, with anything. [00:20:29] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. [00:20:31] Speaker B: Like. Like, even if, like something little falls off the table, like, and like, it's just, it's an instinct. It's like, it's like in us and I do it and if I do, like, Joe was like, nancy. And I'm like, I didn't do it. Like, so I really try not to do the gas, but it's hard. Cuz if you grow up with it. [00:20:49] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:20:50] Speaker B: It. It just comes out. [00:20:51] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:20:52] Speaker B: And it sounds so. Like she's so worried. [00:20:54] Speaker A: Someone just fell on my head. [00:20:55] Speaker B: Like, it sounds like somebody just died. Like every time. And it's like a Cheerio fell off the table. [00:21:00] Speaker A: I like, what about like anything deeper. Like, anything that, like, you. You see, you remember. I don't know. I can't explain, you know what I'm trying to say? Like something that's just like maybe you don't think about it often. Like a gasp that happens every day, but something that's more deep that you feel. You're like, okay, I want to do a different. I want to raise my family differently than what the minor thing that she did growing up that kind of made me feel a certain way. [00:21:26] Speaker B: I'm trying to think. I. I don't know. [00:21:29] Speaker A: Because there could be nothing. [00:21:30] Speaker B: Yeah. No, I mean, I. I genuinely loved how she raised us. [00:21:34] Speaker A: Great. I mean, yeah. Like, also, I feel like a little. [00:21:36] Speaker B: Bit she was like a rock star. Like, she did it all. Like, she didn't really have help and she was always there for everything. Like she never missed a beat. Also, my mom is, like, super involved. Like, maybe too involved. Like, even I see it as, like, a grandma now. Like, she is playing on the floor. She's like a player. She never misses, like, one thing. Like, but she enjoys that so much, and I feel like I got that from her. [00:21:58] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:21:59] Speaker B: So it's different. [00:22:00] Speaker A: Do you feel. Because I feel like. Do you feel like. Because it's your mom, so she's obviously with you all the time. She's there all the time. She's in it. Like, she's very. She's very involved with your family in a really good way in your eyes. Right. But do you feel like from your husband, it's almost like, oh, my God, your mom. [00:22:17] Speaker B: Yeah. I mean, so we had to get into, like, a groove. Like, I remember when Joe, my oldest, was. He was our only one, and, like, he was obsessed with Nana. Like, yeah, Nana, Nana, Nana, Nana, Nana. And I, like, almost felt guilt. Like, I felt bad about it. And, like, when anyone was around, it would. He would only want Nana. And I. I really had a hard time. [00:22:38] Speaker A: That's because she was always around. [00:22:39] Speaker B: She was always around. Like, I mean, she really, like, helped me raise my babies. I mean. [00:22:44] Speaker A: Yeah. So rightfully so. [00:22:45] Speaker B: So. But, like, I remember with Joe, like, there's. We do. My mom and I do this thing where, like, if. If we know Joe's coming home from work, like, she leaves before. Like, she'll leave, like, two seconds before I know he's coming home. Just so my kids could focus on the attention of Daddy. [00:22:59] Speaker A: Okay. And not like, it wasn't always like that. [00:23:02] Speaker B: No, no, we. Like that a problem for Joe or. [00:23:04] Speaker A: No, you kind of saw it yourself. [00:23:07] Speaker B: It's weird because, like, Joe will never say. I mean, no, he will say, like, he'll. He'll say, like, you're like, your mom's always here. He did in the beginning. But, like, now I feel like we got, like, more of. Like, now he. [00:23:19] Speaker A: Like, it's helpful. [00:23:20] Speaker B: It's very helpful. [00:23:21] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:23:22] Speaker B: And also, like, when my mom is around, like, he can do other. Like, it's helpful for him. [00:23:26] Speaker A: You're like, she's here to help you. [00:23:28] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, I mean, like, he's home, sleep. He worked last night. My mom's with the kids, and Joe's sleeping. Like, that's helpful. [00:23:35] Speaker A: Yeah, totally. Yeah. And now at this stage, I feel. But like, I guess in the beginning, it's a lot. It's like, oh, my God. You know, we just want a minute. But, like, then you realize well, she's helping, so she's gonna. [00:23:45] Speaker B: I mean, they definitely like have a. You have to remember, like my mom grew up with Joey too. So it's like her son. [00:23:52] Speaker A: Right. [00:23:52] Speaker B: So like she's very comfortable saying like. [00:23:54] Speaker A: They had like tips and stuff. [00:23:56] Speaker B: Oh yeah. [00:23:56] Speaker A: Really? [00:23:57] Speaker B: Yeah. And like Joey will be like, you're crazy. And, and my mom will be like, I know, I know. [00:24:03] Speaker A: You don't tell me. Yeah. [00:24:04] Speaker B: But like I, I think I can count on like one hand. [00:24:07] Speaker A: Like, like, like real, real, real not funny. Like real legit. [00:24:11] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:24:12] Speaker A: So that's normal. I mean like, that's totally normal when you have children and like your family comes in a little bit more than the other side comes in. [00:24:18] Speaker B: Right. [00:24:19] Speaker A: It's like, it gets a little bit overwhelming. [00:24:21] Speaker B: Yes, absolutely. And I try to respect that. But also like, I, I rely on my mom. [00:24:26] Speaker A: Did you ever get like upset like, Joe, she's my mom. You ever get like that kind of. [00:24:31] Speaker B: Yeah, oh yeah. Like I feel like when. So my mom is a single mom. Like I always, I'm always feeling bad. Like I'm feeling bad if she's not coming to like a holiday or something. So like I always like, need. I just, I. She's in the back of my mind always. And I never want her to feel like non included. But also like I want to respect like the other girl. [00:24:52] Speaker A: You have your own family now. Totally. [00:24:54] Speaker B: So it's, it's hard to balance that. But I feel like as the kids are getting older, it's getting easier because first of all, there's so many of them and they're all not like obsessed with Nana. Like there's my, My mother in law is amazing too. Like she comes around and my kids love her, but she's just a different type of grandma. She's not the grandma that sits and plays. She comes. She'll. She'll actually come and do my laundry. [00:25:16] Speaker A: Which you need to. [00:25:18] Speaker B: I do need to do. But yeah, so I mean there's definitely. Everyone wears a different hat and it all works out. It takes a village though. It definitely takes a village. [00:25:27] Speaker A: Shout out to this actual single parents out there. [00:25:29] Speaker B: And my mom also said that she was, she was a single mom, but like she most. I mean when you think. I feel like when you think about single moms now, it's like some moms just like have babies without daddies a lot of the time. So like you don't know the life like of having support and then it just disappears. So my mom said like one time where it really hit her that she was, like, a single mom. She was out somewhere and driving home. My brother was 6 and I was 5, and we both fell asleep in the car. And, like, normally she would, like, have her husband, like, carry one of us in, carry the other one in. Like, she had nobody. She was all alone. It was late, and, like, we were both sleeping in the car. And she was like, what do I do? So she called my dad, who was 10 minutes away, and she was like, can you come? I don't know what to do. Like, they're both sleeping in the car. Like, I don't. And she was crazy. Like, she didn't want to leave one in the driveway. Whatever. We had a long driveway. We had a big house growing up. And she. He was like, no, I'm not coming. And she tells me, like, that was, like, her gut. Like, she realized, like, okay. [00:26:35] Speaker A: When she was still married. [00:26:37] Speaker B: I am. Like, it was. It was like, a week out of, like, them getting divorced. She was like, okay. Like, I have to figure this shit out on my own now. I. I can't call him to come. That was a crazy thing for her to do. Yeah, I feel, like. To call him. [00:26:49] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, yeah. I don't know. [00:26:51] Speaker B: Yeah, I guess, right? Yeah. Now, looking back, she thinks that it was a crazy thing for her to do, but in the moment of being so new, being, like, she was like, I have nothing else to do. I have to call him. What am I gonna do? It was something small like that, but, like, things like that. She brought one of us in, left us in the car. [00:27:07] Speaker A: She realized that's fine. [00:27:08] Speaker B: Yeah. But, like, it's funny, looking back, like, I would do that now. [00:27:13] Speaker A: Who was left in the car? [00:27:13] Speaker B: You were your brother. [00:27:15] Speaker A: Who did she take first? [00:27:17] Speaker B: Not sure. I'm her favorite, but she always tells this one story, which my friends say is, like, the epitone of our life. She one time locked us in the car, and she couldn't get us out. We were older, and she literally. She called the police to get us. But the whole entire time before the police comes, she's standing at the window going, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy day. [00:27:39] Speaker A: Were you guys crying? [00:27:40] Speaker B: I don't even know. But, like, so it was not. Like, I don't remember it, but my friend. [00:27:44] Speaker A: Was it hot out? Like, why was she freaking out? [00:27:46] Speaker B: She was. I don't know if it was hot, but all I remember is her making sure that we were still happy. Like, it was like a game. Like, we had no idea. We were locked in. [00:27:53] Speaker A: In the car. [00:27:54] Speaker B: We had no Idea. We were locked in the car. Like, she just wanted to make sure we were happy and fine. And that is so. And the world was falling. [00:28:01] Speaker A: My mother probably would have been screaming on top of her. [00:28:03] Speaker B: Yeah. No, I mean, so that, like, story, really. My friends, like, will laugh at that story because they're like, that's the story of your life. You just are happy, happy, happy, and everything's fine around you. But I. I mean, I. I truly feel that way. [00:28:16] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, for your mom to do that kind of stuff growing up. Totally. She never made anything seem like she really didn't. [00:28:22] Speaker B: And she. She did it with. She. She did it alone, and she did it really good. And I. I really, like, applaud her for that. [00:28:30] Speaker A: Yeah. I mean, that's hard to do alone. [00:28:32] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:28:32] Speaker A: You know, but, you know, it's You. You can see what she did growing up and how it made you who you are, and you could take things from it and not take things from it with your own family. Yeah. [00:28:45] Speaker B: Yeah. And I feel like she. She said, like, there was a lot of hard things. Like, when we were with our dad on the weekends, she, like, was always worrying. She was like, how is he gonna take her into the bathroom? How is she? How are they being fed? Are they. Is. Are their coats on them? Like, she was always worried. [00:29:02] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:29:02] Speaker B: Because, like, she had no control. [00:29:04] Speaker A: Yeah. She has bad anxiety. [00:29:05] Speaker B: She's bad anxiety. So, like, those weekends she said for her were really hard. [00:29:08] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:29:09] Speaker B: And I could see that now. [00:29:10] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:29:11] Speaker B: Looking back, Like, I could cry for her. Like, being sitting in alone in a house with no. Like, your kids, who are your life, and you just don't have them on the weekend. [00:29:18] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:29:19] Speaker B: That's sad. But she did that selflessly. So we had a relationship with our dad, and we did. And we had a great time with my dad. I was in Indian Guides. Do you know what that is? [00:29:27] Speaker A: No. It's that. [00:29:29] Speaker B: The fucking funniest thing. It is, like, for single dads who. It's like. It's. It's like Girl Scouts, but it's called Indian Guides. It's like, all dads that take their kids camping. [00:29:40] Speaker A: No. [00:29:40] Speaker B: And, like, you do, like, these weird fucking rituals. [00:29:43] Speaker A: Did you do that? [00:29:44] Speaker B: Looking back, I think it's a cult. Yeah. I was Princess Ying Yang. [00:29:48] Speaker A: You had, like, lying. God, we have to get into how I grew up because I can't eat. [00:29:55] Speaker B: We grew up so different. And I grew up camping. Like, I played with worms. I did all that with my dad, but that was. [00:30:00] Speaker A: You must bring in. I played with worms. Wait, that's so funny. I mean, I just feel like, even now, like. Yeah, I could tell your mom has a lot of anxiety and worries and, like, different kind of how I grew up, but I. I just lost my train of thought because I was distracted by my husband walking out the front door. It's happening today. [00:30:22] Speaker B: I don't know. Today's. [00:30:23] Speaker A: I forgot I was gonna say how you grew up. [00:30:25] Speaker B: Well, maybe. [00:30:25] Speaker A: No, I know. I just feel like, from my perspective, like, I feel like. I don't know, you seem like you had that. That life, how you just explained. [00:30:38] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:30:38] Speaker A: But, like, it shows in a really good way. [00:30:40] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:30:41] Speaker A: Most people tell that story, and it doesn't show in that way. [00:30:43] Speaker B: I. I truly think it's because my mom made the divorce and everything just not so big. And, like. Like, my life. [00:30:51] Speaker A: Not a big deal. [00:30:51] Speaker B: My life stayed as a baby and then into my. [00:30:53] Speaker A: Cause she gaslit at everything. [00:30:55] Speaker B: She's a nut. But, like, she really, truly made it her mission as we were babies, to it not affect us. [00:31:03] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:04] Speaker B: And it didn't. And it shows. [00:31:05] Speaker A: All right, so take notes. Whoever's out there, listen up. [00:31:08] Speaker B: Seriously. I mean, she really. [00:31:10] Speaker A: I mean, genuinely, like, you don't put on no front. You don't put on any fronts. This is. You are generally like that. [00:31:16] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:31:16] Speaker A: You genuinely come off as. Everything's all good. [00:31:19] Speaker B: I mean, and I hope people don't think that I'm faking it, because I know you're definitely. I can. [00:31:23] Speaker A: I could vouch for that because I call bullshit on people. You are like that through and through for night and day. Like, you don't change. I don't see any other part of you. [00:31:32] Speaker B: And I also feel like just doing this podcast, like, so my mom and I are super close. Like, I. I have no shame. Like, I. My mom and I talk about sex. We talk about everything. And, like, I'm not scared to say anything just because, like, I'm not scared about what my mom is gonna think because, like, she's already heard it or, like, my dad. Like, my dad is, like, cool. Like, he doesn't give a. About that stuff. So I feel like everything is just super real. And, like, my mom and I have talked out everything that, like, there's really nothing to be less. [00:32:00] Speaker A: Yeah. I mean, you're just. You could be yourself. A lot of people don't get that. [00:32:03] Speaker B: Yeah. So I feel like this is. [00:32:05] Speaker A: Well, I'm so happy for you. Your life is amazing. Sweetie, please. [00:32:14] Speaker B: Great life. [00:32:15] Speaker A: You just. You are a really, really good person. I just have to tell you that. I know I tell you that often. [00:32:19] Speaker B: Thank you. [00:32:19] Speaker A: But you inspire me a lot. [00:32:21] Speaker B: Thank you. And how was your life? [00:32:23] Speaker A: Honestly? I lived a really. [00:32:25] Speaker B: You had a great life. [00:32:26] Speaker A: I mean, I had a great life. Like, I have both my parents, they're still married and we grew up very. You know, my dad's very old school was never spoon fed as much as people think I was because, you know, we lived a glorious life. We had a. We had a beautiful house, we had a shore house. We had the jet skis, we had the bow, we had the cool cars. [00:32:50] Speaker B: So you were privileged. [00:32:52] Speaker A: So we grew up in that manner. Yes, but I wasn't given. I mean, I. I absolutely got whatever I wanted, but not in a. I feel like not in a brat way. And I hope that shows. I don't know. [00:33:06] Speaker B: I mean. Yeah, I don't. [00:33:06] Speaker A: I mean, I'm definitely not people. I mean, obviously spoiled. You look at it like, I got everything I wanted, but I. I was very respectful. I didn't. I wasn't that prissy little. Walking around with a cool car. [00:33:18] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:33:18] Speaker A: You know, I was. [00:33:19] Speaker B: What kind of car did you have in high school? [00:33:20] Speaker A: And red Audi. Bright red. Out to those of you listening that know about that bright red Audi. [00:33:27] Speaker B: Do you know I had a yellow. Bright yellow. [00:33:30] Speaker A: Did you? [00:33:31] Speaker B: Yeah. I love that. Yeah. [00:33:33] Speaker A: That's like. Was me like, I had bright red hair and bright red outing. [00:33:37] Speaker B: Would we have been friends in high school? [00:33:38] Speaker A: Totally. I was like, you would think I would be like that bitch. And I feel like I was friends with everybody. I. Everybody was at my house, whether you were friends with me or not. Like I was the house to go to. My house that I grew up in, my shore house. Everybody just swarmed to my family. Like that's what we are. The collaborals are. Everybody is at the collaborative house. Like I see people that I don't remember, they're like, oh my God, I partied so much at your house. Who the are you? [00:34:04] Speaker B: I feel like your house was like the D'Annunzios. [00:34:06] Speaker A: Yes. [00:34:07] Speaker B: And that's why I gravitate towards you. I like, I mean, big family. Yeah. [00:34:12] Speaker A: Because we grew up very, very similar. [00:34:14] Speaker B: Which is like so fun. [00:34:15] Speaker A: Yeah. So fun. [00:34:16] Speaker B: And I want that. [00:34:16] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:34:17] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:17] Speaker A: That's why we get along so well. Because we just. I need a you and you need a me. [00:34:21] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:22] Speaker A: But anyhow, not enough about us. No. I just grew up like in a very. I loved my life. I had so much fun growing up. I was a very like loud Happy, outgoing, kind of could say whatever I want with my heart on my sleeve. Because I just. Like, everyone just loved that about me. [00:34:39] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:39] Speaker A: So as I grew up, I kind of used that and was like, that was just me that became my personality. But I grew up with. My dad was like that, too. Like, you see videos back in the day, like, everybody was at the Shorehouse. Even when he was 22 years old, like, hundreds of people. Like, that's who my dad was, too. And even back, like, I crossed paths with people like, oh, my God, I was that party at your father. I'm like, I have no idea who you are, but cool. I'll let him know. My dad was like that, too. My mom was, you know, quiet, shy, that pretty blonde. Like, everything was all white, decked out. Like, she was the mom to be. She was the woman to be. Yeah, she was. You know, and. And they were high school sweethearts, so they got together at a young age, and my mom just sat back and, like, lived this, like, glorious life with my dad. And he didn't, like, come. Come from this glorious life. You know what I mean? He was that guy that was, like, down, dirty, and he built his family from the ground up. And who people don't realize is, like, it. What. What we had wasn't given to him. He had to build that right and grow that. And that's why my brother and I lived the life we did because of him. [00:35:44] Speaker B: Right. [00:35:44] Speaker A: You know what I mean? Because hard. And he did everything he can to give us that life. And he was there for everything. He. He took us everywhere. We went snowmobiling, we went quadding, we did the vacations. And he had us, and my mom had us. Like, we did everything with them. We got to do all that. They didn't leave us behind and go do whatever they want as a couple or alone. We were with them through everything. So I grew up doing all the things and exploring all that stuff. I feel like that's why I'm so boring now, because I did all of it. Not to sound like bratty, but. [00:36:15] Speaker B: Well, I feel like you're. You want that for your family. [00:36:17] Speaker A: Yeah, I want that for my family now. But I'm saying, like, everyone's like, you don't drink anymore, But I did all the stuff at a young age because I just grew up like that. Yeah. But no, I. I mean, my parents did so much for us. Like, I can't even explain. Like, we. I. I have so much to thank for them because I feel like we. We were very Privileged. Like, we didn't. We got to do a lot of things that people don't get to do. And I. I'm the type that. I appreciate that. Like, I will never not respect my parents because they gave me my life. Like, I'm not that girl that's, like, bratty is like, I want this now. Like, I just. I wasn't like that. I just, like, I know what I had, and I appreciated what I had. [00:36:54] Speaker B: That's great. [00:36:54] Speaker A: But, I mean, we just. I hope life was just, like, so much fun. It really, really was. And because of all that fast action, I feel like it was. It. It hits me now that, you know, it was always go, go with my family. Like, a lot of fast pace, a lot of, like, loud and just expressive and just, you know, I. I can't think of the word. It's just, like, very uppity. Like, my house was just always loud people screaming in a good way, in a bad way. Like, we're always just like, go, go, go. [00:37:24] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:37:25] Speaker A: And no one ever sat down to, like, talk about it. [00:37:28] Speaker B: So you didn't really talk about feelings growing up? Never, like, how we would. [00:37:31] Speaker A: No. Like, I would be so upset over a boy or something like that. And you know who talked to me about it? My dad. My dad. My dad would always sit down and make me feel like how I'm supposed to feel and make me feel like I deserve better, or it'll always be, you have no idea what is in the future for you. I promise you. I know you don't feel it now, but it will. He always talked in that manner to me, and my mom was, like, the one that made me feel good without saying it. [00:38:05] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:38:05] Speaker A: My dad was the one that said the words. But as a family, like, if there was issues or, like, people were fighting and this and that, like, something happened, like, it was never talked about. It's always brushed under the rug. And I feel like that affects me now, but I also feel like it makes me who I am. I feel like that's why I'm so vocal about so many things. That's why I wear my heart. [00:38:26] Speaker B: I want to talk about it now. [00:38:27] Speaker A: That's why I always want to talk about it, because I feel like I didn't get that. Even my brother, like, we had the. We were so close. We still are very close, but my brother and I never, like, sat down the table. I was like, joe, I'm, like, really upset. I, like, don't know what to do. My brother was like, listen, I'm gonna help you through this. Like, we never had that. [00:38:42] Speaker B: Right? [00:38:42] Speaker A: And it's. It's fine. But I just feel like I always craved that. [00:38:45] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:38:46] Speaker A: I want to sit down, talk to people. That's why I feel like I always have so many friends and so many people surrounding me because I just crave that energy. But no, we never, like, sang Kubaya at the kitchen table. And like, you know, but my mom was like, always like, around with my friends and like, your mom was. And like, sat and chitchatted, but, like, it was never like, like deep. Yeah, but it was always like, my mom was like, so funny. My dad was, like, always one. Doing everything for us, taking us all on the boat, like, doing all that stuff. But we never sat and sang Kumbaya ever. To this day, Like, I'd be like, I'm so upset. Like, I don't know what to do. And my mom, like, you're fine. Like, just. It'll be fine. [00:39:19] Speaker B: She was the. You're fine. [00:39:20] Speaker A: Yeah, you're fine. Totally, you're fine. And like, growing up, I wasn't like, I wish I had someone. [00:39:25] Speaker B: Because you didn't know anything different, though. [00:39:27] Speaker A: No, I, I was like, I appreciated it because it made me who I am and it made me strong. [00:39:33] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:39:33] Speaker A: But now as a mom, I definitely want to be the. What's the mat? Not the gent. I'm not the gentle parenting. [00:39:42] Speaker B: You're not the gentle parent. [00:39:43] Speaker A: Yeah, but I'm. I'm the. Let's talk it out. Like, what's the matter? What's bothering you? Why would, why do you feel like. Like, why would he do that to you? Why would she do that to you? Why, you know, why would you act this way? Like, I want to be that. Yeah, but that's good. [00:39:57] Speaker B: That's what you, You. You didn't see and you want to do different. [00:40:00] Speaker A: Exactly. But also, my mom was. I feel like we didn't get into this, but I feel like growing up, my mom was. Always did everything for us. Everything. Like, I mean, she took me to all my dance competitions and she. Like, that was definitely hard for her. Knowing her now, like, that was definitely hard for her to do. Pack all our bags up. My brother came to every dance competition. Literally, like, the brother. He was the best brother in the world. Like, what brother comes to a dance competition? Every single one sits through his sister's dance routine. [00:40:33] Speaker B: So nice. [00:40:34] Speaker A: So nice. He's my biggest supporter. But my mom, like, would pack our shit up at like 6:00 in the morning, put my hair, my Makeup on. As even a young kid, like, at 4 years old, I started competing. Like, she did all that. And that's definitely hard to do as a parent, to drive. And, you know, my mom now, she's not a good driver. So to drive all those hours to the dance competition, sit there with me, that's hard. And I give it to her. Like, and I used to. We used to fight. Like, my stocking ripped mom, like, and she would be so stressed out. Now I understand why. Whereas I was like, why are you yelling at me, mom? Like, my stocking ripped. Like, you know what I mean? [00:41:05] Speaker B: So funny that you, like, live that life. I don't think my mom even knows what mascara is. [00:41:09] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. Like, my mom was definitely that mom that, like, was dolled up. She taught me how to do hair and makeup. She taught me how to look nice. She taught me how to just, like, be a woman. I feel like. And she did everything, like, I told you, the dance competitions, the. Just. She was the mom that drove and picked up, like, she did all that. She was the class mom every single year. Yeah. So she did all that. And my dad was more of, like, the down dirty. Like, I'm taking you quadding, going somewhere, building. That's why I'm kind of. I have that side to me, too, because my dad did all that with us. [00:41:44] Speaker B: That's good. That's good. The best. [00:41:45] Speaker A: Yeah. And my mom, in the beginning, like, she was with us through all that, but then I feel like she got older, and it was kind of more. She was more fearful of it, so she kind of stayed back. But. Yeah, I just. I just live that kind of life where we experience so much, but I think we experienced so much that we forgot to sit down and talk about it. You know what I mean? [00:42:04] Speaker B: Yeah. But I feel like a lot of families don't talk about things, and it makes. It makes you who you are, like. [00:42:10] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:42:11] Speaker B: And you can either change it or not do the same. [00:42:13] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:42:13] Speaker B: Break. Break the mold. [00:42:15] Speaker A: Yeah, exactly. Exactly. And I feel like I love my life, and that's why I was always that, like, happy. Everyone knows me, like, from forever of just being that, like, person that just, like, stands tall and proud is so loud and funny. Like, everybody has everybody laughing because I just. I craved that energy. And my. I mean, growing up, you see videos of me, like, shaking my butt and my dad's friends laughing at me. Like, I always was that entertainer. [00:42:42] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:42:42] Speaker A: But I also crave, like, more than that. Like, I want it more than that. Let's just make Everybody laugh. Like, I wanted to, like, sit down and be deep. [00:42:49] Speaker B: It's funny because I feel like we're similar in that way, but also, like, I don't want to be the center of attention, but I want to make people laugh. [00:42:55] Speaker A: I am the center of attention. [00:42:56] Speaker B: Yeah. I don't. [00:42:57] Speaker A: I want to close up. [00:42:58] Speaker B: I want to be hidden behind the cameras. [00:43:00] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:43:00] Speaker B: But I also want to like people to tell me they love me. [00:43:03] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, you are the secret. [00:43:06] Speaker B: But my friends always say, like, I'm there. Like, I'm the hype girl. Like, I want totally. I want, like, everybody to be like, yeah, you are the shot with me. [00:43:14] Speaker A: Yeah, you are. [00:43:15] Speaker B: So take it in a good way. [00:43:16] Speaker A: Not annoying, but, yeah. I feel like I lived a very good life. Me and my brother. My brother and I. But we definitely don't talk about our feelings. It's, like, one thing I have to say is it is. And I'm like, I definitely see it in my family, not in me, because I feel like I'm the one that's always like, let's talk about it. But I. It's so funny because I feel like that comes across as saying too much, because in my family, no one talks about it. So when I do it, it's like, all right, Dominique, you're being fresh. Or, all right, Dominique, like, you talk too much. Or it's always like, a negative. [00:43:51] Speaker B: Right. [00:43:52] Speaker A: Because it's not looked at as, like, let's talk about it. Because it was always just, like, not what we did. [00:43:58] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:43:58] Speaker A: So I always feel like I had that target on my back of, like, I just talk too much. I say too much. I say the wrong things. But it's because we didn't sit down and, like, open up about any of that. Yeah, I did. I. For sure, I would come in the house screaming, crying, and I was like, oh, another boy broke her heart. Here she is. She's upset. But, no, my dad definitely was that person that guided me through a lot of. A lot of. I mean, I could talk to him for hours, and it's crazy because he does not come across as that guy. Yeah, he's that observer that, like, make sure everything's okay. Yeah, he's quiet. Everything makes sure everything's okay, and, like, doesn't talk much. I was like, oh, you're not so quiet. And my mom, they say that about my mom, too, but if you get to know my mom, she's hilarious, funny. [00:44:39] Speaker B: I was just upstairs with her. [00:44:41] Speaker A: I can't. [00:44:42] Speaker B: She was cracking me up. [00:44:44] Speaker A: I can't, like, Talk about my laundry. [00:44:45] Speaker B: Laundry. She used to get dressed up to go to the airport. [00:44:48] Speaker A: Heels. [00:44:49] Speaker B: Oh, no. She. And she also told me that she used to get to. Dressed up to go to the gym, change at the gym into gym clothes, and then dressed up to go back. Like, I wouldn't even. That wouldn't even come across my mind. Put on an outside before. Like, what? And also she would iron or she'd iron her pajamas. [00:45:08] Speaker A: Iron her pajamas? [00:45:09] Speaker B: That's crazy. [00:45:09] Speaker A: She came in. The first thing she said to me, she obviously missed my son, so she's like, giving him kisses and hugs. Then she goes, dominique, why would you put these in the dryer? I'm like, ma, why are we talking about this right now? You would think, like, I am so that. Which I like. I have a piece of that. I mean, but sometimes I'm like, it. I don't give a. But she was so, like, she came in my house, she cleaned my dishes. She. She cleaned my counter. She. Everything. My kitchen spotless. She came upstairs, made my bed. She did everything. Yeah, but that's just, like, how she was. And I appreciate that because sometimes I just need my mom. [00:45:36] Speaker B: But anyway, anyhow, let's talk about the different styles of parenting really quick. [00:45:42] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, go ahead. You go into that. [00:45:43] Speaker B: Okay. Well, so the. [00:45:44] Speaker A: There's four of them, right? [00:45:45] Speaker B: There's. There's four, like, cycle. Like, the real classic psychology ones are authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved. [00:45:53] Speaker A: Can we get a definition? [00:45:54] Speaker B: Sure. Well, I don't really have a definition, but authoritative is like, I love you, but no, you're not going to jump on the couch right now. Like, it's very. Like, it's. It's. It's validating your feelings, but also, like, you have some boundaries. [00:46:09] Speaker A: Okay, that makes sense. [00:46:11] Speaker B: Authoritarian is like, absolutely not. Because I said so. Not doing that. Like, very strict. [00:46:17] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:46:18] Speaker B: I feel like is my husband and how he was raised. [00:46:20] Speaker A: Yeah. No means no. [00:46:22] Speaker B: No means no. And then the first time. Yeah. There's. There's no second or third chance. Permissive is like the cool mom. Like, okay, you can have the. You could have the screen time and, like, maybe you'll go to bed at some point. Which I feel like I. I think that I'm a mix. [00:46:35] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:46:36] Speaker B: Of some. And then the uninvolved is just, like, totally hands off. Like. [00:46:40] Speaker A: Yeah. Like daddy issues. [00:46:41] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, just not there. [00:46:43] Speaker A: Yeah. Okay, that makes sense. So you just said your husband is definitely authoritative. [00:46:48] Speaker B: I gotta say, I think authoritarian. [00:46:50] Speaker A: Oh, authoritarian. [00:46:51] Speaker B: There's a difference between authoritative. You think? [00:46:53] Speaker A: I Would know this. I minored in psychology. [00:46:55] Speaker B: Yes, we both have our masters. [00:46:57] Speaker A: We both have our masters. Imagine. [00:46:59] Speaker B: I mean, imagine I have my master's in behavioral therapy. Yeah, I used to work and try to tell kids how to have behavior and I run a circus. But it's so funny. I tell my girlfriends all the time. Like, I, I mean, I worked a lot with autistic kids, so it was different. But like, you can have a reward chart. You can do all the things. Then when it comes to your own kids, everything's out. [00:47:22] Speaker A: It's funny you say that. It's like total opposite. But I always think about like a makeup artist or a hairdresser. They always show up with no makeup on, not their hair done. Like, you do this for a living. Why aren't you dressed? But that's like kind of the same concept. [00:47:34] Speaker B: I mean, it really is. Like, I mean, I was a good therapist. Like, I, I loved it. [00:47:39] Speaker A: But you're definitely not at home. [00:47:41] Speaker B: No, no. [00:47:42] Speaker A: And I honestly think you're Permissive. Is that the word? [00:47:45] Speaker B: Yeah, submissive. [00:47:46] Speaker A: Permissive, yeah. Sexually, I honestly think you're permissive and not in a bad way. [00:47:51] Speaker B: None of them are bad. [00:47:51] Speaker A: It's just, I just think are. You definitely let everything go. You, you, you give them everything they want. There's no no from you. [00:47:58] Speaker B: Oh, okay. You could think that. Yeah, I say no. [00:48:02] Speaker A: You do. You definitely do. I'm not with you 24 7. [00:48:04] Speaker B: You cannot have that ice cream for breakfast. [00:48:06] Speaker A: Yeah, I feel like I've seen a little bit of side of that. [00:48:08] Speaker B: I mean, no, I'm probably mainly permissive, but I asked my nanny and she said that I am authoritative. [00:48:15] Speaker A: Okay, that's good. [00:48:16] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:48:17] Speaker A: Okay, so your husband's definitely, though. Authoritative. What is the word? I can't. [00:48:21] Speaker B: Authoritarian. [00:48:22] Speaker A: That sounds like a barbarian. [00:48:24] Speaker B: I know it does, but it's like very strict. Like you don't go out of the lines at all. And I think that. [00:48:31] Speaker A: Is he like that? [00:48:32] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. For the most part. It's like, give me an example. My husband, as an authoritarian parent, he is very strict. He's very rigid. [00:48:44] Speaker A: Give me an example. Give me a, an act. [00:48:48] Speaker B: Like if, if, if one of my kids is just not cooperating, he will. [00:48:54] Speaker A: Like smack the out of him. [00:48:56] Speaker B: No, just kidding. He'll hold Joey down on the couch. [00:48:59] Speaker A: I love. That's so funny. [00:49:00] Speaker B: He will like, like tight grip, hold him and be like, you listen to your mother and they get scared of him. [00:49:07] Speaker A: Are you like, hun, relax? [00:49:09] Speaker B: No. Well, I, I tried to. I did in the beginning but now I just let it happen. Yeah. [00:49:14] Speaker A: Because it works. [00:49:14] Speaker B: Yeah. No, I. And they listen to him. Let me fucking tell you. He tells them to go clean the playroom, and they line up every toy. Like. Like. Like they are. [00:49:23] Speaker A: They all of a sudden become organized. [00:49:25] Speaker B: No. It is crazy how that happens. And I'm not kidding. Even my mom said it. Joe made them do something, and my mom was like, did you know that Joey and Vienna can do that? I go, yeah, because they listen to him. [00:49:38] Speaker A: They don't listen to me. But they listen to your daddy. [00:49:40] Speaker B: They don't. They do not. Also, it's crazy. Actually. No, I'm not even gonna get into it because we have really funny things to talk about. [00:49:49] Speaker A: Yeah, we do. Wait, I have to go into my parenting style. [00:49:54] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. You didn't talk about it. What do you think you are? So it's hard to, like, really know what kind of parent you are until your kids are at, like, the discipline age, I feel like. Because, like, when they're babies, they're just. You don't really do much. [00:50:04] Speaker A: You can kind of see it. You can see. [00:50:06] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, you're like. You're not a gentle parent. [00:50:09] Speaker A: I'm definitely not a gentle parent. There's no. Honey, let's go over here and brush your hair so you can tell me how you feel. We're not doing that. No, that's also not my voice. [00:50:19] Speaker B: But are you, like, get your ass in the car. Like, we're going in, like a. [00:50:23] Speaker A: No. But like, in a funny way, I'm like, dude, we're not gonna do this right now. Yeah, so I guess I'm like, in the middle. [00:50:29] Speaker B: I mean, you can also be in the middle. [00:50:30] Speaker A: I'm definitely in the middle. I definitely, like, it's so funny. Like, I can yell at my kid, but as soon as Michael yells at you, I go, hun. Like, I yelled at him all day. Michael comes home and it's like, dude, why are you. [00:50:42] Speaker B: I think a lot of moms. [00:50:43] Speaker A: And I'm going, why are you yelling at him? [00:50:45] Speaker B: Don't yell at my kid. I feel that way a lot, actually. It's funny you said that, like, Joe will come home. [00:50:49] Speaker A: And two seconds later, I just yelled at him. [00:50:51] Speaker B: He'll. He'll yell. He'll come home and he'll yell, and I'll be like, how can you yell at them? I was just with them all day and I didn't yell. And then you come in and then he. And then he's mad that he's the bad cop, and I'm the good cop. Like, well, because you're doing that. [00:51:03] Speaker A: Right. Right. But I feel like I'm definitely in a mix. I definitely am. Like, all right, love. Like, yeah, we'll give you this now and then later. But I'm also like, all right. But then when the time comes and it's like, my time, I'm like, all right, you're not doing this right now. [00:51:17] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:51:18] Speaker A: And I would be strict, but not in, like, a. No, it's. My mommy says no. Like, I'm not like that. [00:51:23] Speaker B: Yeah. So maybe you're, like, authoritative and a little authoritarian. [00:51:25] Speaker A: Yes. [00:51:26] Speaker B: Yeah. Where I'm authoritative and permissive. [00:51:28] Speaker A: Yeah, I think I'm a little bit permissive in a sense. [00:51:30] Speaker B: Like, actually, you want to be the cool mom. [00:51:33] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:51:34] Speaker B: I mean, you are the cool mom. You will be the cool mom. I wanna. I think we're gonna have an episode about, like, what type of mom we're gonna be when our kids are teenagers. I think that'll be fun. [00:51:42] Speaker A: I want to drop off my kid, and my son's friends are like, you have the hottest mom. [00:51:46] Speaker B: Same. [00:51:46] Speaker A: You know, it's so funny. My mom's sister has to get a. [00:51:49] Speaker B: Boob job first, and then they're gonna be like, your mom's hot. [00:51:52] Speaker A: Yeah, same. My mom's sister is so funny. I feel like we always hear stories of her kids, friends always saying that. Yeah. [00:52:01] Speaker B: I love that we have friends like that where, like, we know that their mom was like. [00:52:05] Speaker A: Yeah, Yeah. [00:52:06] Speaker B: I mean, was your mom. Your mom was. [00:52:07] Speaker A: Yeah. Oh, yeah. Totally. [00:52:08] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:52:08] Speaker A: But, like, you. When it's your own mom, you kind of just don't really know. [00:52:11] Speaker B: Well, I mean, I feel like you would know. [00:52:13] Speaker A: I mean, I know, but I, like. I feel like I don't. I'm like, all right. Yeah. [00:52:16] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:52:16] Speaker A: They always said about my brother, forget it. Every girl wants you, my brother. Yeah. [00:52:19] Speaker B: That's fun. [00:52:20] Speaker A: So I wish, like, do you think people said that about me? Yeah, like, I'm like, the girl that everyone wanted to be with. [00:52:25] Speaker B: My God, you're so annoying. Hate her. But let's get it. Want to know why I actually hate her? [00:52:32] Speaker A: I haven't looked at these. [00:52:33] Speaker B: I got to tell you, we're going to get. [00:52:35] Speaker A: Oh, you hate me because of this? I don't know what you're going to say. [00:52:37] Speaker B: She's the organic mom. [00:52:39] Speaker A: First of all, it comes and stems from my husband. [00:52:41] Speaker B: No, I just have to say. [00:52:43] Speaker A: But I am equally, if not more now. [00:52:45] Speaker B: I babysat Gio the other day. She wasn't. She was Feeling under the weather. I am such a nice friend. I came. [00:52:50] Speaker A: Nice friend. You are the fret. [00:52:52] Speaker B: I came over with my kid. With my kids babysit. I opened their fridge and I lost five pounds just from opening their fridge. I mean, I'm talking grass fed milk, organic butt nut or wolfberry syringes on the butt nut. Anything coconut grass fed. I like don't even know those words. I mean, what else is. They have pills on the table. I'm like, that comes from my tit. All I know is my boob once had colostrum and now you're having pill colostrum. So I open your fridge and I see all these things and I'm like. [00:53:33] Speaker A: Was Rihanna like, mommy, I'm hungry? [00:53:35] Speaker B: Yeah, well, I'll tell you that in a second. But I. I'm thinking about when I open my fridge, which it's like I have to sleep. Every time I open my fridge, something comes to me. [00:53:51] Speaker A: Color corded blueberries. [00:53:53] Speaker B: Literally. I don't know, I just need to get it together. I gotta close or something. But like the other day it was just like blueberries came crashing down. [00:54:00] Speaker A: Why are blueberries coming out of your fridge? [00:54:02] Speaker B: I have things like stacked and very disoriented. There's blueberries all over my floor. And then my kids are like, yay, smash, smash, smash. Snap. Like making wine. Stop. [00:54:15] Speaker A: I would have a severe no, but. [00:54:17] Speaker B: So my fridge looks very different than your fridge. [00:54:21] Speaker A: What else did you see in my fridge? [00:54:22] Speaker B: I mean, not much. Coconut butter, avocado oil, Nothing I want to eat. And my daughter was hungry. I gave her some weird puffs that she literally spit out. [00:54:37] Speaker A: And I know kids without any. [00:54:39] Speaker B: I tasted it and it. An Amazon box tasted better than what these things were. [00:54:42] Speaker A: It was the grass fed cauliflower. [00:54:46] Speaker B: Cauliflower no one should ever eat. [00:54:48] Speaker A: They actually taste terrible. I don't even think Gio likes them. [00:54:50] Speaker B: No, they were so bad. Like, you're really feeding your kids that. I mean, I can't talk. I'm feeding dino nuggets off of the floor. [00:54:57] Speaker A: Literally dino nuggets off the floor. You stay down the shore of the ones. But I think like you were like, do you have Mac and cheese? I'm like, it's 8:00am. [00:55:05] Speaker B: Hey, anything they'll eat. It doesn't matter. The time does not matter. [00:55:11] Speaker A: There's no time concept. [00:55:12] Speaker B: No. So that is so funny that you. [00:55:14] Speaker A: Opened my fridge and said that. [00:55:15] Speaker B: No, it was wild. I mean, you had elderberry juice or something. [00:55:20] Speaker A: No, elderberry juice. I don't know. [00:55:22] Speaker B: There's. There's weird stuff. [00:55:23] Speaker A: I have strawberries. [00:55:24] Speaker B: Actually, hold on. I think I wrote something. Beef organs. What is beef organization? Please tell me what beef organ is. And anything honey, ginger. Like, do you think. [00:55:34] Speaker A: Wait, wait. [00:55:34] Speaker B: Is anything. [00:55:35] Speaker A: It's a beef organ. [00:55:38] Speaker B: That is. [00:55:39] Speaker A: My husband takes the beef organ pill. [00:55:41] Speaker B: Did your husband eat your placenta, too? Because. [00:55:46] Speaker A: He eat my placenta. But if he knew how good it is for you, he probably would. [00:55:50] Speaker B: I mean. So, yes, this is a healthy house, and I understand that, and that is great. [00:55:55] Speaker A: We're very big on health. I tell you that you're killing yourself and your children. [00:56:02] Speaker B: She's fine. My kids love McDonald's. Okay, get along. [00:56:05] Speaker A: I can't even explain. [00:56:07] Speaker B: Have you ever eaten McDonald's? Have you ever had a French fry? Yes. Snack wrap? [00:56:11] Speaker A: Oh, we used to get it all the time. [00:56:13] Speaker B: Okay, so what changed? [00:56:14] Speaker A: I don't eat it on a Tuesday afternoon, is what changed. [00:56:18] Speaker B: And a Wednesday and a Thursday, and it's Friday. [00:56:21] Speaker A: Honestly, though, you had a good. Did you bring a good meal for Vienna because you knew you were going to. She brought chicken meatballs, sweet potatoes. [00:56:28] Speaker B: So I knew that I was coming over and I was going to take the kids on a picnic because she wasn't feeling well. And I packed, like, a little thing, and I was like, you know what I'm going to get? I'm going to whatever I got from Whole Foods. This is such a whole fucking show. You bought chicken? Chicken meatballs, butternut squash ravioli. [00:56:46] Speaker A: She brought it over, and now I'm thinking about it. You brought it over in a container. I brought lunch for them, and I'm going, oh. Oh, really good. Yeah. It was chicken meatball. [00:56:57] Speaker B: Meanwhile, she's sweating. She's sweating like, oh, God, she's gonna feed my son. She's gonna feed my son. [00:57:01] Speaker A: What? [00:57:02] Speaker B: What is in that? [00:57:02] Speaker A: Fired. [00:57:04] Speaker B: I knew. [00:57:05] Speaker A: I'm like, well, I have stuff in the fridge. [00:57:06] Speaker B: I cooked tacos last night. Give him this taco meat and guacamole. I'm like, I'm not fucking giving him your guacamole. [00:57:12] Speaker A: You told me, though, you're turning over a new leaf. I'm, like, cooking every night. So I'm like, oh, maybe this is it. [00:57:17] Speaker B: Wait. But also, you definitely tried to impress me also. No, I did, but, like, I also had, like, a bag of potato chips that I also gave your son when we were outside on the picnic. [00:57:25] Speaker A: Lays. The recall, I think, was. [00:57:28] Speaker B: It lays, like, do you have a problem with that if people are watching your kid and they give you other food? [00:57:33] Speaker A: No. Because, you know What? I. [00:57:34] Speaker B: Not. I. [00:57:35] Speaker A: It's weird. I. My mother in Law watched GIO4, but she's also. [00:57:39] Speaker B: She tried to get the organic snack. [00:57:41] Speaker A: She cooks and stuff. So I'm like not really worried but I feel like if you watch my kid for five days, I would have to like meal prep me personally. [00:57:47] Speaker B: Yeah, that's up. Yeah. [00:57:51] Speaker A: Like, but I also wasn't worried like when you came here and watched him. Cuz I feel like you know better than that. But you definitely said sneak him. [00:57:57] Speaker B: Oh yeah. And I'm going to continue to do that. [00:58:00] Speaker A: Was it lace chips though? [00:58:01] Speaker B: You. No, it wasn't la. It was Becky's sea salt. [00:58:04] Speaker A: All right, that's fine. [00:58:05] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:58:07] Speaker A: So anywho, honestly though, when you open my fridge in my pantry, it is very. We are a non toxic house. Like I'm not gonna lie to you. It's probably why I have so much anxiety. [00:58:17] Speaker B: Anything at Whole Foods, is it just automatically is that healthy because it was bought at hood? [00:58:22] Speaker A: No. [00:58:23] Speaker B: Oh. Because that's what I think. [00:58:24] Speaker A: That's definitely how you shop. You think going to Whole Foods is like healthy. [00:58:27] Speaker B: That's healthy. [00:58:28] Speaker A: You gotta buy the right. [00:58:29] Speaker B: Oh no. [00:58:30] Speaker A: And you gotta cook it. [00:58:32] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:58:32] Speaker A: And not eat it raw. Her son was playing with raw chicken the other day. [00:58:37] Speaker B: That almost took you out? [00:58:39] Speaker A: Took me out. I had a stroke for seven days. [00:58:41] Speaker B: Oh, he helped him with chicken cutlet. [00:58:42] Speaker A: I wouldn't see him for seven days because he definitely didn't wash his hands. Freaking out. Raw. Not like the chicken cutlets cooked. It was raw. He was slapping them on his face. [00:58:52] Speaker B: And she like puts on 12 rubber gloves. She's making chicken cut. [00:58:55] Speaker A: Absolutely. [00:58:56] Speaker B: I wouldn't even dream of putting gloves on. [00:58:57] Speaker A: You would lick your finger after ch. It. I can't. It's just like you like. I know, I know you take care of your kids, but like we. I have so much anxiety for you because you are toxic. [00:59:12] Speaker B: I feel, I feel. [00:59:13] Speaker A: What were you eating the other day? That. [00:59:15] Speaker B: Living my best life with my children. Whatever they want. [00:59:17] Speaker A: How do I have the stomach aches though? Understand? It's like so annoying. [00:59:21] Speaker B: It's sad. [00:59:22] Speaker A: Oh, you're. Oh, you're laughing, huh? Okay. [00:59:24] Speaker B: Oh, you think? [00:59:25] Speaker A: Wait, I'm not done though. Because you are like all you do. [00:59:29] Speaker B: Don't say all. They eat vegetables too, do they? Yeah. [00:59:33] Speaker A: Anyway, I open your fridge and I literally have to wash my hands after I open your fridge because I'm like. There definitely was raw chicken on this doorknob. [00:59:41] Speaker B: No. There's grime on that door. [00:59:43] Speaker A: No. I wash My hands every time I touch your fridge. I don't want to talk about this anymore because it's stressing me out. But this is why I have anxiety. Because the food in this country is so toxic. You'll be sorry unless you listen to me. You're starting to listen to me a little bit. [01:00:02] Speaker B: We're all gonna die. So you have to see my going. [01:00:04] Speaker A: To my parents house. They changed everything. They're like, oh, Dom's coming. We have to get this, this and this. Well, and now they're starting to get on the trend. [01:00:10] Speaker B: No, can we really quick, grass fed milk, raw milk. I don't know what kind of milk. I go, I told Dom. I was like, I need milk. I went to the gas station. [01:00:19] Speaker A: I didn't know people gave any milk they wanted. She goes to the gas station, got. I would never, not only not give my son grass fed whole milk, I would absolutely never step foot in a quick check to grab milk. [01:00:31] Speaker B: It was making me cry. [01:00:32] Speaker A: Like, even like someone was like, oh, just. I have milk in my fridge. All right. Is it grass fed whole milk? No. All right, so go get it. [01:00:37] Speaker B: Yeah. No, quick check. [01:00:39] Speaker A: Seriously, quick check. Logo was on your milk the other day. I almost had a stroke. [01:00:42] Speaker B: I know you did. [01:00:44] Speaker A: Anyway, last but not least, our favorite time of our day is our mom confessions. We have so many. Oh, we're not there yet. [01:00:51] Speaker B: Not yet. We have one more thing. Can we go? I just wanted to say something after I've been ripped a new asshole about non organic foods. [01:01:04] Speaker A: I just want the best for your family. [01:01:06] Speaker B: That's fine. I want the best for my family too. But like, a cheeseburger tastes good cooked raw from McDonald's. [01:01:14] Speaker A: They're probably half raw. [01:01:15] Speaker B: They're cooked. [01:01:16] Speaker A: Although I do love Chick Fil A. [01:01:18] Speaker B: No, Chick Fil A is good. My kids love Chick Fil A. Yeah. [01:01:22] Speaker A: My husband just said, eating gasoline. This is why. This is why I'm the way. [01:01:29] Speaker B: It doesn't really matter because, like, nothing. My new plant, they needed something on my side, so I got the organic plant over here. [01:01:41] Speaker A: He goes, you need a plant? Why would I. Why do we need a plant? You have to put a plant there. Usually he doesn't care what stuff he like. I had to go to Target and it's like, let's just use the plant in our living room. We literally have a plant that was in my living room right next to her. I can't. [01:01:55] Speaker B: I just need to say one thing about organic, non organic Instagram versus reality. Like, you are. Your playroom is all beige. She has a white trampoline. Like, I have a rainbow trampoline in the middle of my living room. [01:02:10] Speaker A: Rainbow trampoline drives me insane. I walk into her house, I'm so over stimulated. I can't even explain to you. Like, I think I avoided her for three months because I'm like, I can't come. [01:02:17] Speaker B: Oh. I think you were just really postpartum and you couldn't step in. But, yeah, so we're very different in that way. Yeah. Which is fine. [01:02:25] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, you're, like, not organized, and I am like, you leave cabinets open, your shit's everywhere. Like, it's not. You literally come to my house and you put in the dishwasher because, you know. [01:02:35] Speaker B: Yeah, no, I. I mean, and it's, like, a little scary to, like, be here with my children. Like, they're gonna break something, but I also feel like it comes from having multiple kids. And I. I'm curious to see how you are when you have more. [01:02:46] Speaker A: Yeah, I agree. I agree. [01:02:47] Speaker B: Because I've talked like my girlfriend. [01:02:48] Speaker A: I'll definitely close the cabinets. [01:02:49] Speaker B: I mean, I will never close a cabinet. You see me cooking this morning? I was making. Everyone needed some eggs. Pancakes. Cabinet, open. Butter. Open. Milk. [01:02:59] Speaker A: Butter was probably left out. Cap open. [01:03:02] Speaker B: It's a kid. I can't. I can't get it together. But it's fine. My kids are happy. Okay, they are happy, but it's hard. No, I'm not saying Gio's not happy. [01:03:12] Speaker A: No, no. [01:03:12] Speaker B: I'm just saying the chaos. [01:03:14] Speaker A: I'm clean and you're not. It's fine. [01:03:18] Speaker B: She's so mean. [01:03:19] Speaker A: It's so fun. [01:03:22] Speaker B: No, you know what? Our kids are going to look back on what they were happy and loved, and that's all that matters. It doesn't matter about the babies or the rainbows or anything about that. As long as they feel happy, so right and loved and safe, and they all. I want to look back on their childhood, and my shirt right now says, love yourself more. And I feel like that's really important because my mom said that's something she didn't do, and she. [01:03:46] Speaker A: You do this lip thing when you're about to cry. It's so cute. [01:03:48] Speaker B: Oh, my God. I'm not about to cry. [01:03:50] Speaker A: But you feel it, though. [01:03:51] Speaker B: It's coming. [01:03:52] Speaker A: I can see it. [01:03:53] Speaker B: No, but so, like, let it out. I'm not crying. I'm just. I want to. Okay. So she can't even let me cry. She's micromanaging my crying. What a dick. [01:04:06] Speaker A: That's such A meme move. [01:04:08] Speaker B: But love yourself more. Like, I feel like this year, like, I want to put myself first and love myself more. And like, but also, it doesn't really matter. Like, my kids love me the way I am. Like, my kids love me at £200. And like, it was funny because I fit into the jeans that I haven't fit into in so long. Thank you, Ozempic. But, like, like, my kids, like, didn't. They don't know the difference. Like, they didn't. I don't look any different to them. And I'm like, that's humbling. Yet, like, can you also, like, give me a little, like, credit? [01:04:36] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:04:36] Speaker B: I look better now. [01:04:37] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:04:37] Speaker B: Like, they don't care. Like, they don't give a shit about that. And I also look back at my childhood. Like, my mom was always up and down with her weight and, like, she was depressed for a while after her divorce. And, like, I didn't see any of that because I always just saw her happy with her kids. And that is just so important. It is to look back on. Like, if you're happy and safe, you have a good environment and you're loved. [01:04:58] Speaker A: I think that's like The, I mean, matters 150. And I feel like you were so loved. I was so loved. And we bring that to our kids and we bring it to other people in our life. Like, I am that person that makes sure that everybody feels loved. And my kid, forget it. I, I, He. That's all I care about. It really is. At the end of the day, with my white trampoline and all that, I honestly only care if my kids happy. And it makes me. Nothing makes me more happy than when people recently have told me, you, you make me want to have your kid. Makes me want to have another kid. [01:05:30] Speaker B: Yeah. [01:05:30] Speaker A: That makes me feel like, okay, so all my issues that are in me are not coming out. That's all I want. I don't care what I go through. [01:05:38] Speaker B: Yep. I mean, it's really all that matters is belly laughs, couch cuddles. [01:05:43] Speaker A: Yes. [01:05:44] Speaker B: And the time you spend with your kids. Yeah. Someone once said to me, your presence is more important than the presence. [01:05:51] Speaker A: Your presence is a present. [01:05:53] Speaker B: Yeah. [01:05:53] Speaker A: Kiss my ass. [01:05:54] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. Mom confessions. [01:05:59] Speaker A: Let's do it. We have the best mom confession. So just to reiterate, every week we're doing some mob confessions. We put out a whole splurge of like, hey, if you have a mom confession, we'll keep it anonymous. But we want to laugh. We want to know your deepest, darkest mom confession. That you probably didn't tell anybody yet, but we would love to hear it and we're going to air it on our show. [01:06:17] Speaker B: Okay. I took them from my phone because I didn't have my phone, so I wrote them here. [01:06:20] Speaker A: That's fine. [01:06:20] Speaker B: All right. I've googled can you die from sleep depression deprivation. I think it is so much easier when I mom with my mom than my husband. Oh, I've wiped my kid's face with the same sock that I was wearing. [01:06:40] Speaker A: That's something. [01:06:41] Speaker B: Sometimes I rewrap old birthday presents from my kids room when we are invited to a party. [01:06:47] Speaker A: All right. [01:06:48] Speaker B: I've asked the kids to clean up the dog poop in the backyard and they literally did it with their hands. How does that make you. [01:06:56] Speaker A: That makes me want to die. And I know that's not you because you don't have a dog. Who the did that? [01:07:01] Speaker B: I tell my daughter I put ice cream in her smoothies for her to drink them. [01:07:05] Speaker A: What a cute parrot. One time I flung a toy out the window while driving because of my two kids were fighting over it and the oldest, she was five, screamed at me that I do everything wrong. I drink, I curse, I litter. Also, one of the mother's day notes in preschool wrote my mom's favorite drink was special soda. [01:07:25] Speaker B: I love that my kids know to ask before they drink. Out of my family, mommy drink or not, I'm like, thank you for asking. I appreciate that a lot. Yeah, you can drink it. It's water today. [01:07:37] Speaker A: I love it. Well, as always, you could find us on YouTube. You could find us on Instagram, follow Instagram, Follow. Tick Tock subscribes. Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Throw us a, like, throw us a follow on all the socials. I'm hungry. I gotta go. Let's. Let's do it. [01:07:56] Speaker B: Let's do it. [01:07:57] Speaker A: Cheers. [01:07:58] Speaker B: I'm so hungry I could eat.